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New job - already fed up with unhealthy ‘working lunches‘

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AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 18:25

I’ve been in my new job since February and in the main really enjoy it. However, we have monthly ‘planning meetings’ which so far are always scheduled to run through lunch (usually 11-3) and the bosses arrange for a lunch to be provided. Last month, it was a job lot of Greggs ‘beige’ - sausage rolls etc, and today it was stacks of dominoes which everyone could pile in to.

I haven’t said anything so far as I don’t want to appear ungrateful, and the majority of my colleagues seemed ecstatic with these choices, but as someone who is quite big on health and fitness, this is really irritating. We get a 5-10
minute break from this at most which isn’t enough time for me to do much more than go to the loo (big office with microwave facilities downstairs and always a queue over lunch).

Would you ask to get a longer break so I can have my own lunch? I’m just conscious this will delay the meeting for everyone else so very wary of asking.

OP posts:
ThejoyofNC · 13/05/2025 19:34

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

You clearly only support slim women and not porkers who eat carbs.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/05/2025 19:35

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:34

Eh? Where was that?

Your deleted comment

StarStay · 13/05/2025 19:35

This can't be real 😂

Sofiewoo · 13/05/2025 19:35

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

Nothing about your posts suggests got support other women…

Butchyrestingface · 13/05/2025 19:35

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

Chin up, old chap.

I doubt the evidence of your shame will even be here in an hour's time.

Zone2NorthLondon · 13/05/2025 19:35

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

Loook at you Little Miss Goady, trying to get a reaction. Slim✅ successful✅ but cannot problem solve a lunch conundrum

BTW, My work order food me for me specifically at events to meet my dietary requirements inc oat milk. Because I’m worth it

Devonshiregal · 13/05/2025 19:36

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:25

As I said, I’m barely in the role having been head hunted late last year and no one likes someone who has just come in and starts dictating things, regardless of their salary.

No one likes someone who looks down on others.

TheBossOfMe · 13/05/2025 19:36

Hot food brought from home in a flask that keeps it hot. That's what I do when it's cold. But I can't quite understand why hot is better than cold for your diet, perfectly possible to eat to macros with cold food!

RedPandaClaws · 13/05/2025 19:36

RedPandaClaws · 13/05/2025 19:24

Boom, I've just solved your problem for you OP.

heatsbox.com/

This is surely the answer?!

No need to continue the thread I solved the OPs problem 10 mins ago!

Netcam · 13/05/2025 19:36

OMGitsnotgood · 13/05/2025 18:29

Take a salad in a cool bag. It’s not really that difficult

That's what I do.

SabreToothTigerLily · 13/05/2025 19:36

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Magpiepie · 13/05/2025 19:36

RareGoalsVerge · 13/05/2025 18:29

I'd be taking in a box of salad. This isn't rocket science.

Ha ha, other leafy salad items are available!

Megifer · 13/05/2025 19:36

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:25

As I said, I’m barely in the role having been head hunted late last year and no one likes someone who has just come in and starts dictating things, regardless of their salary.

Headhunted 😂😂😂

People who are actually headhunted, the true meaning not just had a recruiter say they came across your profile on LinkedIn can usually ask for whatever they want given the recruitment fee paid and the fact the employer specifically requested you.

I get it op, I often like to daydream too 🥰

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 13/05/2025 19:37

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

It isn't the fact that you're slim or successful that people are reacting against.

sweetsandsour · 13/05/2025 19:37

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

We were all wondering the same OP with your pizza eating /fat shaming/even my colleagues prefer larger ladies vitriol.
Slim means nothing other than being slim. 6 figure salary doesn’t define success.

You’ve dug yourself into a hole though luckily for you it’s only a small one as you’re so tiny.

luckylavender · 13/05/2025 19:37

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

We can only judge you on what you've written. You don't sound very supportive.

Azandme · 13/05/2025 19:37

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:31

Blimey, I knew MN’ers disliked successful women, but I underestimated the pure vitriol being slim and successful would result in!

Whatever happened to women supporting women? Xx

Oh op, it's nothing to do with you being slim and (allegedly) successful...

It's because you're a twat.

HTH.

Jaggy1 · 13/05/2025 19:37

I love it when I come across a successful woman, would applaud anyone for taking care of themselve.

You, however, are judgemental, rude, delusional and honestly rather dim for not being able to work it out yourself.

Thats why people dislike you here.

Hope you’ve got all the entertainment out this post that you so clearly wanted.

ZepherinDrouhin · 13/05/2025 19:38

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 18:57

Not at all, I like my colleagues, regardless of whether some are a bit on the podgier side!

@AliceSeal

Here is one of your fat shaming comments.

hangingonfordearlife1 · 13/05/2025 19:38

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 19:13

I’m in a six figure management role for a very recognisable company, thanks for your concern though hun x

Funnily enough so am I. Not sure our company owners have even heard of greggs. Us senior managers would have catering brought in for working lunches. Doesn’t really seem high end corporate to be given a few pizzas

Disturbia81 · 13/05/2025 19:38

Who the fuck grows out of pizza and sausage rolls!? Infact any food to be honest.

Over40Overdating · 13/05/2025 19:39

The horror of size 14/16 colleagues eating pizzas and sausage rolls!

I’d be on to your union. You can’t be expected to work like that.
Or bring a cold lunch from home. Or plan your meals around the day structure so you aren’t forced to eat the dreaded junk.

You should definitely tell them the set up that’s been in place longer than you have been there and clearly works for the majority of your colleagues needs to change so you can get your macros on point.

They likely won’t understand it, the macro dodging lard arses, but you are totally rational and not at all being awkward for the sake of it.

Out of curiosity, when your colleagues eat do they stuff, scarf, shove and pig out when it comes to food? Intolerable.

ZepherinDrouhin · 13/05/2025 19:39

AliceSeal · 13/05/2025 18:33

No, mostly middle aged and a mixed of genders believe it or not. Respectfully, the average size is probably 14/16+!

And another fat shaming comment

Megifer · 13/05/2025 19:39

StarStay · 13/05/2025 19:35

This can't be real 😂

Its not but fuck it, im pretending it is 😂😂

Hercisback1 · 13/05/2025 19:39

Where's your support for the beige loving fat women out there?

Seriously, you have a 6 figure role yet can't work out a way round this....