Dating 13 years younger

[MondeoFan]

Female almost 53 dating a 40 year old man. Both have a 10 year old DD. Could it work long term with the age gap? What do you think? Is it too big an age gap?

OK now, but 60 and 73? I dated someone 8 years older than me and finished it because of the age gap. I just didn't like what the future looked like.

@LuvACustardCreamand this exactly my thoughts thinking about being 60 and 73 or 70 and 83

I thought you were going to say you are 32 and he's 19 or something, (I know a woman right now who is 34, and has a 19 year old boyfriend, and it makes me nauseous, because he looks like her son. 😖 And it's a bit icky and grimy.)

But 40 and 53 is OK. Not sure how it will pan out long term, and I believe the age gap will be way more apparent when you're 62 and he's 49. But enjoy it for what it is for now.

Despite you thinking you look younger @MondeoFan like most people, you will look fairly close to your age in reality... And once you hit menopause, you will age 10 years in 3-4 years. So be prepared for people thinking you're his mother, because in 3-4 years, he will only be in his early to mid 40s, and you'll be in your mid to late 50s (and as I say, menopause will age you, and he will look much younger than you then.)

My ex DP was 12 years younger than me, and it worked for 6 years. We split at the end of last year, but not because of any age gaps/difference in lifestyle.

Older woman/younger man can work out - like any relationship it all just depends.

Some time back I posted on a thread about someone who was asking about a relationship with an overseas guy and a 14 year gap. I knew someone, aged 40, who married a man from a similar country, same age gap - so a cultural and age gap.

They were very happily married for nearly 40 years until she died aged around 80 a couple of years ago.

There’s a 12-year age gap between me and my DH. I’m in my late 40s, he’s in his mid-30s. It works really well for us; we share a lot in common, along with some differences, just like any couple.

That said, there are a few things I’ve noticed that grate a little, mostly linked to outdated gender stereotypes. For example, when we’re out together, I’m often asked how old I am. Something that rarely happened in my previous relationship (where my ex was seven years older). To me, it highlights how society views an age gap differently depending on who’s older.

Another small irritation is that I’m the higher earner, and my DH sometimes feels judged by his peers for “not pulling his weight” even though, for us, finances are a complete non-issue.

I guess what I’m saying is: be prepared for a little judgment from others, and ride it out if the relationship is worth it!

People have a tendency to not being really honest for telling someone how old they look like. I don't know you and it could be indeed true that you look like 45 but I would take with a pinch of salt observations in that regard.

Johnny Rotten and his wife had a 14 year age gap with her being the elder and it worked for them.

Judy Goodyear is 20 something years older than her husband and they have been together for years and he's stuck by her now she has dementia.

@Almostwelshand this is the exact answer I needed 🙏🏻