Are there any other single by choice women on here who just feel like leaving the one line ”I'm so glad I'm Single" on most of these threads?

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Seriously? Ladies who can't read the books that they want to. Ladies who can't watch the TV that they want to. Partners demanding that their wives empty washing machines at midnight.

This is truly not a goady post but I have to stop myself from being goady and leaving that one line on the vast majority of threads here.

I think I get what your saying OP. It's like you just want to shake some of them and say it's ok to leave and be single. Obviously depends on circumstances though.

I would probably think like that if single, but just as a pp has said. I just think "thank god, my boyfriend isn't a dick'. As not all men/women are arseholes.

A lot of the relationships that you hear about (on here and in person) are the bad ones. It's rare that you hear of someone telling the rest of the world how lovely their partner (or, indeed, anyone else that they know) is.

I am single, and I like it that way, but realise that it's not for everyone. Similarly, being in a relationship isn't for everyone. We're all different.

LoL-love this line, "I'm no picnic myself frankly ". Hilarious!

I think it a LOT!

But I rarely say it, as who wants to add to these women's pain & shame (for staying with an idiot)?

I missed the ‘can’t read what they want thread’. A link would be useful - then I can make up my mind about the topic of this thread …

Feel free to post that. Most decent folk will think you're insufferable but that's ok too. Life isn't a competition between women making different decisions.

There is a thread on here where a woman is "not allowed" to read romantic novels because it makes her husband jealous

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5323530-husband-objects-to-me-reading-romance-novels-with-sex-scenes?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

This is the kind of co-dependency or the illusion that we need a partner the most worrying. People can get through illness without having a romantic partner and this kind of post suggests that they can't which is frankly ridiculous.

I may well think “Thank you for reinforcing my decision to be single!” but I’m not going to post it on a thread where the OP is hurting.

So many women are putting up with this shit though - maybe seeing that you can be single and happy and it’s not a booby prize but the prize would be good for a lot of women who are with obvious arseholes. I was on a thread full of women in long marriages to men who they’ve never had a proper conversation with the other day - you just want to weep for such wastes of lives and energy.

Absolutely!!
I quite often feel like that when my friends talk about relationships and dating too…yet some of them feel sorry for me.

Of course you can, but it's often a lot easier with some practical and emotional support. Managing a broken shoulder (see username), especially initially, would have been much easier if I had had a partner to help with various things.

Quite a few threads make me think thank god I'm a lesbian.

Im single by choice and love it all so childless by choice even better and don`t own any pets.
I read some threads and tbh op its not always the husbands fault but the poster will twist it until it is.
I also find a lot of women on here are bloody bullies.

Life is not a competition, as pp said.

People can get through all sorts of shit alone.

It doesn't mean it's preferable to.

There is a huge difference between being single and being alone.

Well, everyone has different opinions 🤷‍♀️

Anyway, in terms of your original post, leaving a one line of 'I'm so glad I'm single' on posts where women are struggling in their relationships would make you an insufferable arsehole imo.

I read all kinds of things on here and think fucking hell, rather you than me. To say it though is just unnecessary.

Hehe! Same for me.

The threads you see on here are invariably by women seeking support so often fairly extreme- why would you consider it beneficial to post something like that to someone who is probably struggling?

I also agree with this- whats the point of saying "so glad I'm single"? that seems like being twatty for the sake of it anyway.

Plus, you could apply this to every scenario surely?

"urgh - I'm finding Christmas this year so stressful"- "SO glad I dont celebrate Christmas!!"

"Why are there no decent vegan options anywhere?"- SO glad I'm not vegan!!

"How do I fix my cat peeing in the hallway?"- SO glad I dont have a cat!!

"Any advice what to do with my moody teenager?"- SO glad I dont have kids!!

They're just pointless statements.....

I think it often, but I’d never say/post it. That would be cruel I think.

I do want to shake some of the women who post though, they deserve so much better.

For me, it’s more a case of wanting to post “I’m so glad I don’t have kids” on threads about childcare.

There was a thread today or yesterday where someone was asking whether it was OK to throw out her child’s knickers on a daily basis every time the kid shat herself, and people were saying ‘If you hold the knickers in the loo when they’re full of shit, and then flush it, you can sort of rinse away the worst of the solid stuff before you wash them…’ and my god, that was one hell of a validation for my decision not to spawn.

I think it but don’t say if as it wouldn’t be helpful. I am frequently horrified and disgusted by the behaviour of men spoken about on here.

A lot of it I simply would not tolerate and he would be out on his arse so fast his head would spin.

The general level of disrespect s probably the worst thing - not the terrible abusive relationships as while these happen I think they are likely outliers. I hope so anyway. There is a thread going now and the OP described - in passing - how her DP had raped her while she was pregnant with his child. They’re still together.

I actually often think of my parents long and happy marriage. I wonder what would happen if my dad were to dare to speak to my mum the way some people describe or behave like that towards here. He would likely be 6ft under before anyone even knew.

Not that he ever would as he adores my mum and would do anything for her. He actually ended a friendship once because his married friend had an affair and my dad was disgusted by it.

I am very unlikely to ever date again as men mostly revolt me. I have a couple of friends a few years younger and they don’t date either.

I also went on a group holiday recently aimed at women mid 30s to mid 40s. All three women I was with were single and not bothered about dating due to the low standard that is out there. I wouldn’t lower myself to it.

To be fair, OP is asking women who are single by choice about their experiences.