Appropriate Punishment for a Cheating DP

[Limprichteabiscuit]

Went for a lunch break catch up
With an old colleague not seen in yonks.

Knew them and their DP socially, years ago
when all our kids, now mid teens were small. The DP was very, very overweight. Think 20 odd stone, not tall.

My friend showed me a recent pic with all the weight their DP had lost- jabs and gym. It’s several stone, incredible transformation - (smoking hot fitty to be fair) Looks younger now than 8/9 years ago when we were all friends.

Anyway friend states with new found body came new found opportunities and that DP had a ONS around a year ago. They moved on as a couple but DP has recently admitted to staying in touch and meeting up with ONS partner twice since for a meal and sex. Now begging my friend for forgiveness for sake of life together the kids, house etc. (they have a wonderful
home now)

Friend is toying with idea of ‘forgiving’ DP but only on condition that the maintenance jabs stop and gym membership is cancelled. Sees DP being fat and unfit as the protective factor that ensured fidelity all
these years so it needs to be a return to the old ways. The jab money will now accrue for friend to have an abroad holiday with own friends.
Friend very honest that not remotely bothered about health impact on DP as feels very wronged, and wants a punishment to fit the crime.

Once the weight back on and fitness down friend states may leave DP as by then will have had plenty of time to think and ‘get ducks in row’ if need be. But may not. Not clear yet.

Friends DP had begged instead that my friend has a fling or a holiday or anything but the jabs n gym but friend is holding fast and DP has till weekend to decide.

I was blown away - I’ve only ever heard one other comparable revenge story (I posted on here once - about my mum’s hair dresser and their cheating spouse where a whole house was essentially destroyed - think water soaked furniture with cress thrown everywhere, seafood squished into every nook and cranny including curtain pelmets etc) spray paint , taps left on etc etc

But that was essentially rage fuelled.
this feels very long winded and playing the long game.

what does anyone think ? GENIUS OR UTTEE LOONEY TUNE

Deranged and it would be domestic abuse.

So she wants to sabotage his health, and he doesn't care who she cops off with?

Have you told them splitting up is a respectable option? Especially in comparison to this level of toxicity.

Neither, it sounds like absolute bullshit, and your friend is massively exaggerating or outright lying.

It's the sort of story you'd see in OK magazine, "Jettison the Jabs or I'm Off!!!" - cheating gym-rat hubby given shocking ultimatum! (sad face pic)

The punishment would be leaving him.

If he's only faithful because nobody else wants him then that's not a relationship worth having.

I have absolutely no sympathy for cheating.

However, catastropically increasing her partner's risk of death - especially when they have children - is abdominable.

Something about this is incredibly sick

Is this real?

Update then, as funnily enough I had a messenger convo last night minimising our conversation last week in which DF (dear friend is that?) states the Jab/gym stuff is more related to an overhaul of finances than control. I think they realised from my silence and loss of words, that whether what they were saying was true or not/putting feelers out / it didn’t get the reaction they hoped.

DF’s DP has agreed to the terms however and monies saved (270 quid monthly) are going in a joint pot apparently for a big family trip next year.

Apparently DP also chose this option as the alternative was telling the kids the reason for the breakup themself ( tbf that’s what’s recommended on here for the cheating partner ) and packing up belongings on last Friday evening to go to parents house, locks changed etc.

I get the feeling however DF is so hurt they over egging it all from the off.

Bizarre couple
Deserve each other.

I have a work teams call with DF next week
dreading it….

edited- to say thanks for replies in thread

Bizarre couple
Deserve each other

Agree,
I wouldn’t want to listen to their warped drama

Reminds me of men who physically disfigure ex girl friends so no one else will want them. Really fucking twisted.
I would consider getting less unhinged friends.

Old Friends- as I said in OP were part of same circle when kids were younger and worked in same office.
Been out of touch years which is why I had no idea about her weightloss or new house etc

So the DP is a woman. There was also "hell hath no fury" earlier. Lesbian couple? It's annoying reading with no pronouns, you can give us their sexes.