I've called in sick

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I haven't been well all week. A heavy cold, but I've been in and done my best. I was in meetings with my boss all day yesterday. She never once asked if I was OK or made the kind of "should you be here?" enquiries other did, and believe me it was obvious I wasn't well. A bit anti social to be there tbh, but you don't call sick with a cold if you're well enough to work...?

I got up and showered, dressed, got as far as putting my shoes on and finding my keys then as I was about to open the door, broke out in a horrible sweat and felt the need to sit down. So I decided sod this and came back to bed.

But if my boss had shown a bit more interest yesterday I might have pushed through...

Why “push through”, there are no medals awarded for going in sick … all you do is make other people poorly.

Your organisation can manage without you for a few days - nothing will collapse.

You're unreasonable for going into work in the first place with a heavy cold.

Take some responsibility. It doesn't matter what your boss thinks. You shouldn't be making other people ill.

Feel better soon! Your boss assumed you were ok to be there as you were there. They are not your teacher. You should have gone home yesterday if you felt unwell

YANBU for taking time off sick.

You were unreasonable however for going into work when you're unwell, most likely with a contagious illness.

The reaction of your boss shouldn't be the reason you push through or not. That's ridiculous.

If you're too sick to work, don't work.

If you're sick but well enough to work, then go to work.

I'd also like to add if you're contagious, either don't work or work from home if you can.

You should have called in sick to begin with if it was “obvious you were unwell”.

I had a cold. Snotty with a cough, but didn't feel particularly ill.

Your boss probably assumed that as you’re an adult, you can decide for yourself whether you’re able to be in.

YANBU to call in if you’re too sick to work though

Going into work with a heavy cold and feeling fine on paracetamol is ok.

Sweating and feeling like shit and needing to climb back into bed means you aren’t well enough to work. So you did the right thing staying home.
good news is when I hit the sweaty mess part it’s usually as I break a fever and I recover afterwards so hopefully a day in bed/ on the sofa catching up on box sets and MNing will have to back to health quite soon.

I would take Friday off as well though so you have 4 full days to bounce back.

If you are poorly you should not be working end of. Do not feel an ounce of guilt, just rest and return when you feel fully fit.I remember one of my lovely colleagues passing away very suddenly, there was a brief announcement on the teams chat from the management team and the working day continued. Her job was advertised a few weeks later, we are all replaceable and as harsh as it may sound just a number.It is so important we look after our own mental and physical wellbeing.

They're your boss, not your mum, and you're an adult. YABU.

Was there not a chance to work from home and do online meetings? Surely going in just spreads the germs?

No boss revoked previous hybrid working and has made it very clear no one wfh, no matter the circumstances

I don’t think the onus of recognising illness should be with your employer. As with workload stress or any other issue at work, you have to speak up.

YANBU to take time off when you’re unwell. YABU to expect your manager to broach the topic with you if you haven’t yourself. You’re an adult.

YANBU to be off sick.

But YABU to expect your boss to make that decision for you. It’s not up to her to send you home. It feels a bit like someone expecting their mum to keep them off school.

I wouldn’t appreciate someone snotty with a cough coming into work.

Well no, but you probably also don't appreciate colleagues calling in sick every time they have a cold?

Your boss, rightly, assumed as you are a grown adult that you would have made the decision to go into work based on how bad you were feeling.
If you are honestly saying the reason you didn’t go in today was because your boss didn’t ask how you were feeling yesterday comes across as really petty

You sound like you expected your boss to 'send you home' yesterday and because she didn't you are now punishing her by calling in sick.
You are responsible for yourself, you were either well enough to work yesterday or you weren't. Plenty of people are snuffly at the mo due to hay-fever, she might not have realised you were ill.

I never ask the “should you be here” question of my team, they are all adults who are able to judge if they are capable of coming in to work that day. You sound like you expected to be martyred for going in with a cold and because you weren’t your throwing your toys out. How old are you?!

You're either well enough to work or you're not. If you don't feel up to it, then of course yanbu to take time off. But yabu to base this on whether or not your boss asked if you were ok yesterday. Yes, she should have asked you, but that shouldn't have any bearing on what you do today.

Completely ridiculous to go into work with a cough.

I’m a manager at work. It’s fine to phone in sick, I would rather you took time to rest and feel better than come in, feel awful and infect the rest of the team. When you called I’d wish you well and tell you I will see you when you’re better.

What I hate is someone coming in unwell, moping around and expecting me to tell them to go home. I’m not your mum or school teacher, as an adult you can tell me if you don’t feel up to it.

It's not OK to go into work with a heavy cold and spread it around.

Work from home or don't work.

Your colleagues and any other commuters you come across on your way in are not going to appreciate you coughing and snotting all over the place and you don't know who might be more vulnerable than you.

I’d rather they called in sick than came in coughing and sputtering all over the place.