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I'm really struggling.

Thank you for your message, yes it really does suck. If only I knew about it and if somebody had warned me about it, I would have known what to expect. Its made my life very miserable that I had to even leave my job. I always worked and loved my job despite it was very hard. I use to love waking up in the morning and looking forward to the day but now I don't even want to face the day. I don't want to dress up or even have a bath or shower. I have to really push myself to do the very simplest tasks. My house is a complete mess. I have no motivation at all. I can't be happy and I'm always on the edge, and get the impending doom feeling. It's awful x

Yes, it is awful. I think if you haven't tried HRT you should give it a go.

I have bad days & good days ..
Morning , I find always the worst , but out of the bed as quickly as possible, staying in bed makes me feel much worse if I wake & don’t feel happy .. I exercise & I find once I go to work aswel I feel better ..
I am on hrt patches , they don’t help with anxiety, but I don’t get hot flushes , I’m sure that’s down to them ..
Also , once the spring/ summer weather

comes, I seen to perk up aswel ..
It’s like a rollercoaster ride for me …🤷🏻‍♀️

I really feel for you. I hope you feel better very soon and the anxiety goes away 🙏 God bless you 🙏

Thank you. But some ladies are saying they've tried HRT and ut hasn't helped them with the anxiety x

Thank you so much xx

Thank you for your message and kind words. God bless you x

Thank you for asking x
God bless you 🙏

Before I took hrt I couldn't get out of bed I was so depressed. If I did drag myself out if bed I very quickly got back in it. Hrt completely changed that. No more anxiety or panic attacks. Go to the GP and discuss it and if you don't get anywhere and you can afford it go private.

I haven't tried it yet but some ladies have told me it hasn't helped them with anxiety x

Thank you for your message and kind words. Yes I am very anxious to try it. I can't live like this x

You post about this a lot, OP - what does your GP say? Have you followed any of their advice?

Thank you for your kind message and all your support. I will give it a go x

Hi, thank you for your message. My GP really put me off and told me not to go on HRT as there was risks if I used it, and then another GP at the surgery yold me the same thing. They advised me to get menopause supplements from H&B which I did use for nearly a year but They didn't help. They sent me for counselling a few times but that hasn't helped either x

Thank you so much for your kind words and all your support 🙏
God bless you x

Thank you so much for your message and kind words and reassurance 🙏 I will try the HRT. Please pray for me 🙏
I'm so happy to hear you are feeling better now. God bless you x

Thank you so much for all your support, reassurance and kind words 🙏 I will try HRT x

Yes , it doesn’t help some , but more it does …
It’s like everything,
You should definitely try it OP ..

You dont want to accept any advice though?

OP, you mention the intrusive thoughts alongside the depression and anxiety; my daughter is only 37 so no menopause connection yet but she has suffered from severe intrusive thoughts for years and was diagnosed with a form of OCD, called Pure O.
Her life was hell and I was very scared that she might end up being sectioned at one point but she’s doing amazingly well now.
She was prescribed an antidepressant tailored for OCD along with therapy and it changed her life.
If you are interested I can ask her for more information. She even volunteers to help others who suffer this as she knows just how bad it is.
Of course I’m not saying this is what you have but it sounds so very familiar.

I'm glad you have decided to try HRT. It has really stabilised my mood and I am forever grateful I am on it. Get the gel if you can.

Also it does have other benefits such as helping to strengthen your bones which is also a concern for women as they age. Yes there are risks but this is the age with virtually all medication. Wishing you all the best.

I think the poor lady is in such a dark place at the moment that she probably can’t find the energy to act on act on advice and is desperately looking for reassurance.

I was you OP.
Please please start on hrt asap.
I was at breaking point before I started.
I was barely sleeping, horrible terrifying nightmares, impending doom, paranoia, anxiety, painful joints, racing heart, terribly self conscious about my looks, and I felt I was going mad and just couldn't cope with the most basic of tasks.
After a particularly bad night and sleep deprivation, I was crying down the phone to the Drs receptionist in the morning , begging to be seen urgently but was refused, then I called the MH crisis team.
Within 2 days of starting hrt I was sleeping, with 3-4 days the joint pain was less than half and the anxiety reduced by a lot.

Please be aware that it's not a quick fix to find the right dose, I still felt discombobulated for the first 3-4 weeks while my body got used to it, it took 6 weeks to finally feel normal, but that feeling was amazing. But it's the same with antidepressants, they make you feel worse til the 6 weeks mark.
I was tempted to give up during the first few weeks, I had a lot of benefits but there can be side effects while you adjust to it.
I felt worse because I was put on tablets instead of gel or patches, I didn't know but apparently tablets are the least ' kind' to start out on.

Please try it and please please persevere for 2-3 months at least.
The dose will probably need tweaking as time goes on to find your ideal combination.
Wishing you luck OP 💐.

Your Gp is out of date and is scaremongering.
I’ve had horrific anxiety and the ONLY thing that has helped is HRT.

Then what would you actually find helpful, OP? Have all your numerous threads brought you any help or clarity?