Holiday room share help

[MrsPatrickDempsey]

Oh please help. There are a group of 6 friends (all female) that go away together roughly every year.
One member of the group is, to put it mildly, a difficult character. I wouldn’t choose to go away with her otherwise and have chosen minimal contact at other times. We all feel similar but I have the least tolerance. I recognise that it would be mean to book a trip without her and we fallen into a bit of a pattern.
We share rooms when we go away and it is usually set pairings (I don’t share with her). Just checked the booking that one of the others made (we take it in turns to book) and yep - you’ve guessed it - I am allocated to share with her. She really is that bad that I can’t just suck it up for a week. I really can’t and I am not looking forward to it and am not sure I want to go.
What would you do?

I would not go away with someone I disliked

Say you’ve developed a terrible snore and pay a bit extra for your own room?

Contact the booker and ask them to change the arrangement. If they won't, drop out. Next time get a room to yourself.

Thanks. I dont want to cause any drama in the group. I will think very carefully about any trios in the future.

I would absolutely pull out of the trip.

Either pull out of the trip or pay extra for a room because you snore and don't want to disturb anyone.

I always pay for my own room. Sleep and a little peace is just too precious and I especially wouldn’t share with someone I disliked!

imagine having that much control over folks, and she gets away with it!

Pay for your own room.

If it's usually set pairings then assuming the person you usually share with is happy with this plan I'd message the booker copying them in and say something along the lines of "thanks for sorting this out Jane but I'm sharing with Emma. Please can you switch it?"

So everyone else has got tired of sharing with her and the booker decided you should take a turn?

Does any of you actually enjoy her company?

Who decided who was sharing with who?

is all a bit odd, if the other five of you don’t like her then you either need to suck it up and rotate who shares with her, or tell her you don’t want her to come with you anymore!

@MrsPatrickDempsey Can I ask why people particularly you don't like her? And how come she hangs out with you all. Doesn't she realise her unpopularity? If that's even a word.

The person she normally shares with doesn’t complain. She is very tolerant. The group evolved after a work trip away - I don’t think any of use would choose to go away with her alone but there hasn’t been an open discussion amongst the five of us. I know that one other feels like me but probably not quite as strongly.
I historically felt a bit sorry for her for various reasons I don’t need to share so went along with things but she has definitely become more challenging.
I am grateful for the suggestions. The cost of a single room doubles the cost - need to make a decision.

The person who made the booking had to list the travellers and the rooms were allocated based on that order I think. I don’t think she gave it any thought.

She has no self awareness, is selfish and not very flexible in her ways. Can make it difficult in a group.

Speak to the friend you intend to share with and clarify they are still happy to share. The mention it on chat. Presumably one person has to share with her.

Speak to the person she normally shares with and ask her to swap rooms with you?

If you don't want to do it then you need to speak up.

Ask the annoying person to swap with your other friend who also doesn't like her and say its because you both have bowel issues and would prefer to share with someone in a similar boat.

Eta - its really not fair to not take your turn though.

Absolutely no way. I once got stuck with the bride's sister on a hen weekend away and it was horrendous, she's a total nightmare. Never ever again. I point blank refuse to share such a personal space with anyone I am not close to. Not even just liking them is enough. They need to be a close family member that I love very much.
Don't do it. Pay extra for your own room.

But also please tell us all about her and why she's a nightmare. We need to know.

I have messaged one of the others and she has said there is no way she could share with her either so I’m not feeling so bad. She thinks that we should stick with the usual pairings on the basis that we are all familiar with this and we will raise it when we meet up so it’s all established before we go.
All of your comments have made me reconsider for the future.

Just ask someone to swap? You said the other friend doesn’t mind sharing with her so what’s the issue?

Me too. I wouldn’t want to risk an actual close friendship by getting grumpy or struggling with the need for privacy, let along put up with someone I intensely dislike. I share with my DH (when I have to LOL) but otherwise I would always pay the single person supplement.

WRT to @MrsPatrickDempsey it sounds as though you have ducked this and allowed this person to be inflicted on other members of the group every year, which is actually deeply unfair. Think of this as karma. And swallow the cost of the single/additional room upgrade.

@SpringSunshineanddaffodils
How long have you got??
As I said below she is selfish, self centred, lacks empathy, is bolshy, crass and has said some pretty unkind inappropriate things in the past.

Perhaps the lady she normally shares with is pig sick of always pulling the short straw and had sent word she wants a trip off!

I think if she’s really that bad you should take it in turns to share the burden, it must be insufferable for the other person to put up with this every time she wants to go away whilst everyone else gets respite.