DD not organised or studying for GCSEs- AIBU to step in?

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My 15, coming 16 yo DD is soooo disorganised, waiting on ADD assessment but shows all signs, and is dyslexic. Has been attempting studying over Easter hols but not sure much achieved at all. I spend hours last night trying to help sort out school notes and at least collect into subject, but no order or form. She gets overwhelmed, which is why I stepped in for this, but maybe should have at start of holidays? And write up a study timetable, or do I let her struggle on? I helped her last year actually make revision notes and revise for modules which she did much better in than ones she tried on her own….. but this time….. I thought she had learned. She does want to do well, just such a scatter brain!! I don’t know if I have the heart, the energy or if I should be such a helicopter…. But fear the consequences if I don’t will be her under achieving- when should I step in?? If at all?

Yes give her plenty of help. It’s absolutely normal to do so, even for children without suspected ND. One of the big challenges of GCsEs is the number of subjects and how organised you need to be. I always found it useful to get an A3 card and draw everything out- exam dates, revision slots- so you can see it all at once. Also check with her whether ha has everything she needs to revise- notes etc- because getting that together can eat up half the time if you haven’t been organised as you go along.

Yes definitely help her. Buy the revision guides, then help her or do a time table for her. Little and often.
My kids school did revision sessions before and after school for some subjects. Is there nothing like that at her school?

YANBU to step in at all. My son has ADHD and dyslexia and though he's bright and does his best, he's got similar issues with disorganisation and poor time management and he needs help - from a weekly tutor and from us daily to make sure he's doing what needs to be done. I wouldn't pick GCSEs as the time to foster independence and see how they fare. It's the time to get them through it with the help they need, all hands to the pump! It was very different with my older DS who is super organised and on it - ironically because his ND (ASD) makes him fastidious and very time conscious. Each DC has their own needs and sounds like yours needs you to help her fulfil her potential with this now. Later on she can be independent in a line of study/work that suits her strengths, but exams and revision are a very specific challenge that are a huge struggle for some and almost a pleasure for others, so it's right to help those who struggle. You're not doing the work for them, just making sure it gets done and that they'll have all the prep done, whether they're able to perform on the day or not.