Someone Told Me My Husband Is Seeing Someone

[TheCoralMoose]

Ok Im new on here and im seriously worried.

Last week I had to get a taxi to a GP appointment because I wasnt feeling very well.
Its only a 15 minute walk but i have been really ill.
My hubby goes out to a bar every night and uses taxis.

The taxi driver chatted to me during the journey and said he dropped my hubby and his sister off to a club on the easter saturday.
He has two sisters and has never socialised with them.
I asked him what the woman looked like he said about 59 ish. dark hair in a bob medium build. It sounds like his first wife.
I went to the surgery because I have been having a ache in my lower stomach not sharp but dull. Having to wee a lot and when i do wee it feels like a mild cystitis and my vulva is itchy and irritated too.
Its keeping me awake too.
The doctor said it sounds like a UTI and prescribed Trimethoprim suspension ( i hate swallowing pills).
Two weeks on i still feel no better. Im phoning the surgery tomorow.
Someone has texted me to say he is seeing someone else for a very long time.
What do i do?.

What do i do?

Firstly - WHO has texted you this information?

Secondly - You tell your GP your concerns, if you think you may have an STI. They can swab you or they can give your swabs to do yourself.

Thirdly - You can show your husband the text from this mystery person and ask tell him “I’ve received this text”.

I have been thinking about ending my marriage before this happened tbh.
He is controlling and has struck me with a phone.
Rude to my family.

Absolutely!! My DS did cabbing a few years back… nobody could sneeze in our town without all the cabbies knowing about it!. Add some gossipy customers and you suddenly are privy to some real “news”

Sounds like it to me

Definitely AI

If he has been seeing someone else for a long time, then one or the other of the them are also seeing some/many others too. If they were exclusive then they wouldn’t suddenly get an std. Unless you don’t frequently sleep with DH?

@TheCoralMoose what part of the country are you?

Manchester why?.

@TheCoralMoose WHO texted you about this? Do you know them? Why haven’t you specified?

She has. She said that it was an unknown number.

Perhaps you should read everything before getting stroppy.

Assume the bit about health appointment was insinuating the UTI is actually an STI.
I agree though... lost me at the bit where the driver said the woman looked '59 ish' ...why wouldn't he have said 60 or late 50s? 59 seems oddly specific.

That’ll be the bit where she said she didn’t know who it was and didn’t recognise the number. HTH 😉

Believe them.

Have you text or called them back?

Well that's the first thing you need to do!

At least read the OPs posts before having a go at her.

Get tested for std. ignore this if hoping it is just gossip or get a divorce. The choice is yours.

Not sure why people are saying this is AI or made up.

OP, get your sexual health checked first off. That's your first call. Most things will be easily treated if you catch them early.

As for people telling you to confront your husband: you stated that he has hit you before, so I wouldn't do this. Decide if you are leaving first and get legal advice if so.

I would confide in a trusted friend if possible who can hold your hand through this.

Best of luck OP.

I think he meant height, 5'9.

I think this is AI? Are you AI, op? The way you put the title in capitals made me think it’s AI

If my partner went to bars every night, I’d have assume he’s cheating and he’d be an ex. He certainly wouldn’t be a ‘hubby’.

I read it as 50 ISH. The 9 is right next to the zero on some keypads.

Stop thinking… start planning.

he’s awful. Regardless of cheating or no cheating, controlling and violent IS more than enough for you to leave him.

this is the push you need to get it done.

you are worth more than this. We all are.

I read it as 5’9” ish.

Your life sounds pretty miserable, tbh.
Get yourself physical health sorted, get checked for STIs, then make some decisions about how you’d like your life to look. You need to make some changes.