Petty and pathetic things that wind you right up….

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I know this probably sounds petty, and I want to hear everyone else’s petty things that wind them up. AIBU is just for traffic and stories if anyone wants to join.

This evening, DH casually asked, “Can I borrow your phone?”

No reason given, so I handed it over (I have no secrets lol and he knows that).

He sat next to me and started tapping away, and when I asked what he was doing, he said he was returning a household item I’d bought that is not serving us well and is under warranty, but I hadn’t gotten round to sorting. I said, “No need, I’ll do it,” but he carried on.

And then, of course, literally 10 seconds later, a message I’d been waiting for and stewing over all weekend came in. I’d been quietly hoping for it, checking my phone constantly, which he knew and last night I said I’d given up all hope..

And instead of letting me have that moment, he looks up and blurts out, “X just messaged you!”

I thought he was joking and I know it’s not a big deal, but it felt like my little moment got taken away, and for no good reason. I would never have handed over my phone if I’d known what he was going to do. I was already on tenterhooks about it. I told him he’d ruined it for me, and he stormed off calling me pathetic.

He is not wrong but I was furious. lol.

In similar fashion and I know this sounds even more ridiculous but another story of similar ilk.

When Liam Payne died (I was a bit of an older One Direction fan back in the day and this was big news to me), I’d been up all night with our 2-week-old.

I avoid my phone while awake all hours because I try to get straight back to sleep. So hours later, when I finally stirred, it was way past the time DC1 wakes so DH was up and about I was still in a pitch black room, baby curled up beside me, DH walks in and just says, “Liam Payne died.” That was it. No warning, no space to wake up or take it in, just dropped in my lap before I’d even sat up.

It’s not about celebrities or messages. It’s about wanting to feel something on your own terms. To have a bit of control over how you experience things even just for a second.

I’m pathetic, I know but anyone else..?

Well he could be more caring but I think you’re overreacting. You can’t control the timing of these examples. Of course he’d tell you straight away that X had messaged you, he’d have been remiss not to.
You ignore your phone for hours and then put the blame on him when he happens to find out that somethings gone on. How do you expect to find any out yourself? You’re being silly and placing the blame on him when he hasn’t done anything wrong. You’d have found out sooner or later. You could have a word about lack of sensitivity but this is a bit on you. Keep your phone to yourself and check more often. That’s the only way to manage control over experiencing things. Even after being told things like this you can experience things in your own way.

Voice messages. It isn’t easier to send them, it means I have to listen to them, which isn’t always convenient.

Loath voice messages, especially when making plans. Just send a text to say where and when then don't have to decipher rambling!

Honestly, I don’t know what he’s done “wrong”?

And agree with @StevesLavaChicken... are you suggesting if you'd found out about LP 'first' you wouldn't have told him?

For those hating voice messages (which I equally loathe) WhatsApp now as a "transcribe" button for them, so you don't have to listen!!

What have voice messages to do with the OP? (Am I missing something).

OP you are being unreasonable. You partner didn't read the message jist told you it arrived. Your partner was just telling you Liam died. Not demanding he knew how you feel.

The actual question from the op was petty things that annoy you. Another poster commented that s/he hates voice notes.

Dear god!
He shouldn't read your messages, but telling you some pop star who you do not know is dead without preamble is nothing to get worked up about.
What did you want? For him to have drawn all the curtains in the house? To light some scented candles, put on Barber's Adagio for Strings, place a box of tissues nearby and break it to you via the medium of mime?

I find both these examples bizarre, particularly the first one: do you find getting a text message/WhatsApp is "ruined" if someone else sees it before you? Not relating to either of these, sorry.

I don’t think he even read the message? Just said “you got a message from x”.

Thank you! Didn’t know this!

Things that annoy me: people standing over me as I'm on my desktop computer.

I generally hate anyone standing behind me but that makes me want to turn round and push them away.

I've noticed it more in shop queues and at football grounds, people think if they are an inch behind the person in front the queue will go faster. Drives me mental.

I kind of know what you mean re liam Payne and significant news. My dp went to watch a film with his dad - his sister knew they were at the cinema. Ofcourse when the news came in that Michael Jackson had died she texted dp to tell him - he glanced at his phone during the cinema and saw the message on his screen. Ruined the film. Why text that then? Why not wait until a suitable moment?

I always time giving significant news so that it doesn’t cause too much disruption to the receiver - especially if they’re working or sleeping

people fussing over famous people annoy me/, when people start talking as if they know the famous person it makes no sense. I liken it to wanting to be friends with someone who doesn’t even know of your existence

Shoppers looking in the chiller cabinets and their trolley blocks the next 3 cabinets along.

dickheads ignoring the 20mph in towns and villages in Wales.

@windyroses that makes more sense!! I was having a brain fart. I even read the message a few time.

I bet someone comes on here to say 'posters who answer a questions without reading them properly'

What winds me up? My kids refusing to finish up a bottle of skimmed milk before opening a new semi-skimmed milk!

I think it would have been really really weird if he saw the message come up on your phone and didn’t mention it, especially since he knew you’d been waiting for it

This sounds so petty but there are 2 sensors to check in when you get to our station about 6ft apart .

If you use the first one , you block everyone else from getting to the second one .

1. No body else ever uses the 2nd one even when there is a queue .

1. I use the 2nd one if there is a queue and nobody ever says thank you

So so petty 😁

People who walk abreast hogging the pavement. So oblivious to the world around them.

So inconsiderate.

People (well the two in my gym) who do a circuit of the gym so go from say the running machine to weights and leave the running machine going whilst they do the weights.

always good to look in on oneself when irritated, think this irritates me because it’s breaking rules which I daren’t do and it’s inconsiderate as what if someone wants that running machine. That irks me because I’ve a tendency to be a people pleaser and that means other people’s needs are more important than mine.

Agreed. I'm annoyed with myself now for opening, perhaps, the most inane post I've read on here in a while.

Nothing but it wound her up. That's the point of the thread.

In the town we spent 5 months in over winter, our apartment overlooked the public car park. Long and narrow, so only two rows of spaces one on the left hand side, one on the right. A galley car park if you like 😂
The building lined up with the parking spaces, the bed was next to the long window and I would sit there applying my makeup and critique the drivers who could not park squarely in their lines - of which there were many! The standard of parking was horrendous and it would really wind me up - but it was addictive and I have ADHD so it got the dopamine going.