Glitter Tattoo at school

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My DD has just turned 5 on Thursday, for her birthday my sister did a little glitter tattoo on her arm. When her school cardigan was on it wasn’t noticeable but at some point in the day she must have taken it off. The teacher pulled me aside at the end of the day and said she’s not allowed glitter tattoos and it has to be gone for Tuesday.

My issue is following Eid and before Easter holidays 2 little girls in her class came back to school for the last few days with Henna, which to me is the same vibe as a glitter tattoo. This was on their arms and hands so noticeable even with cardigans on. I know the mum well and know they never said anything about the Henna.

AIBU to think it’s not very fair that Henna is okay but Glitter Tattoos aren’t? Should I ask the school more about this policy?

DH thinks Henna is probably fine as it’s “cultural”.

No. Secular means people are allowed to practice their religions. The number within that is not defined.
No one religion is upheld above others.
so, for example, Sharia law should not be upheld within the uk as a secular society but people are free to practice Islam within the laws of the secular society they live in. So, you can practice Islam but the law,
whilst not preventing worship, does take precedence.

Did their Great Aunt have an exception such as them living with her or being raised as their grandmother?

depends on the school actually

Secular means no religion not all religions accepted....

And we are a Christian country. Which is why Christian holidays are what dictate when we have holidays

Yes, no school should be telling any family how they should recognise a death or who within a family is a close relative.

Obviously you know my family situation. It’s irrelevant she was my family. You don’t know Irish families clearly just as you don’t know Muslims

No honestly it doesn’t, it means you are free to practice the religion of your choice but all should be treated equally and religious law,
of any denomination, should not influence the law of the land.

Workplaces also do this

There has to be a limit

YOUR family, yes. Close family

Unless she was an exception, I would not expect a school to sign off on any "Great" relatives funeral

There is no strict separation of church and state in the United Kingdom.

Secular things are not religious. Anything not affiliated with a church or faith can be called secular.

not connected with religious or spiritual matters.

There is no strict separation of church and state in the United Kingdom.

well there is, I don’t need to argue this it’s clear to anyone.

Stop playing tit for tat and get the tattoo off.
Gin works to get them off if you have no surgical spirit.

Scrub your child with gin because..?

This is definitely a Christian country. I immigrated years ago from the states so it’s very different to how it was for me as a child. I shouldn’t have found it surprising as I knew this before moving here but it was still quite jarring the first time my daughter came home telling me all about the nativity play. The colouring in sheets of the Easter story were actually a bit scary!

anyway - still no idea why you’d wouldn’t either not care and break the rules or care enough to clean up her arm. It would have taken less than a minute to avoid the fuss. Or also fine to say you just don’t care and do what you like and accept the consequences. You actually have no idea if the other parent had the teachers getting in touch as this isn’t about them.

You’re ridiculous, it’s not the same thing at all. Stop being an idiot.

You do realise that Christmas and Easter are Christian holidays where the entire country gets time off (including your precious child)? So why are you so bothered about Muslims having one day off school to celebrate their religious practices? Oh yeah. Racism.

Really? Coming from the US you were suprised this was ostensibly supposed to be a Christian country? you’d have had a bigger shock moving to a number of states within the US when it comes to Christian ideology.

No I wasn’t surprised that it was a Christian country. I ‘was’ surprised that my children are participating in Christian traditions at school as where I grew up it was separation of church and state so you wouldn’t see a Christmas tree in a state school. I just had no experience of it. I have never pulled my kids out of any of it and have learned to enjoy it and my kids don’t know any different anyway.

My two penneth is young girls don’t need their bodies adorned with any kind of ink for any reason, especially not because it’s the part of a religion, as all religions have a whole history of other made up bullshit, oppressive of women and girls.