A good (or what I thought was a good) friend of mine has been ignoring me since January when she failed to reply to a message I sent her on Facebook. After about a week I messaged again to ask if she was OK and still no reply so I left it. She was active on Facebook so I knew she was OK and just blanking me. It hurt but as the months have gone on I've tried to put it out of my mind and move on.
A mutual male friend of ours, who is a very close friend of mine, advised me to let her go and that she's not a real friend if that's what she does.
So yesterdayhim and me and him were chatting on Facebook and he had recommend a good self help book to me which I said I'd seen and was going to buy. He said I probably won't buy it because I tend to not take advice from people. He was referring to some plans I'd made that day trying to suit two people at the same time which he's advised me not to do. I just thought he was going off on one about that and asked him what he meant about the book and why he doesn't think I'll buy it.
But then he told me about this mutual friend and said that she's ignoring me because I never took her advice. I was upset by this and just said true friends don't spit their dummy out if you don't always take their advice anyway. And he said she was just ridding herself of a problem.
I've seen him today and asked him what she's said to him. He said she said something to him via Facebook a while ago after we'd been both been away together for a week which was about three years ago now. We've always had fun and laughs together but on that holiday she was snappy with me for no reason. He said that she told him she'd gone away with me to try and help me and all I did was want to sit in coffee shops all the time and refused to do anything else! Yes we did have coffee, also instigated by her. And we did do other things. She also didn't want to do anything in the evenings but go straight to bed.
Just before we went away she met some other friends on holiday who are into getting drunk which I'm not and she did change towards me then,
My friend has said not to talk about and her move o and again said she's not worth it. I was moving on until he told me why she was ignoring me, he said I needed to know. Maybe I did but I am finding it very upsetting. I suffer from depression as it is.
As for me not taking her advice, she would change tactic anyway. Like she'd advised me about cooking and say batch cooking is the thing and the next minute she'd say she never does that and just eats what she fancies on the day. How can you take advice from people like that?
I have plenty of other friends who are on my wavelength and don't treat me like this but I can't stop this upsetting me.