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DH thinks I'm boring

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Overandoveragain100 · 30/04/2025 21:37

I am probably am boring but looking for some perspective I guess

Dh thinks I'm boring. He's currently away on a work trip and has called me boring because I find it difficult/odd/not interested in sexting while he is away or sending pictures etc. He also likes to talk about other people etc and what we'd do. I don't. That makes me boring apparently.

He's also unhappy with our sex life and makes that clear. But we have 3 young children (8, 5, 3), both work full time, I'm early 40's (so is he) so once or twice a week I think is alright (he'd like more)

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Loubelou71 · 30/04/2025 21:39

I hate when someone calls me boring to bully me into doing what they want. It's them that's boring. You keep being you and if you don't like what he suggests then he'll have to accept it.

ReplacementBusService · 30/04/2025 21:40

Your DH sounds exhausting unreasonable and unrealistic (becos, asking for sexting/pictures while you're at home looking after 3 primary age children....why am I even explaining this?!)

What do you want? Once or twice a week sounds pretty good under the circumstances, to me. Or even like quite a lot. But we're all different....

Dinosweetpea · 30/04/2025 21:43

Twice a week is amazing under those circumstances! YANBU

thistimelastweek · 30/04/2025 21:44

If my husband only wanted to talk about sex related stuff I'd be more than bored.
I'd be repelled.

QuickFawn · 30/04/2025 21:45

What a delight, are you expecting anything other than LTB?

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 30/04/2025 21:49

Once or twice a week is plenty for most people with busy lives.

I also hate sexting with a passion. I just feel so awkward and tbh it just grosses me out and I find it really unattractive. I have been called boring in the past by DH due to this. But I have explained and he sort of gets it but would rather still do it.

its all just really cringy.

Screamingabdabz · 30/04/2025 21:54

I guess he’s away, horny and isn’t looking after the house and three young children? And he wants you to role play Babe Station and calls you ‘boring’ because you won’t play the game? What a fucking arsehole.

Valkyrie3 · 30/04/2025 22:00

It’s not you who’s boring, it’s him. So bloody predictable. They’re just so fucking unrelentingly, constantly after more sex. Twice a week is admirable with three children as pp said. It’s bullying cos he’s not getting what he wants. You are definitely not boring but he is. Leave him. Cunt.

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Overandoveragain100 · 30/04/2025 22:08

Thank you for thr replies.

Interesting to get some perspective

Appreciate everyone is different etc. But he is like this everytime he goes away. When he's at home he moans about everything (not just sex life but everything) and then wonders why I don't want to have sex with him

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Springhassprungxx · 30/04/2025 22:12

Ugh he needs to be you for a week thwn he might realise why!

Endofyear · 30/04/2025 22:30

Oh tell him to fuck off! He's the boring one 🙄

LurkyMcLurkinson · 30/04/2025 22:44

Was surprised when you said your dh was in his forties because calling a partner boring to try and manipulate her in to sexual interactions is surely
the tactic of a teenager? He’ll be calling you frigid next.

madaboutpurple · 30/04/2025 22:45

You can tell him most of us on MN cannot stand people like him.

Picklechicken · 30/04/2025 22:45

I could not be less interested in doing stuff like this. It gives me the ultimate ick. No thanks. He’s rude to call you boring. Just because you’re not into it and he is it doesn’t make you boring.

Eyerollexpert · 30/04/2025 22:48

Overandoveragain100 · 30/04/2025 22:08

Thank you for thr replies.

Interesting to get some perspective

Thank the Lord I am happily single and don't have to put up with a total arse like him. Could he be less attractive 🤔 No

TheSlantedOwl · 30/04/2025 22:48

The sad thing is you’re married to a crap man, from the sounds of it.

You know full well it’s not boring of you, and that him saying that to you simply that proves he’s a coercive, pressurising sex pest, that in fact he is
boring, and that - well, either he’s always been this cretinous or he’s certainly become that way now.

Crikeyalmighty · 30/04/2025 22:49

You are not boring OP - he’s the boring one with his one track mind

Topseyt123 · 30/04/2025 22:51

He sounds like a fuckwit.

Itsjustsodepressing · 30/04/2025 22:57

He is boring and juvenile.

You are obviously the adult in the relationship OP.

And don't let him undermine your confidence by believing any of the nonsense he is spouting.

Idoubtitwillchangemuch · 30/04/2025 23:07

How bloody dare he?

Can you organise a “work trip” op so that you go away and leave him to look after the three dc on his own for at least three or so days? Make sure it’s at a time when there are no other family members available to step in and help. He hopefully will be too busy to feel bored then!

DollydaydreamTheThird · 30/04/2025 23:10

What a delight he sounds like! I have no idea how you are fitting in two shags a week with three kids! You must be exhausted.
Tell him to fuck off and go on porn hub like the rest of the male population. 😂

Crikeyalmighty · 30/04/2025 23:14

@DollydaydreamTheThird no doubt he is already- and partly the reason for his pestering weird ways

StressedEric · 30/04/2025 23:17

Well what a charmer he sounds . Grim

Skirtless · 30/04/2025 23:20

Overandoveragain100 · 30/04/2025 22:08

Thank you for thr replies.

Interesting to get some perspective

He sounds pretty boring. Endless whining is deeply boring.

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/04/2025 23:21

Sorry mate, he’s a real arse. But I imagine you know that.

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