My friend group consists of 4 women, but recently we had a man involved with us who identified as a "femboy". If you don't know what that is, it's a subculture of men on the internet who don't identify as trans or anything, but enjoy looking and passing as feminine. This guy was in his mid-20's and passed very well and I would probably call him "she" or "her" if I saw him out in public without knowing him. It was only when he spoke that it became obvious he was male.
Anyway, the guy was predatory as could be. He kept using his femininity to try luring us into comfort that he wasn't like "the other men" but would still openly objectify and sexualize us and make misogynistic jokes. We eventually felt uncomfortable with him so kicked him out. He didn't take well to this, so he showed up at one of my friend's houses, begged for forgiveness, and eventually ended up sexually assaulting her. Thankfully, she was determined to get him arrested for it and we eventually got him convicted. A female judge sentenced him to over 5 years in prison.
Tonight, I told another friend (who didn't know him personally) what happened with him. She discussed how she wondered how he was getting along in prison right now. Back when he knew us, he used to think it was funny to shake his ass at us when we asked him to behave himself, so I joked that he's probably being forced to do that on the cellblock right now. She told me that wasn't cool and as much as she hated him, she hoped he was at least safe from those kinds of things. I responded I didn't give a shit and I loved the irony of a feminine male predator now being in a place where HE'S the prey and gets to live with the same fear he gave to us. She didn't agree and we eventually just dropped the conversation, but I could tell she wasn't comfortable with what I said.
Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way and for refusing to apologize for it?