Not to go on holiday due to DH snoring

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I will be 20 weeks pregnant and my husband snores, especially when he has a drink. We sleep at separate bedrooms at home as we both have different routines and he suffers from insomnia so decided it will just be easier for both of us. I didn't book 2 rooms just to save some money but asked for twin beds.

However, we are in a hotel now for an event taking place today. He had few glasses to drink and only was really snoring when accidentally rolled on his back. But it wound me up and I might have got 2 hours of sleep only. We need to be up in 30min.

I am dreading that this is how I will end up during our holiday. I checked second room and I can't really afford the price (the holiday is in just over a week). I am not really sure what options do I have apart from staying at home. We can't cancel the holiday now, it won't be refunded. I just don't want to spend a week without sleep.

Ask him not to drink?

If he snores mainly when on his back, a simple solution for the week is to get an old pair of tights and a tennis ball. Put the tennis ball inside the tights. When he goes to sleep, he ties the tights around his waist so the tennis ball is on his back. It will prevent him sleeping on his back.

Sounds a bit silly but my ex had the same problem and his sleep consultant said you can buy a contraption that does the same thing, or just use a tennis ball and tights!

He really should see someone about the snoring when you're back from holiday though. It can most likely be addressed.

@FuglyBitch - unfortunately he won't do this. There's no point asking him.

@BoxOfCats - it's mainly his back. He usually does it when tired or when had few drinks. It does happen randomly as well but less frequent under other circumstances.

I like the tennis ball idea. I am not prepared to spend a week without sleep. Tbh, I would love to have a week for myself too but given it wasn't cheap holiday I feel bad for having to miss it.

Noise cancelling ear plugs? Or white noise through airpods if you have them?

@mjf981 - I already use earplugs and have and eye mask thing with built in speakers for exactly that reason. The only thing I haven't tried is proper sound cancelling headset. It wouldn't be comfortable but might help a bit more. Tbh, I think I might be just over sensitive sleeper as well.

We have a similar problem here - also separate rooms.

He has quite good success with nose strips if we’re away. Doesn’t stop it entirely, but it is significantly
improved and if you combine with you wearing ear plugs, should be enough to be able to enjoy the holiday.

Have you tried loops? I use the loops sleep and they are comfortable to wear and great at blocking noise.

My DP finishes work late and at this time of year the birds in the morning kept him awake, he can’t hear them at all now.

We have awful neighbours who make a lot of noise including late at night and early in the morning, I wear them to block out their noise and it works.

We both joked that with both of us wearing them that we wouldn’t know if either of us snores 😂.
The only issue we have now is we don’t hear the cat when he hears the “call of the wild” and has to go out that instant. The cat now jumps on me and paws at me, I don’t think you’ll be taking a cat on holiday so it’s worth giving them a try?!

I have this issue with my DH. We have kids so he sleeps with one of them on holiday. The scoffing wakes me from the next room! I have these good silicone earplugs which reduce the noise too.

Personally I would do all the suggestions here but mostly asking him not to drink. Can your DH drink say only twice per week on the holiday? If he's not willing to do that for his pregnant wife then you have a bigger problem than snoring, and he has a problem with alcohol.

DH uses nasal strips from Boots. I was very cynical but they do significantly improve his snoring.

@PrincessOfPreschool - that's a very fair point. I obviously want him to enjoy himself and would have few drinks myself if wasn't pregnant. We had holidays last summer where I asked him not to drink and he wasn't very happy but ultimately agreed with it. The problem is it is all inclusive resort but it shouldn't make a difference. I do think his relationship with alcohol can be complicated but that's a different matter altogether and something I need to think through especially with a baby on the go.

I think from now on onwards will book separate rooms only.

@Persianpaws - thankfully DH sleeps with his door open so cat wakes up him when starts dieing of hunger at 4AM. But as you said it is pretty instant and urgent and can't wait. DH pretends he's dead not to get out cat in the habit. Sometimes it does work but not always

I have loop headset but it's not noise cancelling at all (it says it is, but I used to use it for running when outside as it still allows to hear the traffic)

I have just started loop sleep earplugs for my DP snoring, well probably just loud breathing as I'm menopausal haha
Seems to work OK but maybe this is very loud? Noise cancelling may help with some sounds playing?
For now as you're away how about playing a sleep app sound eg rain or something loudly to drown it out?

Dp was the same until I told himI was leaving. I meant it too. I could hear him in a separate room and was sick of every holiday being ruined. He has sleep apnea and a cpap machine now. It is very important that sleep apnea is treated as it impacts life expectancy and general health.

Next time book a 2 bedrooms Air BnB

I have booked a suite and we took turns sleeping on the pull out sofa when we couldn’t afford two hotel rooms.

I would book 2 AirBnBs in 2 separate countries. That should do it

These are amazing . Well worth a try.
I use them all the time for snoring noise and sleep so much better now.

Photo not showing for some reason — they’re Boots soft disposable foam ear plugs

Then THAT’S your problem

I’m the snorer and I feel terrible so I’m the one trying to sort it. Have bought mouth guards, sprays, nose strips etc. What is HE doing to try and help the situation?

I use foam earplugs OP. They block out all of the sound for me if it’s light/moderate snoring. Some sound still gets through if it’s particularly loud, but I can usually still get off to sleep as it’s not so unbearably intrusive!

Airbnb with two rooms is the way to go in the future

Mouth taping has been an absolute game changer for us! Respire strips in particular, he wears them every night without an issue and he’s silent now

Previously on bad nights I’d have to wear Happy Ears earplugs, play white noise (sometimes the volume of it would wake him up - and the noise wouldn’t even be drowning out the snoring so he knew it was bad), and I’d end feel really irritated and overstimulated.

Other mouth taping might work, but we tried it before with tape and that didn’t, so worth giving the proper stuff a go

I feel your pain. We have separate rooms as my DH snores terribly. At present we are on holiday and he’s snoring on the lounger and I want to throttle him!!!