Ex refusing to use coparenting app now

[BookArt55]

We currently use Our Family Wizard, ex set it up a year ago, where i was given days to find the money because he refused to use email and WhatsApp. I found the money. Renewal is this month. Therefore i budgeted for the equivalent of the £9 a month that is needed, I have then paid for another year when i got paid at the end of April. Now with just over two weeks left until his subscription runs out he refuses to use the app saying he can't afford it (he earns more than double what I earn, I have a lives with order, he was abusive, i have to live with my mum while he is still in tbe jointly owned property).

He wants to go back to email, but when we used that prior to OFW he would send even more abusive messages than he does on the app, the app slowed him down and has lessened the tone of the messages as he can't delete them. The app has been and can be used in court to support my case which is why I think he won't use it anymore. The joint calendar and the ability to add a LOT of documents due to our kid's medical stuff is vital as it has unlimited storage is the most useful part wjth out kids. He is also known to say i didn't send him or inform him of stuff and the OFW app proves the date I added it and that he has seen it. The messages have a little red chart to help me record my messages to make me rethink how to words things in a better way.

OFW has been a godsend for me.

Am I unreasonable to say i will ONLY communicate with him on the Our Family Wizard app? Especially given i have paid, the safety net it provides me and we have been using it a year.

Or do i have to change back to email?

Unfortunately I didn't get this in the court order as he hadn't raised any issue with the app itself, just with me and my use of it.

Yes I would probably agree that you cannot enforce a method of communication.
Can he not get his own copies of documents to do with DC? Like from the provider of said documents, I mean.

How frustrating

AppClose is a free co-parenting app. Can't vouch for it as haven't used it but might be worth a look

Or, if youre keen to stick with OFW, could you call his bluff by offering to pay his share? You shouldn't have to do this, of course

Or, block him on your main email address and set up a new email address which you only check twice per week

I know it doesn't help as you've paid but see if they'll give you a partial refund then both use a free parenting app.
I know there are a couple that courts recommend to parents but the names defy me at the moment!

Wrong. He’s been abusive. So she’s not unreasonable to say this at all.

being abusive or not does not wave a magic thing and make things possible just becasue people want them too, the world does not work that way and 'well it should' does not actually help anyone

@BookArt55get some advice from a solicitor if you can. Family Wizard is recommended by FC and of course you’re not unreasonable not to want to go back to email if he becomes abusive when his messages are not policed.

The whole point of Family Wizard is to reduce conflict between parents. Which is why it’s recommended by the courts.

Yes but it is not enforceable

It can be made enforceable via a court order. Are you a solicitor? It would probably be best if the OP gets legal advice but the courts usually are in favour of communication styles which make it less likely that people keep returning to court.

For peace of mind I'd pay his share. You shouldn't have to of course

Well your advice seems to be to give the ex dh the tools to keep on abusing the OP. I wouldn’t call that good advice.

The thing with family wizard is that if you genuinely can’t afford it, they will pay your funding for you (means tested).

Can you get a refund? I think suggesting a free coparenting app is or paying his fees would be best.

@Chewygummyare you a solicitor then? If so I’m happy to stand corrected but I think you’re wrong that it can’t be court ordered. My solicitor advised that it could in situations where the man is abusive.

Using Our Family Wizard can definitely be included in a Court Order, agreed by both parties.
There’s an option to pay for the other person, the reduction in abuse would make it money well spent.
A friend uses the free Appclose one.
I'd be reluctant to go back to email, it’d allow him to ramp it up.

Please explain legally how this is possible, not well it should be, please actually prove it can be actually in law