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To think that having a mammogram carried out by a man is preferable to a long wait for an appointment.

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JudithOnHolidayAgain · 29/04/2025 08:29

I know many people who wouldn't be here now without early detection of breast cancer due to the screening programme.
I have had a few myself.
It's not something I look forward to but it's a few minutes of discomfort that could save my life so I put up with it.
Given the choice I would prefer a woman carry it out as it is quite intrusive but as there is a shortage of female staff I would be ok with a male member of staff as long as there was a chaperone and Iwas told in advance.
If they do change the rules I think there should be a choice.

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Wtafdidido · 29/04/2025 16:01

If it saves me from dying of cancer or gets me an early diagnosis then I don’t care who does my mMmogram. They’re not doing the job for sexual satisfaction. For what it’s worth I had a male midwife and he was fantastic and it didn’t bother me having my boobs inspected by him. They’re doing a job.

tortieCatLover · 29/04/2025 16:06

If this was an option that women could opt in if they didn’t have a preference then wouldn’t the wait times be shorter for the woman only option?

In theory that should happen but in pratcise I suspect what will happen with NHS is well we only have men and this slot take it or leave it.

With real cancer concerns most will then reluctantly accept and a few really fight for remaing women only option.

However with the national screen program many with low concerns may quietly drop out - as you can see on here many will insists men doing it isn't a barrier for some women - or worse blame women if they do later get cancer.

They'll likely waste money on advertising trying to get more women to take part but ignore why they don't or dismiss it and go for guilt tripping women. If participation rates drop low enough then questions start to be asked about cost effectiveness and whether they catch enough early cancers - and perhaps it should be dropped or be more limited. Which could I suppose free up more staff but at expense of finding cancers early which then means more resources later for NHS.

WestwardHo1 · 29/04/2025 16:06

Unfortunately I knew a lot of male medics when I was 18/19/20. I heard the stuff they used to say about women's bodies. Yes they were stupid young arseholes like most teenagers and young adults, however it filled me with dread about the whole business.

Personally I find that once something has been sown in you when you're young it's almost impossible to unsow it.

Maray1967 · 29/04/2025 16:16

heffalumpwoozle · 29/04/2025 15:47

That's absolutely fine, and makes sense, but you must recognise that is your completely arbitrary opinion.

You can be seen by a woman, all you have to do is request it. No one will make you see a man.

There are plenty of women who would be happy to be seen by a man (myself included).

Everyone is happy and patients are seen more quickly.

It makes no sense whatsoever to put a blanket ban on men doing these appointments when plenty of people are happy to be seen by a man.

Absolutely- I agree that choice should be offered if the alternative is treatment delays. I suppose I’d be concerned that the ‘choice’ might quietly disappear though.

FedupofArsenalgame · 29/04/2025 16:19

The13thFairy · 29/04/2025 12:45

Is this really as far as your thinking has gone? That if a woman does not want a man to do a mammogram, it has to be because he might be thinking something sexual?

No my thinking it that I really don't give a shit tbh

Fr33asaB1rd · 29/04/2025 16:19

ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 29/04/2025 15:35

A man choosing a career in a medical specialism where he knows that many women would prefer a female professional may not be a pervert, but it’s bloody thoughtless and selfish.

A woman could be attracted to such a post to support other women.

What an absolute ridiculous thing to say. Women clearly aren’t attracted to the job and the suggestion that women be subjected to long waiting lists because men doing the job would be selfish beggars belief.

heffalumpwoozle · 29/04/2025 16:20

Maray1967 · 29/04/2025 16:16

Absolutely- I agree that choice should be offered if the alternative is treatment delays. I suppose I’d be concerned that the ‘choice’ might quietly disappear though.

Everyone has a choice to request a female (or male) GP, gynaecologist, a female to do their smear test etc. Always has and there would be outrage if there wasn't, for obvious reasons.

If you are cynical enough to be worried about this choice 'quietly disappearing' then that's up to you, but it's irrational, and squeamishness and cynicism over what is actually a non-issue is not a reason to delay other people's life saving investigations and treatment.

Fr33asaB1rd · 29/04/2025 16:23

heffalumpwoozle · 29/04/2025 16:20

Everyone has a choice to request a female (or male) GP, gynaecologist, a female to do their smear test etc. Always has and there would be outrage if there wasn't, for obvious reasons.

If you are cynical enough to be worried about this choice 'quietly disappearing' then that's up to you, but it's irrational, and squeamishness and cynicism over what is actually a non-issue is not a reason to delay other people's life saving investigations and treatment.

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ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 29/04/2025 16:24

Fr33asaB1rd · 29/04/2025 16:19

What an absolute ridiculous thing to say. Women clearly aren’t attracted to the job and the suggestion that women be subjected to long waiting lists because men doing the job would be selfish beggars belief.

Did you read what I was replying to?
It was generally about what might attract males and females to particular roles and their motivations.

I didn’t suggest that women be subjected to longer queues, I think you’re mistaking me for someone else.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 29/04/2025 16:24

ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 29/04/2025 15:35

A man choosing a career in a medical specialism where he knows that many women would prefer a female professional may not be a pervert, but it’s bloody thoughtless and selfish.

A woman could be attracted to such a post to support other women.

FFS !!

heffalumpwoozle · 29/04/2025 16:26

A man choosing a career in a medical specialism where he knows that many women would prefer a female professional may not be a pervert, but it’s bloody thoughtless and selfish.
A woman could be attracted to such a post to support other women.

@ThisWOMANWontWheesht If there were fewer male gynaecologists there wouldn't suddenly be more female ones. There would just be fewer gynaecologists. Males are not preventing females from training.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 29/04/2025 16:27

CrakdEgg · 29/04/2025 15:32

Is the workforce shortage radiographers or mammographers?

Are there lots of bored chaperones standing around in the NHS, or would more need to be employed to ensure that a male could be employed as a mammographer?

You don’t just have the choice of a chaperone if the clinician is male. You have the choice when they’re female too.

SpikeGilesSandwich · 29/04/2025 16:29

Sounds good to offer the choice. People who opt to wait until a woman can see them can choose that and I’ll take my chances and hopefully get seen quicker.
I’ve had plenty of intimate treatment from male doctors and nurses and it’s always been very professional.

ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 29/04/2025 16:29

Finallydoingit24 · 29/04/2025 15:53

Yeah the notion that all female healthcare workers are benevolent angels is bollocks. I have heard absolute horror stories about female doctors, nurses and midwives, especially midwives actually. One of my friends ended up with a colostomy bag post birth and the midwife had told her to get a grip. It was a male consultant who realised something was very very wrong and listened to her. They don’t all go into this job because they are sweet souls who understand what women go through and want to make it comfortable for them. Some of them are very dismissive.

There has been no “notion that female healthcare workers are benevolent angels” on this thread. Quite the opposite. If this thread is to be believed, female HCPs are rough, brutal, uncaring thugs and males are sensitive, caring, gentle and respectful.

(See also threads about primary school teachers - men saints, women awful 🙄)

Sidebeforeself · 29/04/2025 16:29

Flewaway · 29/04/2025 08:49

I had my first mammogram recently and I was quite shocked by it. They really grab and push you into position repeatedly. It was forceful. ( I do have small breasts). If this has been done by a man I would have been upset, rather than being able to laugh about it later. If I had a history of sexual violence I would have found it traumatizing.

Choice is key, including your first mammogram always being done by a woman so you know what you are consenting to in future ones. I had no idea what a mammogram would be like before I had one. I thought they just stood you in front of something, something was flashed at you and that was that.

Well there is plenty of info out there re what to expect. However it sounds like you had a poor experience.. which could happen with a man or a woman.
I bet nobody suffering with BC now would be in any way mollified by the fact they were seen by a woman. Early detection prevents deaths.. the more people being screened the better regardless of who does it

Finallydoingit24 · 29/04/2025 16:33

ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 29/04/2025 16:29

There has been no “notion that female healthcare workers are benevolent angels” on this thread. Quite the opposite. If this thread is to be believed, female HCPs are rough, brutal, uncaring thugs and males are sensitive, caring, gentle and respectful.

(See also threads about primary school teachers - men saints, women awful 🙄)

Well there’s one about getting hugs from the radiographer and many about how women “understand” and also people saying that a woman going into this field is likely to do so because she understands it’s uncomfortable for women and wants to provide better care for them. So there’s quite a bit.

I think there are good and bad HCPs of either sex.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 29/04/2025 16:33

SereneSquid · 29/04/2025 13:38

@Enigma53 these screenings are largely healthy women having a preventative screening. They are not mainly women with breast cancer.

It isn’t a preventative screening, it’s primarily to detect cancer as early as possible. Around 9 women in every 1000 screened are diagnosed with a breast cancer that wouldn’t otherwise have been detected until a later stage, which in many cases would mean more aggressive treatment and a reduced chance of survival.

ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 29/04/2025 16:37

Finallydoingit24 · 29/04/2025 16:33

Well there’s one about getting hugs from the radiographer and many about how women “understand” and also people saying that a woman going into this field is likely to do so because she understands it’s uncomfortable for women and wants to provide better care for them. So there’s quite a bit.

I think there are good and bad HCPs of either sex.

You're right.
I think there were many many more about “lovely”male professionals though.

But yes, in real life you get nice and not so nice HCPs of both sexes

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 29/04/2025 16:43

Sidebeforeself · 29/04/2025 16:29

Well there is plenty of info out there re what to expect. However it sounds like you had a poor experience.. which could happen with a man or a woman.
I bet nobody suffering with BC now would be in any way mollified by the fact they were seen by a woman. Early detection prevents deaths.. the more people being screened the better regardless of who does it

I don’t think it is a poor experience. I think it’s the nature of the examination. I’ve had four mammograms over the last fourteen months after a breast cancer was detected by routine mammogram. They all involved being pushed, pulled, manipulated and squashed into positions designed to get as clear an image as possible. Having had a mammogram detect a very large tumour which l wouldn't otherwise have known about, I really don’t understand the problem here. You either have it or you don’t. And if you choose not to, for whatever reason, then you run the risk of late, or too late diagnosis when treatment is more difficult and survival is compromised. I just don’t subscribe to the notion that a male mammographer is somehow just in it for sexual kicks.

Boomer55 · 29/04/2025 16:45

JudithOnHolidayAgain · 29/04/2025 08:29

I know many people who wouldn't be here now without early detection of breast cancer due to the screening programme.
I have had a few myself.
It's not something I look forward to but it's a few minutes of discomfort that could save my life so I put up with it.
Given the choice I would prefer a woman carry it out as it is quite intrusive but as there is a shortage of female staff I would be ok with a male member of staff as long as there was a chaperone and Iwas told in advance.
If they do change the rules I think there should be a choice.

It wouldn’t bother me but each to their own.

Miyagi99 · 29/04/2025 16:47

WaryCrow · 29/04/2025 09:25

I think I’ll walk away if my next mammogram is with a man. It will only be my second. I definitely would have walked away if it was my first.

I would also happily train up to do this myself if only the option was there to do so.

I’m not actually sure how much pressure on staff would be relieved by allowing men to do this job. There are not that many men in these lower positions in the NHS (I’m an HCA, there are only 2 males on my ward to 20 women). I therefore think there’s more to this than just staff pressures. It’s more forcing women to accept men in positions requiring a lot of touching.

Mammographers are B6 so not a particularly low position in the NHS.

mathanxiety · 29/04/2025 16:48

I think choice is essential. There are women who would not feel comfortable with that at all - for personal or religious reasons, and it would be appalling if they missed exams because they were faced with no choice.

I personally would not mind at all.

Sarah2891 · 29/04/2025 16:51

I think it's fine if the woman can decide whether she's seen by a man or a woman.
I wouldn't be bothered by having a man do it.

Sidebeforeself · 29/04/2025 16:55

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 29/04/2025 16:43

I don’t think it is a poor experience. I think it’s the nature of the examination. I’ve had four mammograms over the last fourteen months after a breast cancer was detected by routine mammogram. They all involved being pushed, pulled, manipulated and squashed into positions designed to get as clear an image as possible. Having had a mammogram detect a very large tumour which l wouldn't otherwise have known about, I really don’t understand the problem here. You either have it or you don’t. And if you choose not to, for whatever reason, then you run the risk of late, or too late diagnosis when treatment is more difficult and survival is compromised. I just don’t subscribe to the notion that a male mammographer is somehow just in it for sexual kicks.

I agree . However, my mammogram didn’t involve any pulling or pushing. I had expected it to be a lot more uncomfortable than it was to be honest . However, I’ve only had one so far so I don’t know if it’s typical and I do have big boobs

MissyB1 · 29/04/2025 16:58

mathanxiety · 29/04/2025 16:48

I think choice is essential. There are women who would not feel comfortable with that at all - for personal or religious reasons, and it would be appalling if they missed exams because they were faced with no choice.

I personally would not mind at all.

"Choice is essential" but if there aren't enough female staff to do it then how does the NHS provide the choice?