Neighbours coming back late every night and get up 5.30am

[Motheroffive999]

I have posted about them before , detached houses.
We go to bed at 10.30 pm .I know they come back around 11pm , slam the car doors about 8 times , shout about their evening in the front garden , slam their gates , go in the house .They always forget something and go back to the car , shout at each other once more , slam the front door .Then 30 minutes later they drive to the shop on the corner 8 houses down and then the same routine , slam the doors several times, shout , so now it's midnight and I can't sleep.
Tomorrow morning 5.45 am a repeat of the night before.
I have ear plugs , I know I am grumpy but it's just so inconsiderate.
Weekends they are up early shouting in the back garden so I can't switch rooms .
I know when the son has done a poo because he shouts to his mother who is in the summer house at the end of the garden.
I actually got a friend to listen as despite the houses being detached I can hear the youngest child running on the stairs. She thought I was crazy so I made her listen and I am not mistaken.
I did ask them to be a little quieter after my last post but they laughed.

I'd put a note through the door about the car door slamming and shouting. That's Out of order.

Wouldn't mention the pooing child or stairs running - that takes you from rightfully annoyed neighbour, to stalky weirdo who's hearing things.

Actually, if they're both out at midnight- wheres the loud pooing, stair running child?

You need to move to an house in the middle of nowhere,

Next time the kid announces a successful defecation, shout your congratulations over the fence.

There are several generations in the household so lots of people for childcare .

That's actually a good idea!

@Motheroffive999 I don't know what to say. I'm really sorry you're going through this. I'm constantly amazed how noisy people are.

I used to dream of living in a house but these days everyone is so fucking noisy, I don't know how much difference it makes. I suppose at least there's more rooms to escape to.

I guess one approach would be to be friends with them. Then you could introduce the topic a bit more gradually and see if they change. They might even just lower their volume a bit if they like you.

Oh we have a door slammer. Usually around 1am and they seem to open each car door then slam them
I’ve never heard anyone shut a car door like it

Oh, I will join - my neighbour loves slamming doors, no matter what time it is.

It all sounds very tiresome, and you have my sympathies. Shouting and door slamming late t night is inconsiderate, plain and simple. But how on earth can you hear someone running up the stairs next door if you are in detached houses? I’ve lived in flats where you couldn’t hear anyone running up stairs!!

I guess the houses could be close together? I mean my neighbour has had to remove all photos from the wall adjoining the car door slammers house as they just come off the wall or rattle because of all the banging
some people are just SO fucking loud

these houses have fire doors and if you let go, they slam. Most of us realised this within a day but some people still let go of them constantly. It makes my bathroom cabinet fly open!

They don't get much sleep, do they?

That would annoy me too. How new are your windows? Is it worth replacing the bedroom one at least? You shouldn’t have to go to expense, but they likely won’t change. Triple glazing cut the noise from my Mum’s neighbour washing his car listening to the bloody Venga Boys on full blast every Sunday morning.

How the bloody hell are they sleeping if they aren’t getting home until midnight and then getting up at 5:45 consistently plus getting up early at weekends? I’d be absolutely shattered. Unless you’re hearing different people who live there each time.

I think you need to be firmer with them rather than just ask them to be less noisy, say what you’ve said here and that you are getting no sleep and can they stop shouting and slamming doors late at night and early morning.

I wouldn’t mention the child making noise, that’s not unreasonable. I suspect that’s just grating because it’s on top of all the other noise that’s affecting your sleep.

I don't think there's any point asking again.

I think you have to work on trying to sleep through it. People can learn to sleep through quite disturbing noises - train lines and airports for example.

I'd try white noise perhaps, to mask it.

You need better ear plugs and white noise in the background.
Slam some doors and roar yourself at 5.30

I sympathise.

I live in a one way in and out street. It’s one of those that’s one street but has a few cul de sac type roads in it iyswim?

my neighbour behind me runs a recovery truck business. He’s often out in the night. Then returns and the beep beep BBBEEEPPP of his lorry reversing can be heard. If there’s no spaces you get it constantly why he turns around (so at front and then back of house) and goes and parks at the road entrance (on the double yellows).

He often parks at the space behind my drive on a bend. So then I have 2m of flat bed sticking past the dropped curb that I need to navigate at 4.30am when I leave the house after he’s woken me up int the night parking there. (Made even more challenging now council don’t switch the lights on until 5am instead of 4am)

I know it’s a public road and he’s doing nothing wrong - and I’d never say something - but it does annoy me. (Probably a bit more because he’s brought a property in one of the cul de sac areas so cannot park it outside his own garage in this off road space!

It can be done. When I moved in here I was constantly woken up by the nesting seagulls from 4am in the summer. At some point over the last eighteen years I learnt to sleep through it. I used to have a fan on for the white noise but don't need to bother anymore.

Oh gosh i hate noisy neighbours. Me and my husband bought our first terraced house years ago and thr neighbour down from us had sound proofing so never heard a peep unless we were parked in 'his' space and then I'd hear him muttering under his breath outside our front room window and the house on the opposite side would play ill stand by you by girls aloud every Saturday night on repeat. We named her plastic tits as she had boobs as big as the sun. Not that that's relevant 🤣

Anyway our second house we bought in a secluded area away from everyone. Apart from a few rumbles of big artic lorries on a nearby road we don't hear a peep. Its bliss. Although I do miss curtain twitching and seeing people walking by

The problem with loud people is that they are by nature inconsiderate and it’s not worth talking to them. Like the knobs who play phone videos out loud on public transport.
I live in a flat so hear my neighbours constantly as they are shouters and have children, but it’s quiet between 8pm and 7am so I don’t really mind.
Bas I don’t have an answer, but you do have my sympathy OP xx

I feel your pain OP.

We have noisy feckers over the road from us. A nice, quiet cul-de-sac until 4.30am when said neighbour's mates all rock up in their cars. Cue doors and boots slamming shut, shouting, cars being moved around, then they all pile into one car and disappear off to work.

Absolutely no thought for anyone else they frequently disturb. Inconsiderate barstewards! 🤬

Same people , just seem to live on coffee and cigarettes and look very tired.

We must live in the same road.

Thank you , I am a right grumpy at work today.

Can you also slam some doors and yell about your bowel movements to show how the sound is travelling?

"DAVE! DAVE! DAVE! I'VE DONE A SHIT, DAVE!"

If they have ignored / laughed at you when spoken to them then I would (if you can ) start doing the same.

Once you think they are in bed all quiet, slam your car doors (if you have one) then your house doors.

Then get up a bit earlier than their usual time and do the same. Obviously you will be tired but I would try it a few times see what /if they complain.