To tell DH he is being ridiculous. Can't cope with him when he's ill

[plsdont88]

DH has diarrhea, caught from our toddler daughter.

I cannot cope with him. DD is better now so running circles round me when we are home, I'm working full time, coming home and dealing with everything there, tea, washing, DD, bath time, bed time etc etc all while DH either lies in bed or mopes about (yes in the dressing gown of doom too).

He will not stop going on and on about how ill he is (but can sit and eat Easter eggs all day by the looks of the bin when I got home tonight).

Texting me at work with links to illnesses he thinks he has, asking me to go to the shop to get him certain drinks or snacks he fancies, talking in a stupid whiney voice, telling me repeatedly that his tummy is really hurting or how shit he feels, asking me to take his temp 10 times a day (not got one)

Honestly I'm so past caring. It's been 3 days, DD was awful last week and even SHE wasn't as whiney (she's 3!).

I honestly just want to tell him to shut up now, I get it, he feels shit. I can't remember the last time I got the luxury of just lying in bed for 3 days doing absolutely nothing while he ran ragged even when I have been ill. I'm sick of looking at him, sick of hearing him, sick of him looking at me expecting me to... I don't know? Fawn over how poorly he is I guess.

It's not the fact he's ill, it's the silly neediness as if he's a child.

Arghhhhhhh AIBU to just not be able to muster much sympathy here.

Wait until he's on the mend and then contract the illness yourself. Mirror his behaviour exactly. Give him hell if he dare complain.

I don't know how you can bear it @plsdont88 . Ridiculous.

Has dh seen gp

This. Please do this. And do exactly as he does.

This is why I will never live with a man again. Fuck that shit.

I have had this stomach bug that is doing the rounds. It is the worst I have ever felt. I had symptoms for 2 weeks.

The whiney voice... So fucking pathetic.

Just stop indulging him. Why on earth are you taking his temperature for him because he’s got a tummy bug? I’d tell him
to cease bothering me at work, refuse to buy special drinks and snacks (he’d probably be better on water and toast) and use the phrase “I can’t hear you if you use a whiny voice”.

If he can eat with this tummy bug then he's not really that ill.

I’m with you op - it’s infuriating especially when you have a small child. Definitely stop pandering to him.

100% YANBU. Just reading about him gives me the ick.

Just say hmm

My motto is “Look after them how they look after you.”

Whats wrong with his hands? Why cant he order a thermometer and check his own temperature?

The chocolate is very likely adding to his issues. Stop enabling him and he will get over it quickly.

My husband had a horrible cold and sinusitis last week. We have a 7 month old who wakes hourly, so we're both very sleep deprived and he was feeling completely crap. We also have a very energetic 3 year old. DP still managed to work from home, play, cook dinner, put the toddler to bed, wash up, take the kids for a walk... I'm not praising DP. This stuff had to be done, it's what most mums with a mild common illness would do despite feeling like crap, because the kids need to eat and be entertained.

Your DP needs to grow up.

It is a pretty unpleasant tummy bug.

i have wound up using whoosh and Sainsbury’s deliveroo because I just can’t face leaving the house.

no excuse for whining though

Glad I am not married to you. It’s not a “luxury” to be sick. 🙄

The likely reason he is eating Easter chocolate is because he is too ill to make healthy food to eat and is just grabbing what is easiest.

If it’s noro-virus which is making the rounds, it really isn’t pleasant and can be quite serious requiring hospitalisation.

Have you not been doing anything at all to make sure he stays hydrated? And fed?

Sympathy OP. He sounds pathetic. I would just walk off every time he tried to speak to me.

Same as me never again.
When im ill i get on with life or i can rest in peace without a man child.
Single almost 12 year now and love it.

Absolutely 100% agree with you here. Been there, done that (x2), never living with, or nursing a partner, ever again.

Seriously, who eats chocolate with a tummy bug?! That would be the first sign he’s really not that unwell.
Plain food is normally all most people can stomach, even if still ill, I’m sure he could manage to make some toast?!

Ps: when you are sick of hearing him breathe, you know it's over?

I would be telling him, as you would tell a 3 year old, that he can't be that ill if he's scarfed that many eggs.
And pack in running round after him, that's just mad.

And yes please, fall ill and mirror his exact behaviours for exactly as long.

Chocolate is a laxative.

When I had norovirus I couldn't even look at chocolate let alone stomach it, in fact I didn't eat anything at all for the first day and a half and after that I could only manage half a slice of toast. So I highly doubt it's noro.