Would you attend a wedding if your spouse wasn’t invited?

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So, would you attend a wedding if your spouse wasn’t invited. Interested to hear people’s opinions as there’s a few threads on this recently and I love wedding drama

There are many reasons why a spouse might not be invited such as

• costs
• limited capacity
• at the bottom of the pecking order - might not have met the spouse or only met a few times and would rather invite another guest
• Might dislike spouse
• Might want the wedding to be a small intimate ceremony

is it normal to invite spouses? Is it considered rude if they are not invited? Would you be offended or not care? What about people that are in relationships but are not married? How long do people need to be dating for their OH to be invited?

YABU - No, I would not attend a wedding without a spouse being invited

YANBU- Yes, I would attend a wedding without spouse and don’t care they would not invited

Yes, no problem at all so long as I knew other people there

Like most - of course I would, (and have done) presuming I knew other people there.
So, as per the examples above - cousins in a big family not inviting spouses, but obviously you know all the family, or work colleagues. I've been to old friend from school's wedding without dh. dh has been to University friend without me.

Do you think each guest should have a plus one regardless of their relationship status?

No.

Isn't that the same question as above ?
I mean, I wouldn't invite someone to come on their own if they didn't know other people, but (as per the example above) when I went to my old school friend's wedding, I went with another school friend. Neither of our dh's were invited, which was quite understandable and quite a relief for dh . We had a lovely day. My dc have been 'on their own' to friends they were at University with's weddings, but, obviously they knew the other friends from that friendship group at University.
If there were someone I really wanted to invite, and they didn't know other people, I probably would offer a 'plus one' in that exceptional circumstance, but I can't imaging anyone being close enough to me that I wanted them to come to my wedding, not having spent lots of time over the years with either friends or family members.

Depends on how close I am to the bride/groom as to whether it’s ok not to invite spouse. If it was my sibling or best friend getting married then I’d expect my husband to be invited to the wedding as well. If it was a work colleague who I was friendly with at work but didn’t see outside of work then I wouldn’t be offended if I was invited but my husband wasn’t.

For the most part, I wouldn’t be even slightly bothered not to be invited, and neither would my wife.

That said, the only wedding likely to come up any time soon is if my nephews or niece get married. They lived with us when they were young, and see us regularly, so I would be surprised if they only invited their aunt (their mother is my wife’s sister) but I wouldn’t make a fuss.

I would go. I also wouldn't have an issue with dh attending a wedding that I was not invited to. In my experience its generally down to the couple having a very small, intimate ceremony or just wanting to keep costs down so not giving plus ones where they are not close to both of the couple- it's not personal.

Of course. I'm an individual and can't imagine refusing to go because of that.