More of a WWYD.. Daughter's friend

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My daughter aged 13 has friend who comes over every morning before school. Waits in the dining room whilst my DD gets ready, then they head off to the bus stop. They've been friends since early primary school and this girl is from a good family.
However.... This is the bit I'm struggling with... Money (only small amounts like the odd pound coin here and there) has started going miss from a shelf in our home. Shelf is is in the dining room where this friend waits each morning. Last night, my DD confided in me that she'd actually seen the friend taking money.. Apparently walked in an caught her red-handing. DD was too shocked to say anything, so acted normal. The friend also didn't say anything but looked very gulity, went bright red and look embarassed.
How do I approach this? I personally don't want to tell her parents because, all in all, she's a good kid.

I wouldn’t let your dd go shopping with her as she may shoplift.

put a camera up

Some of the responses on here are very harsh and without any sense of care for the child. I'm glad my kids aren't friends with some of your kids because everyone messes up at some point.

Jeez some of these responses! This is a child. Just because she’s from a ‘good’ family that doesn’t automatically mean she’s stealing for the fun of it.
Are both parents working and too busy to always remember her lunch/bus money? Is she able to access personal care items or does she need to buy them herself if her parents are busy or not around? The ‘good’ family might have financial issues you’ve no idea about.
Neglect or abuse can also happen in good families!
I would say that your DD noticed that she needed money and ask her kindly if there’s something specific she needs the money for. Perhaps say that if she needs to talk then she can speak to you. She may not want to but you’ve at least raised the issue and offered a conversation. If it wasn’t out of need, it’ll likely stop. If it was at least she knows there’s an adult that’s looking out for how she’s feeling.

I'd just not leave money out. I have friends who don't give their dc money as they know they'll spend it on sweets. I'd think it's that kind of situation. Dd had a friend who was always asking to borrow money as her dm wouldn't give her any. Some parents don't.

If she is not underweight then I doubt it's hunger, she will be eligible for free school meals if her family are struggling.

Why not confront her ? Not harshly (just in case she is innocent). You could threaten to tell her parents but there's a risk parents may be neglectful and not care or refuse to believe it. Also if you just mention telling them it might be enough to stop her doing it.

Don't leave money there. I am actually quite surprised you have any. I haven't needed cash at all for the last 3 years or so