To be annoyed at staff asking my kid what she wants?

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Went to get ice cream, and ordered a icecream for my kid.
The member of staff then asked my 9 year old if she wanted a flake, but no mention of the extra cost (£1 extra on top of the £4 icecream). Just really annoys me, feel like they should ask the person paying not the kid who will not take into account or be aware of the cost.

So you tell your kid before they go to buy an icecream if they're allowed extras, or if they have a set amount to spend and must check if any offered extras are included or not.

Failure to prepare your child for normal interactions.. are on you.

If you'd wanted a flake you'd order a 99
Maybe years ago.
The kids I work with didnt know what that was when I ordered at the ice cream parlour and took the piss out of me for ages ( good natured!)

Where on earth are you buying ice cream at that price? That's horrendous. It's difficult because on the one hand asking the child is nice and interactive butbit can put people in a tight spot too.

A 99 is Mr Whippy soft ice cream which the OP doesn’t mention is what the ice cream was. The flavoured ice creams we have now are more expensive. There’s a dairy farm near us that set up an ice cream parlour. It is slightly more expensive than other ice cream but it’s handmade and is the best in the area. They change the flavours often. I’ve never had the same flavour twice. I like the try a different 1 each time with a flake btw.

I like it when people address DS - he is the one ordering something and it makes children fell engaged and important. It’s not like they asked if she wanted gold leaf!

if you couldn’t afford the flake on top then move child away from the van a little

Where on earth are you buying ice cream at that price?

Any 'captive audience' place such as a zoo; and on the seafront in some areas -down South.

I’d address a 9 year old rather than the parent, it’d be different if it was a small child.

It’s not as they were first noted in the 1930s -before decimalisation. I thought it was something to do with Italian conscripts as the feather in their hat resembled the flake?

Although regardless, they were probably only actually 99p for a month on 1986

I always encourage my kids to order for themselves and am happy for staff to speak to them directly. You were standing right there and could easily have asked how much the flake would be.

Nothing worse than late teens, early 20s without additional needs standing there whilst a parent does the talking.

No it's not 🤣
It's named after the 99 Flake and I can remember them being 20p.

I didn’t vote, because people made some reasonable arguments.
But you’re the mum - you’re the boss. But did the ice cream vendor know that? I don’t think it matters when you were doing the ordering.
I can see why it irked you.
At 9, we were on our bikes going to the drive-in getting soft-serve cones by ourselves. Soft-serve was our only choice in our tiny town. Actually, I think it’s still the only choice back there. I love it though. I love soft-serve. It’s hard to find now where I live.
Getting back to the point (lol), maybe you should’ve just said “no flake” or “yes flake.”
I hope you had a nice day out after that.

Did you order the ice cream or your DD?

If your DD ordered, I can see that they would assume that your child knows what they are allowed to order.

If you ordered, that’s cheeky upselling, putting you in a difficult position of having to refuse the upgrade if the child says yes.

I think it’s good that they speak directly to the kid. Helps socialise them, gives them a bit of confidence and feeling of independence.

I mean, a kid is always going to say yes to a flake, but it’s a quid, not a dessert and a round of cocktails.

If you don’t want them to come back with or get extra things you just need to tell your child clearly what they are allowed to have.

”Yes Tim you can have some snacks but only one small packet of whatever you buy”

If you are with them just ask if it costs extra.

I don’t think the OPs husband should was buying a 99 in this instance lol

I actually appreciate it when someone addresses my child. Even when we go to a restaurant they like to tell the waiter/waitress what they would like to order.
You were standing there and could have said no or asked how much extra it would be.

I think staff should always address kids not their parents. Maybe afterwards nod at the parents to check it's ok. But it's never ok to order for a child of 9. I've seen friends do this, butt in and order for a child saying the exact same thing. Same child struggles with social skills in secondary school now, no surprise there.

I do however feel they could have addressed it a bit better. Would you like a flake, but you might need to check with whoever is paying. Or address you saying is it ok if we offer some extras at an additional price? Then turn to the child if yes and offer the flake.

No it wouldn't - you address the person ordering and paying, not the kid

99s existed long before an ice cream cone with a flake cost anything near 99p. They also existed long before decimalisation.

Haha..I actually thought this the other day. I wished I could've offered it to the kid behind me to have two flakes. But his mum was OP so I thought better of it?! 😂

No - I remember this being discussed before. People always think it's because they come 99p but that's not true (I remember when a double cone 99 was 50p at my ice cream van).

I'd venture to suggest that the first time I ever bought a 99, I'd never even had a whole pound in my hand.

If you’re willing to pay that much for the ice cream, the cost of the flake shouldn’t be an issue. Of course there is nothing wrong addressing the child in fact it should be encouraged.
Or get some balls and say “at those prices I don’t think so!”

Coincidentally, today a friend told me they'd been charged £7.50 for an ice cream somewhere near The Roaches in Staffordshire. I think around £3 would be my limit!