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Neighbours coming back late every night and get up 5.30am

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Motheroffive999 · 15/05/2025 00:05

I have posted about them before , detached houses.
We go to bed at 10.30 pm .I know they come back around 11pm , slam the car doors about 8 times , shout about their evening in the front garden , slam their gates , go in the house .They always forget something and go back to the car , shout at each other once more , slam the front door .Then 30 minutes later they drive to the shop on the corner 8 houses down and then the same routine , slam the doors several times, shout , so now it's midnight and I can't sleep.
Tomorrow morning 5.45 am a repeat of the night before.
I have ear plugs , I know I am grumpy but it's just so inconsiderate.
Weekends they are up early shouting in the back garden so I can't switch rooms .
I know when the son has done a poo because he shouts to his mother who is in the summer house at the end of the garden.
I actually got a friend to listen as despite the houses being detached I can hear the youngest child running on the stairs. She thought I was crazy so I made her listen and I am not mistaken.
I did ask them to be a little quieter after my last post but they laughed.

OP posts:
GoodCharl · 15/05/2025 16:08

I think you’re just going to have to sell up. They sound like an active and busy household, they dont have silence like you must have to listen to hear you in your house. Im not surprised they laughed at you. it is extremely odd you can hear so much given youre detatched!

Rewis · 15/05/2025 16:11

Motheroffive999 · 15/05/2025 15:44

Same people , just seem to live on coffee and cigarettes and look very tired.

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Sound like my bfs neighbours. 4am smoking and chatting on the phone in the garden
Off to work at 7am with a motorcycle that never starts on the first try.

dcsp · 15/05/2025 16:22

I would say:

  • YABU to be annoyed by a bit of noise at 11pm if you've not said anything. 11pm isn't late, so they could reasonable expect everyone to still be up at that time and therefore not need to make any effort to be quiet.
  • YANBU to ask them nicely if they could make a bit of an effort to be quiet when coming in at that time
  • YANBU to be annoyed if, having been asked to be quieter, they're still noisy
BestDIL · 15/05/2025 16:33

Oxo01 · 15/05/2025 16:03

If they have ignored / laughed at you when spoken to them then I would (if you can ) start doing the same.

Once you think they are in bed all quiet, slam your car doors (if you have one) then your house doors.

Then get up a bit earlier than their usual time and do the same. Obviously you will be tired but I would try it a few times see what /if they complain.

This 👆 100%

Botanybaby · 15/05/2025 16:45

Our neighbour is like this especially if she's coming home from the pub she makes a right holy show and a riot on the street then who where dropped her off beeps their horn as they drive off at 1am
But woe betide anyone who disturbs them

Botanybaby · 15/05/2025 16:47

dcsp · 15/05/2025 16:22

I would say:

  • YABU to be annoyed by a bit of noise at 11pm if you've not said anything. 11pm isn't late, so they could reasonable expect everyone to still be up at that time and therefore not need to make any effort to be quiet.
  • YANBU to ask them nicely if they could make a bit of an effort to be quiet when coming in at that time
  • YANBU to be annoyed if, having been asked to be quieter, they're still noisy

11pm is pretty late especially if you have kids who are tucked up on bed sleeping

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