Are there any other single by choice women on here who just feel like leaving the one line ”I'm so glad I'm Single" on most of these threads?

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Seriously? Ladies who can't read the books that they want to. Ladies who can't watch the TV that they want to. Partners demanding that their wives empty washing machines at midnight.

This is truly not a goady post but I have to stop myself from being goady and leaving that one line on the vast majority of threads here.

I may think it but wouldn’t say it. I don’t like appearing smug in the face of someone else’s pain.

I think it's a bit unecessary. There are some posters who keep posting " Thank goodness I never had kids" on all new mum threads.
Thing is, not all of us have husbands like that. You only hear about the bad ones.

Yeah..I get the sentiment but it's a twatty thing to put on a thread.

This assumes all men are imperfect and women perfect, there is good and bad in both

Same as above. Been single just over a year. People ask when I'm going to start dating and I laugh in surprise. Tell them I am happily single and not looking, which everyone seems surprised at. I'm much happier putting myself first and spending time with my kids.

Yes...but not in a smug way, more a 'so glad I left that' way.

And a massive reminder never to risk putting myself in that position ever again.

The thing is, you only hear about the bad ones on here. I read those threads and think ‘I’m so glad my DH isn’t a dick’.
Agree though that it’s far far better to be single than in a shit relationship.

Plenty of people have no qualms about treating singles with smugness.

nah not exactly, more like “I’m grateful that I didn’t choose/ stay with a man like that” key words being “like that” - not all men/ relationships are like that. So it’s not about being single or not single.

There are many people who are with decent partners. It’s about not tolerating crap relationships.

I have been married for years and mostly do what I want. Not claiming that DH is perfect but he is not bossy or insecure.

I am no picnic myself, frankly.

True. Very good point, but I don’t agree with the smugness either way.

The choice isn't "be with an asshole who ruins your life, or be single". There are lots of coupled women with partners who greatly enhance their lives and bring a lot of happiness and calm... We just don't have any relationship issues to post about on MN!

But being single is still better than being an asshole. And nothing wrong with being single. Been spoiled rotten by my current partner so I imagine if he leaves, I will choose to remain single. Couldn't be arsed with anything less from a partner now. (I mean emotionally, not materially!).

Looking at this site and saying that is a bit like going to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous and thinking I'm so glad I don't drink.

In the last few years I've know 3 women who have become seriously ill ( all recovered to some extent). They all thank God they were married.

Talking of people being smug /twatty
I remember being randomly verbally abused and threatened by a young man and being shaken up after I called the police. A former friend of mine who has a partner I wouldn’t touch with a barge pole (has multiple kids from various exes, smokes weed and games all day when he’s not working and doesn’t work much etc ) chose that moment to tell me “I’m so glad I’m not single and have a man to protect me”

Ugh despite the fact her partner is bottom barrel her levels of smugness about being in a relationship were off the charts. Some people are way too comfortable being gleeful /smug over others pain or misfortune and it’s sad. I mean I definitely preferred being single over being with a man like hers, but I’d never have told her that while she was complaining about him.

As I said above I disagree whether it’s a single person doing it or a partnered person being smug about a single, but I would say as a pp hinted at that the latter does seem to be more common/normal.

I think people need to have more empathy all around and remember their situation could easily change. Single people can suddenly fall into terrible (or good!) relationships, married people can suddenly become happily (or miserably) single.

I don’t think being smug is helpful or reflects on you well.

Having been in dreadful relationships like some of the OP’s I wish they could experience the calm and stress free life that’s possible without an utter twat making you miserable on a daily basis. But that only comes with life experience and being strong enough to leave. Sadly some people can’t or won’t do that.

I loved being single, love being married now. I would never be smug or self congratulatory about either situation.

Does it work the other way? If a single mum was struggling would it be alright to say how happy you are to have a lovely husband and loads of support?

Whilst I totally agree with you OP, I am not single. But I’m also not married to an absolute tool, like many women on here appear to be. In real life every woman I know would tell their DH to fuck off in the washing machine scenario and there would be no repercussions. I can’t believe how wet and weak many posters seem to be. It baffles me when they say ‘My DH comes home at 6pm then does his hobby 7-9pm every night’. Fuck me.

Absolutely. Mumsnet is my go to plae when I want to remind myself I made the right choices in life.

Same

Many could as easily say "I'm so glad I'm in a happy and equitable relationship"

I wouldn’t like to be single but that’s because I’m with a good partner who enriches my life, supports me and makes me feel like we are a team. Been together decades and wouldn’t want a life without him.

It’s not quite the same, because married people aren’t devalued in our society the way long-term singles are.

Strange post. The women who come on here posting about difficult situations with partners are often vulnerable and need advice. You are rarely going to get women posting about how great things are on an advice forum. It would never occur to me to feel smug in others unfortunate situations.

Well you could do, not sure what you'd be hoping to achieve though? Generally the majority of women could easily be single by choice too (i didn't want to say all as there are sadly some who are trapped by abuse etc). Most people in relationships acknowledge there are compromises and for them the benefits of a loving relationship outweigh those compromises. The threads you see on here are invariably by women seeking support so often fairly extreme- why would you consider it beneficial to post something like that to someone who is probably struggling?