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1234a12 · 15/05/2025 20:10

Hi everyone

Just a quick question. I have always been a bit negative about my body feel like i am too big(size 14 for reference and 5'7) my husband knows this and i have recently lost 2 stone. He said before he didnt find me attractive when i was heavier which was fine.

The problem is now i feel a lot better about how i look and when we went to have sex he covered me with a towel. Am i over reacting to this or does that seem like a really bad thing to do like he didnt want to see my body at all?? 😔

Please help

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SoManyTshirts · 15/05/2025 20:13

Did he give a reason for covering you up?

If I thought my partner was covering up my body so he couldn’t see it sex would be right out of the question.

Nothanks17 · 15/05/2025 20:14

What the actual fuck, that is so strange. Did he say why? Is it a weird like catch the elements sort of thing?

And the fact he said he didn't find you attractive at a size 14? Thats ridiculous.

You are great, tell yourself that, strut your stuff and be kind to yourself. He should be ashamed of himself

Don't change yourself for him, do anything for yourself

Tandora · 15/05/2025 20:16

Did you ask him what he was doing and why?

Swifey40 · 15/05/2025 20:16

What a prick!! Unbelievable! There is no way you should have had see with him then, or ever in the future. Find yourself a good solicitor and ltb

BlueEyedBogWitch · 15/05/2025 20:18

I’d be covering him with a patio, not a towel.

BakelikeBertha · 15/05/2025 20:19

Sorry OP, but I wouldn't be at all happy with that, especially after you've lost weight too. In saying that, I hope you only lost the weight for you, and not because of anything he said. I think you're going to have to ask him what the towel was all about, but it sounds really weird to me.

SaintAgatha · 15/05/2025 20:20

Oooft, that’s pretty bad. I would not be happy with that. Why did he say he’d done it?

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1234a12 · 15/05/2025 20:20

He said i like to see a little bit of you like you are wearing a skirt

God it does sound bad when i say it back

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Aria2015 · 15/05/2025 20:21

What do you mean covered you with a towel? Like literally threw a towel over just you? Or was he covering both of you with it? Using it like a blanket? How confident is he about his own body? Just trying to determine if it was more about his own insecurities than you.

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1234a12 · 15/05/2025 20:23

No just covered me with it. He was behind me sorry thats probably too much info lol

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BCBird · 15/05/2025 20:23

This would not sit well with me at all OP. I would have wanted to ram it down his throat.

BCBird · 15/05/2025 20:25

Put it on ur back? Why not ask if you mind wearing some for of skirt beforehand? Perhaps he gets off with idea of it seeming spontaneous in that you still ' dressed'? Discussion out of the bedroom is needed

SUPerSaver721 · 15/05/2025 20:25

Do you mean he had you from behind and put the towel over you like a skirt? Was he pretending he was taking you from behind like he had just lifted the skirt up. Like role play?

MissHollysDolly · 15/05/2025 20:25

The only time your partner should cover you during sex is if you’re a little bit chilly. Otherwise, ick.

BCBird · 15/05/2025 20:30

Think the initial post reads leads reader to believe he wanted to cover your body, as in the front view. The explanation of it looking like a skirt when he can see u from.behind is definitely less sinister.

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1234a12 · 15/05/2025 20:30

Yea i do know he likes the idea of me being partial dressed which i am all for doing but i was fully naked so i felt really odd that he covered me fully with the towel definitely made me feel like he didnt want to see me naked

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crackers5 · 15/05/2025 20:34

BlueEyedBogWitch · 15/05/2025 20:18

I’d be covering him with a patio, not a towel.

😂

arcticpandas · 15/05/2025 20:36

Really weird. Tell him how you interpreted this and hear him out calmly.

Smoronic · 15/05/2025 20:38

I'd be sewing together 3 bathsheets and lobbing I over him at the breakfast table and explaining I didn't want to see him.

NancyGreens · 15/05/2025 20:42

I'm sure it was the skirt / partially dressed thing and not that he wanted to cover you up and surely not related to your weight if you've just lost some weight. But maybe talk to him about it. Don't internalise the issue and think badly of yourself

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1234a12 · 15/05/2025 20:43

NancyGreens · 15/05/2025 20:42

I'm sure it was the skirt / partially dressed thing and not that he wanted to cover you up and surely not related to your weight if you've just lost some weight. But maybe talk to him about it. Don't internalise the issue and think badly of yourself

Yea i am probably reading too much into it

Thanks everyone

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MaggieBsBoat · 15/05/2025 20:45

I think you are overthinking it OP. If you’ve lost weight and he is into the partially dressed thing (which I do understand) then it sounds just like that. Not that he wasn’t wanting to see you.

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 16/05/2025 00:36

sounds odd but people have their kinks. It could be what PP said and he wanted you partially dressed. If it happens again then speak to him about why he’s doing it. You should be proud of your weight loss, well done

GravyBoots · 16/05/2025 01:23

Initially I was horrified on your behalf but after reading your update I can kind of understand. I guess it's mini skirt, no knickers, glimpse of bum sort of thing rather than covering you up because he doesn't find you attractive.

Get yourself some bedroom outfits @1234a12 - you'll probably feel sexier too rather than having a towel slung over your bum 🤣

Well done on your weightloss!

Agix · 16/05/2025 05:55

Oh my god, no wonder people end up staying with shitty men who don't respect or love them if it's this easy for women to explain horrible things away.

Even if he has a kink, covering up your naked body in the middle of sex is horrible. If he thought for 2 seconds about it, he'd know it was likely to offend you without prior discussion (assuming it is just about a kink) - so he either did it anyway, or didn't think enough to consider your feelings about being covered the fuck up. During sex.

If it was a kink, why didn't he ask you to wear a skirt? Why chuck a towel on you whilst you're already naked? I don't think you should be talking yourself down from this one.

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