To be curious about how many times women have been proposed to or engaged?

[WiseGreyOtter]

I find it so interesting hearing about women’s past experiences, especially when it comes to proposals or engagements. Some people are only proposed to once, while others have different stories.

How many times has it happened for you and what’s the story behind it?

6 I think. If memory serves. Maybe more. Involved big rings which i regret not keeping!

Proposed to three times (at 17, 22 and 26) and got engaged to one of them (when I was 26). Married now but we didn't get engaged and we just decided to get married for legal reasons.

2 proposals, 0 engagements/marriages. Both nice guys but they weren’t right for me. I choose freedom!

Proposed to and engaged twice. First time I wasn't sure, the guy was nice but it didn't feel right and I was way too young. Second time was my now husband who proposed on Christmas day and we have been married for 25 years now.

3 proposals, married once.

Three proposals.

Two engagements. I ended one just before the wedding. It didn’t feel right.

One wedding.

How many did you say yes to/actually marry?

None. Married once, still married.

Three times - never been married.
I have a lovely ring from DP and and also a ‘maternity’ ring (rather than an eternity!) some kids, a house and a very shared life.
We have discussed getting married to ensure we can turn each other off if ever on life support (we used want to turn each other on)and might get round to one day.

Two engagements. First to a man who I loved very much but he broke my heart (decided to tell me on the day I had an abortion at his insistence that he'd been cheating on me for six months). Second time to my DH. No romantic proposal. We were talking about marriage generally and he said so do you want to get married then? He did tbf buy me a gorgeous engagement ring later though.

4 proposals, 3 engagements, 2 marriages, 1 divorce

no 1: first serious bf, popped the question when I was 20. He started paying for a ring but I called it off before it got as far as my finger. I realised how big the world was and how huge my opportunities were and he wanted us to live with his mum.

no 2: Uni bf. Together from 22-30. Got engaged at 26, married at 27. I left him when it was clear that we’d grown at different paces during our 20s and we didn’t want the same things any more.

no 3: Mad OLD experience when I was about 34. 2nd date. Told bar staff who sent champagne and then he got on one knee. My response was Fuck No. Found out later that he was a bigamist

no 4: now DH, been together 20 years, kids, house, dog, careers, interesting lives, very happy.

I have been married 3 times (twice in my 20s, my second marriage was abusive, now very happily married in my very late 40s after many years of therapy); I have been engaged to 2 other people that I didn't marry... 1 proposal that I didn't accept. Only one set of children though.

Very hard for most people to believe because I'm quite an ordinary looking and quirky (often odd) person.

No real proposals until DH, talk of marriage but nothing concrete. He proposed because when he gave me an engagement ring I said he was supposed to say something; we had decided many years before that we were getting married but hadn't got round to it. One wedding. We won't divorce.

Once, kind of. When I was 19 my ex said we would get married and gave me a cheap but pretty ring from the crystal shop. There was no way we would have actually got married though. We were kids and had no money or actual future plans. He had a lot of big ideas but never followed them through. I even knew back then he wasn’t someone I wanted to be with long term. I just went along with it at the time.

13 engagements and 7 weddings.

Hope the article goes well.

One proposal, one marriage. However, although I definitely don’t intend to get divorced (!), I am in my 30s, so age is potentially an important factor to consider when comparing. More time on earth = more life experience.

Twice. Married both. Divorced both. I never learn … both from homes where dad ran off with someone and mum made life very difficult for contact due to bitterness. Both love bombed me and made me feel like I was the only person in the world that understood their pain. Both had cheated on partners in the past … hadn’t been married though.

Both narcissists that ruined my life for a time. They even looked similar which is weird as not my usual type!

one on their 3rd marriage and one on their fourth!

Proposed to by 4 exes, always said no, so never engaged and never been married!

Five proposals.
Never married.
Single for many years.

Seven proposals and rings. Gave the rings back, btw! Accepted three. Married and divorced twice.

Zero proposals, engagements or marriages. No LTRs either, for that matter.

None. I am married.

Twice and a promise ring …

None too. I’ve never had any desire to get married and luckily I’ve never had a partner who wanted to propose and respected it.

One marriage
Two engagements
Three other men who wanted to marry me, to the extent of discussing marriage with me... but one of them was basically after a business arrangement 😮