Dating 13 years younger

[MondeoFan]

Female almost 53 dating a 40 year old man. Both have a 10 year old DD. Could it work long term with the age gap? What do you think? Is it too big an age gap?

My DH was 15 years older than me and it worked fine for us.
We had a similar lifestyle, out look .
Imo getting the right personality match is much more important than a age match

Yes when we are together you wouldn’t know there was a 13 year gap, we are very similar in lots of ways

Not at this stage in life. 13 years is a lot when one person is very young but I don’t think an age gap like this seems large.

Definitely OK, especially as you say you don't feel

Enjoy!

I've seen it work and I've seen it fail.

Normally due to the woman going off sex quicker than the man when the age gap is fairly big and she's the older one.

But then I've seen that with couples the same age anyway.

Give it a go!

Yuck, that is a grim.

Well I am going through my menopause but def not going off sex. I kinda worry what he sees in me when he could meet someone his own age. I do normally prefer younger men as men my age don’t always look after themselves

why is it grim?

Yes, I would say it could work. Once you have kids - it's more 'life stage' than 'real age'.

Meaning with DD's the same age, they will be into the same things, choosing schools, similar hobbies etc. Not that it should be all about kids but if she was 40 and he was 27 single, career driven, disposable income - let's go to New York to celebrate my new contract and then you have to say - not this weekend DD has a gymnastics display .....

But he'll be your age one day, so presumably you'll think he doesn't 'look after' himself?

Why is it grim? My husband is 13 years older than me and we've been together for years. I've never considered it to be grim.

How old are you lmfao? Another one just hysterically throwing the buzz word ‘grim’ around 😂

Never been a fan of age gaps but many men are never going to stop going younger so why not start to equalise it a bit. I see more older women with younger men these days, and now I’m mid 40s I get more attention from men in their 20s and 30s.

My mother was 15 years older than my dad. They were devoted. And I think it kept her young.

How rude!!!

Because a 47 year old man is not going to have sex with a 60 year old.

And what about vice versa?

George Clooney.

As OP have said it can work but I think that little voice in your head that wonders why he wouldn’t want to be with someone his own age will get more intrusive as you get older. you’ll have to really beef up your self esteem so that those worries don’t cause a problem in themselves. Even if you didn’t tell him about any increasing doubts you had, unless you’re a remarkable actress, they would show.

What about him? Famous good looking older man isn’t the same as typical men. And plenty of older hollywood actresses sleeping with younger men.

I’d say at 52 most people think I’m about 45. I’d say he looks 40. He a gym bunny so is very easy on the eye. I also present well I think, and obviously it’s not all about looks but I wouldn’t want people to look at us and think jeez she’s a lot older than him haha

You'd be surprised

I've known couples with similar age gaps where it has worked and from the outside at least, seemed a long and happy marriage.

A ten year age gap is max for me but I don’t think it’s ’grim.’

I went out with someone ten years older once but he was a bit old-fashioned so the gap was noticeable.

My boyfriend is 9 years older than me, and we are great together. But I do sometimes get a little worry that he will be “old” before I am. Right now, I’m 35 and he is 44 and it’s fine. But, I don’t know, I worry a little about when I’m 61 and he is 70. Anything could happen to either of us, but if nothing does and we just grow older together then I do worry that he’ll be an old man before I’m quite ready to be an old woman! But I love him, 9 years really isn’t that much, so I’m going with it.