To keep DD off school tomorrow?

[VictorianSqualor]

DP normally does the school run but tomorrow he has to be somewhere early so will be leaving the house at 6am.
To get DD to school I would have to leave at 7:30am, get a bus (full of people going into the city for work) with 7 yr old DD, 3 yr old DS and 4week old DS2 (in his buggy, on a rammed bus), get off this bus in town, get a nother bus (a shitty little thing that is full at2pm let alone 8am) to the school, and then do the return journey.

I do this journey everyday at home time, but don't mind doing it then because it's nowhere near as busy and I don't leave until 2pm, to have me and three DC's ready tomorrow on time I'll be having to get up about 5am!

She's worked hard doing her SAT's all last week so I don't think one day will be a big thing, or should I make more of an effort and do this nightmare journey to take her?

Crikey, I wouldn't even give it a second thought.

A CS and all that...give yourself a break

Have a lovely day at home then

You shouldn't even feel the tiniest bit guilty.

I am not relly convinced that these are tenable circumstances. What happens next time DH has business? Why can MIL help for sickness but not for other reasons?

I think your DD shouldn't be having days off because of your DH's working pattern, but then I do see how horrendous the journey would be. But I just think that that shouldn't be the situation, also seems a bit unfair on your younger two, all that travel.

MiL could do it for other reasons if she wasn't working herself, it just happens that tomorrow she cannot possibly have the day off work.

Also it isn't business as such, it is a fitness test for the police force, it won't be happening again, as for the travelling not being fair on the kids, DS1 loves it, he is a three year old boy, bus journeys are great! DS2 sleeps all the way there and back so I don't see that it's an issue to them.

The only real issue tomorrow is how busy the bus will be (therefore making it unlikely the buggy can be pushed on and will have to be collapsed etc) plus the time we would have to be up and out by.

If you were a teacher and you received this note

"Please excuse littleVS's absence from school yesterday. We had no car and as my CS was only 4 wks ago I did not feel physically up to taking two children and a buggy on a busy bus"

would you think, what an outrageous woman!!?

If I got that note I would think, fair enough! let your stitches heal up before you start clambouring on and off buses!!

Can MIL drop her off early at a friend's ?

VS

Take the day off.

No other discussion is required.

MiL will be at work from 6am.

VS....first of all, congrats as I haven't posted with you for ages...!!! Secondly, you are clearly giving your daughter all the right messages about the importance of school but there's nothing wrong with teaching the importance of a balanced viewpoint too - your sanity (or whats left of it ) and need to recover post-cs surely outweigh a single day at school? On a more serious note, you can still show her how you don't take missing school lightly by insisting she borrows notes from all the classes she has missed and make sure she copies them up over the next couple of days. Realistically, she wont miss a huge amount in one day, especially immediately post-SATs.
Good luck

Agree with elizB - you've just had major surgery and need to heal. Two buses & three kids with no one letting you sit down would be awful.

Thanks filly.

Are you mad woman ? Why are you even asking if it is ok ?

I wouldn't want to do that type of journey at any stage of my life but 4 weeks after a section, no way in a million years.

Stay at home woman!

I've been doing it for the last two weeks
(and throughout the pregnancy)

vs, what do you mean ?

duvet day imo

VS...

Give her the day off, honestly, can't believe you're even asking

There has got to be another solution to the travelling every day though. Have you spoken to the secretary or bursar? They might be able to point you in the direction of someone who lives close or can meet you half way.

Gordon Bennett - I missed the C section bit! Of course you shouldn't be doing a journey like this! Of course have the day off.

But it really won't work long term you know. I really suggest you look at schools nearer now, before the school year ends. What happens when both your older ones are invited to tea at two different friends, or there are after school clubs.....

The other school nearby is crap, we're looking to move back to the estate where her school is in the next year or so though, so hopefully it won't be an issue again.

LEARN TO DRIVE

i too missed the c-section bit, STAY AWAY from the school!!!

it doesn't matter, it really doesn't, not in the grand scheme, of, i dunno--- everything!!

Hope you are having a nice day.

What about getting a cab?

Even if she could drive, she still shouldn't be driving within 6 weeks of a c-section.

If you didn't have a four week old baby I would say take her to school, but it is very hard with such a tiny baby just weeks after major abdominal surgery.