Neighbours jet washing at 8pm

[FedUpandEatingChocolate]

Our NDN are currently jet washing one of their 4 cars, which obviously involves them all standing around chatting loudly.

My 8yo DD is trying to sleep. She's got a learning disability, she'll be awake during the night, and awake before 6am. The jet wash has been keeping her awake.

Now they're revving one of their audis.

Please tell me I'm not being unreasonable in thinking they're inconsiderate f idiots.

OP you will find a bunch of posters comment on here saying it is fine, but it’s absolutely not. They are aware you have a child who goes to bed early, it’s inconsiderate and I’m with you. I would actually go and speak to the person tomorrow.

They aren't at all. 8pm isn't late. I used to work nights, people would make noise outside and I could hear them. Not their problem, the world doesn't revolve around me.

They are probably oblivious. A friendly chat might help their understanding

8pm isn't that late. It's still broad daylight. Have you asked them to do it earlier or are you just assuming they should know?

It is fine to do those things at 8pm but it’s inconsiderate if you’re aware that it’s negatively impacting a neighbour.
so if you’ve been out and asked them to please keep the noise, chat and revving to a minimum and they’ve said no or ignored you. Then they’re all twats.

if you’re just expecting them to somehow know it’s negatively impacting you and your child then YABU.
light summer evenings mean it doesn’t feel
as ‘late’ as it is and you can’t expect them to che k your bedroom curtains or assume that drawn ones mean someone is in bed.

Revving the cars is shitty but I don't think there's anything wrong with washing your car at 8pm. It's still light outside, it's not particularly late and jetwashing a car isn't inherently noisy.

There's a fine line between appeasing a neighbour who has a young child and not being able to have "enjoyment" of your property. Some things aren't ideal (such as the revving) but you also need a backup plan because they'd be within their rights to have things like BBQs and gatherings outside until 11pm before their noise is even considered a nuisance.

It’s a lovely warm evening, 8pm is not late, loads of families up and down the country eating dinner, picking their kids up from clubs, bbq’s, chit chat.

You are being absurdly unreasonable.

They are aware you have a child who goes to bed early

How are they aware @excitingbella ? I have no idea what time any of the neighbours' kids go to bed and they would have no idea what time mine go. They may be aware there is a child in the house and that's all.

Talk to the police about revving engine's as they can serve a S59 notice and take the cars if they do it again

Washing the car at 8pm is fine, revving the engine always inconsiderate.

You can't really expect everyone to cease normal activity at 8pm as it suits your DD.

you are being a bit unreasonable here. 8PM is perfectly normal time to stand outside chatting or doing various outside works. Revving is unreasonable though.
People have different schedules, I have one neighbour that works nights and wants to sleep until noon, another one has a baby napping twice per day and another is elderly and goes to bed at 4PM. Would be quite challenging to be considerate to all of them and never make a sound.

Where does OP say they know she has a child who goes to bed early?

OP, I feel for you but YABU to expect people to not do normal living at a normal house.

Exactly what I thought!

My neighbour on one side has a baby. I would always be mindful of making too much noise outside in the evenings. The other side has a disabled daughter and we often hear the bedtime fights they have. I wouldn’t want to wake her up either.

What they are doing might not be illegal, but it is totally a dick move.

YABU they can do usual chores at an early time in daylight at 8!

Washing a car I don’t see an issue with but the loud revving isn’t on.

I can hear children in the play park currently not teens children since it’s still light and warm out without the sun I expect it.

Have you spoken to them? If not they are probably completely unaware that they are disturbing your daughters sleep.

Yabu, 8 pm is not late.

That's shit and would stress me out as that is bedtime here too, but unfortunately it's only 8pm so not late. Can you ask them to do it earlier next time? I and annoying neighbours like this too and used to ask them to keep it down as DC was sleeping

The reality is not everyone has kids so they don’t live on a 7pm cut off. Washing something outside/ cutting your grass etc is all reasonable up until about 9pm on a sunny evening. If someone works they likely don’t get back until 7pm so if they can’t so garden maintenance for an hour or two after work when can they?

YABU, it’s 8pm not 2am! I just finish work at 8pm, on my walk home there’s plenty people around enjoying the light evenings in their gardens, watering the lawn, chatting with friends etc.

£5 says you’re in Slough.

Is DD's window open, OP?

8pm is not late, many people are only getting home from work after 7pm. I’ve just got in from potting tubs in the garden and yes talking to my dh … is this wrong too? When are working folk meant to be allowed to do essential tasks? I personally don’t like getting woken up by neighbours dc in the garden at 8am on Saturdays but I accept that it’s just one of those things if you live with close neighbours

8pm isn't late. It's a perfectly normal time to be doing outside tasks when it's still light.