To be curious about how many times women have been proposed to or engaged?

[WiseGreyOtter]

I find it so interesting hearing about women’s past experiences, especially when it comes to proposals or engagements. Some people are only proposed to once, while others have different stories.

How many times has it happened for you and what’s the story behind it?

I've had 12 marriage proposals( most drunken) and I never wanted to get married so I didn't and I'm still single, marriage to me is about being shackled and it's not for me, maybe men feel women want to be asked,

None. Never been asked. Never been engaged or married.

The numbers on this thread are pretty boring. What is fascinating though and what I wish the thread was about is the stories from those who have turned down proposals.

Proposals 0.5!
Engaged 0
Married 1

XH didn’t propose, we talked about marriage and said we’d both like to. He said he’d find a nice time to ‘propose properly’ then every time we went on holiday or on a trip I’d be thinking “this is it!” But it never was. (I say never, it was only about 6 months ). So I ran out of patience waiting and said I don’t need a ring, let’s just book the wedding. So we did!

Married about 12 years and divorced with 3 young DCs.

Met XP and was with him (on and off) for 10 years. One night he did propose jn bed, he knelt down by the bed, got a ring I already owned from my drawer and put it on for me. It was perfect.

The next day he told friends at work that he’d proposed and that he’d bought the ring especially/planned it etc. When I questioned why he’d lied he said he didn’t want them to think it was a rubbish proposal. So essentially he wanted them to have a ‘better’ engagement story than me! We had so many issues anyway, and he would say “why would I want to marry THAT?!” during arguments, so luckily we never got round to marrying.

Current DP has been married twice and is keen to marry again. He’s essentially Ross Geller His proposal story from his last marriage was so beautiful and now he’s under pressure to make the next one just as perfect!

Three engagements - two marriages. Ironically the one I didn't marry is probably the one should have married. Cest la vie! I'm now twice divorced.

What a strange thing to be curious about

I've been married three times, and turned down two proposals

None. No proposals, no engagements and no marriages.

Once. Still happily married to him.

1 proposal, 1 engagement, married for 26 years.

Engaged 4 times, married 3 times. Soon to be divorced for 3rd time.
1st marriage 1 year. Abusive
2nd marriage 11 years but only together for 7 years. Mentally abusive cheater
3rd marriage 25 years apart properly the last 4. Narcissist & cheater.

Technically twice by current DP but I don’t think either time really counts…

1 - Sat on the sofa watching rubbish on tv. DP ‘Let’s get married’ Me ‘Er, let’s not!’ No ring, no planning. Initially assumed he was just joking, apparently he wasnt

2 - Both my sisters and my niece got engaged within a couple of months of each other. We’re stood in the kitchen after finding out about the 3rd and DP says ‘Do you think we should do it now?’ Another no from me.

I absolutely can see us getting engaged/married one day but we’re both 40ish, been together nearly 5 yrs, no plans for any DC together (I have 1 DS not at home) so I don’t see any rush, we’re happy as we are and have so many other things to spend our money on

Depends on your definition I guess technically I've been proposed too as we have a civil partnership but it was more of a we wouldn't have to keep doing this paperwork if we had a civil partnership, is it time we just did it?
8 weeks later we were "married"

None. I am married but that was my suggestion.

4 engagements / proposals
2 marriages

Like Super scientist said, the marriage was mostly to save on paperwork