Will I get sacked from work?

[Familydyn]

I didn’t go work Monday and Tuesday as I had high temperature and felt very unwell. Forced myself to go in yesterday but felt like crap. On my way driving home get a call from my youngest school saying he has high temperature and feels sick. So I haven’t gone in today as I have no one to leave him with. I left a message at work saying I can’t come in as son is unwell. I don’t work Fridays do today is my last working day. I’m really worried I’m going to get in trouble. I was late last week as he was unwell again and had to drive to my family to leave him there. Couldn’t do that today as he wouldn’t let me leave his side. He’s 5. I feel like work might think I’m making it all up. They did see the state of me yesterday as I looked a mess

This.

You do have a DH problem however.

This really is not a thing in all businesses

For a child we have 120 days paid a year. Never ever any questions asked. If a grandparent takes care of the sick child so the parent can work they get paid instead.

@UnstablePelicanis that a typo? 120 days PAID parental leave each year??

Where on earth do you live? I can’t even comprehend how businesses can afford this 🤯 That’s 4 MONTHS paid leave to look after a sick child! 🤯

Thoughtless, the only excuse would benot having enough money. It’s just a virus if you’re healthy, but for some people you’ll be giving them a life-threatening illness

Not a typo. Sweden. And that is 120 days per child, so could in theory be more days.

https://www.forsakringskassan.se/english/parents/care-of-a-sick-child-vab

Wow! This is very impressive 👍🏻👍🏻

Your husband is a disgrace for failing to pull his weight. Even if the majority of childcare falls on you by choice, when someone is unwell he should be stepping up and helping out.

I think you need to reassess your relationship rather than concern yourself about your job. Your child is sick, they caught it off you. These things happen.

But you said you felt like a single parent. That's a big problem.

You’re entitled to sick leave and parental/dependents leave. The only way you could get into any “trouble” is if you have frequent absences for sicknesses etc, then your employer can go through processes to see whether you are able to continue working for them or not. But from what you said, you are rarely absent so shouldn’t need to worry about that.

You’ll be fine. As long as you’ve followed the absence reporting procedure, you’re fine. In future, my advice is don’t be a hero - stay off long enough to recover properly yourself. Especially if it’s something likely to be contagious (esp stomach bugs), as your child will often go down with it too and it gives you a buffer. Parental leave is all well and good, but honestly, it’s just easier to stay home in sick leave together. (I’m not suggesting faking being unwell to look after your child - I’m saying that if you’re still feeling unwell, don’t be a hero, two birds, one stone).
Im sorry your OH is a deadbeat.

Of course you’ll be fine OP.
Imagine how common it must be to have whole households go down with the same virus like dominoes. You catch it first and are ill, then your kid is ill and you have to look after them. I wouldn’t bat an eyelid if it was one of my staff.

Your husband is another matter though!

What country is that? It's zero paid days here. Guess somewhere in Scandinavia?

No people go in sick for weeks at a time on and off all of it as long as this isn't usual

Parental leave is often limited to time to make alternative childcare arrangements in an emergency ie first day off or collect from school and unpaid. Whether the employer will let this week pass depends on the nature of work/cover, op sickness record to date, company absence policy, whether op can take as al, unpaid or make up hours. At very least there may be a back to work meeting. Why will dh not step in occasionally to share the load? If not you need a back up plan.

Sweden. 120 paid days per child and year.

It’s worrying how your own husband won’t feed his child. I hope someone tells social services, because he shouldn’t be near his child. It’s worrying that you are allowing him to live in the same house OP. I am guessing this is not the only problem either. It’s your responsibility as a parent to act on it. The blame is also on you. Poor child living like this.

You say "think I might have Covid so don’t want pass my germs onto people" but you went in yesterday and would have gone in today if it wasn't for the sick child? So you really don't care about passing germs, do you?

it is not like you are new in the job
why on earth should you get the sack

You wouldn’t get sacked for this. It’s not persistent absence.

Also, if you take 2 days off sick and 1 day dependent / parental leave then they are two different types of absences. They would only be looked at together if there was a high level of overall absence, which you say there isn’t.

This. It’s definitely not about caring about passing it on.

And who cares about covid tests now anyway?

If you're in the UK they absolutely won't and can't sack you for this, they might want to discuss what happened and they might even do this formally and say they will monitor your attendance in the future, but especially if you've previously only had 3 days off sick in 2 years then I'd be surprised. I worked in HR and we'd apply a formula to absences, generally we'd be worried about regular short absences (I'd call them the Monday club because normally its monday mornings off), people who are messing workplaces around or who have a long term condition they need support managing, or who can't cope with work tend to regularly (like every six weeks or less) have a day or two off sick. That isn't the case here.
Don't worry and focus on your own health and looking after your son. Working in a school you're bound to get ill, I can't believe you're the only person ever off sick there or ever off with childcare issues (happens at least termly at my kids school - and I'm not complaining because kids are germ factories!!)