So i won’t go in to too much detail about other things, as it will just make it an even longer post.
Over the time that DC has stayed with their father, their routine is different at bed time, or more so totally out the window.
I know they say everyone has their way. But still nothing wrong in having a certain time where screens are off, gap and wash and in bed. Ex doesn’t encourage DC to read his school books to him, which we do at bedtime here.
There have been a few times where my DC has sent something from his phone he has there, like a funny pic or football logo thing etc.
So I have then been aware of the time and been livid.
So it then makes me think that they must still be up on other occasions.
In many ways ex is irresponsible to me anyway.
So lastnight, as DC goes Fridays, my DC texts me a football thing. I then replied very nice but you should be asleep.
I text my ex why is DC still up. Phone should be out of use by a certain time before sleep.
Ex says oh DC wanted to watch the football, now I assume he means indoors, because they have watched it in the pub until 9, and gone home, so would answer in the past, why they are still up, if carried on watching at home or then over tired and still up. DC is 7 by the way.
So I said this is just irresponsible to me, so who is the parent.
Especially when there has been school all week.
He could have just said you can see the highlights tomorrow. That’s what I do here. And remind DC because they will be getting ready for bed.
Here there is usually 1hr at least without screen before bed.
I said although I knew other stuff from previous times. Although he says some weekends DC slept at 9. This kind of behaviour and then if they are out and about during the day, is why DC comes home really tired on many occasions. Which can be difficult for both of us then, as most of us know what it’s like when kids are over tired, it can make things harder. Then Monday morning is a struggle.
I have been shocked and disgusted at how many posts I have seen online about other mothers saying similar things. Or some just saying we’ll just talk to the other parent, doesn’t work obviously. Plus parts I’m sure they don’t care about and even to get to me.
And others saying to just child to bed on time when they return/bit earlier if possible.
Of course in the moment it helps but not really the answer.