Women over 80

[Milaking]

I am 88 years old and in good health and sound mind. I would like to have a companion but the man interested in me is 83 and I don’t really fancy old peoples fumbling which he is keen on. I was young with a good sexual appetite but I now surrender that part to where it belongs - to days of youth. But finding interesting men who read books and bring something new into your is rare. Can you get companionship without the mind boggling activities which would just make me laugh now. What do other single very old ladies do?

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I love how you say you don't fancy old people peoples fumbling 😂

Knit?

I’m sure you can find what you’re looking for. In my experience local theatre groups, local events like poetry evenings and exhibitions and political parties offer a great social scene for older folk. Others I know have met interesting people through volunteer work and community gardening projects. Also there are bound to be online dating type things catering for your demographic and you can be clear what you’re looking for. Good luck and enjoy!

No advice really but wanted to wish you good luck! Some friends of my aunt’s have just started a relationship - they are both widowed and knew each other socially for years - in fact they were very much a foursome with their late partners, which has raised a few eyebrows (unreasonably, I think). Is there anyone currently in your life who could become a companion/partner?

What about U3A?

I just wanted to say you sound amazing!

@Milaking my dad is 80 and a widow. He joined some bereavement support groups after my mum passed. He's more active socially than me 🤣🤣 I'm sure there are some social sites out there. Good luck x

I’d take the Maltesers off him.

I was going to suggest U3A. They have meet ups and groups for all sorts near me - everything from bridge and learning languages to political discussion and art appreciation.

We have several over 90 year olds in our walking group who regularly do 5-7 mile hilly walks - and they have very fit and active minds to go with their fit and active (if a bit wrinkly) bodies. It's a great way to make new friends.

In what way?

I hope I don't come across as anything other than genuine asking this, just curious as to why a woman who wants to meet a partner and not have sexual contact with him is 'amazing'?

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What interests do you have?

I have a friend, who is 82. She cycles with a group and volunteers at her local Oxfam bookshop.

I always hear really interesting conversations between the staff in our local Oxfam Books. I sometimes hang around to earwig.

As in remove his access to Viagra?

Find a toy boy? Better than old man’s fumbles, I bet!
Become a lady who lunches, or does afternoon tea?
if you read the magazine Yours there is a section for people looking for others with similar interests. Often stipulated is, car driver, travel, solvent, likes reading, tall, and the request sometimes ends with friendship or more…

What do single, very old ladies do? Eat, watch TV and dream of non fumbling not so old men!

Thanks a million for posts-maybe I should just act my age. I have cooked, knitted, quilted and most of my life as an expat I helped women with income generating projects in Belize , Africa , Indonesia and places where my husband were posted to. I looked forward to doing nothing but never got around to it as curiosity always kept me going. To the gent who could not understand why I would not want sex with a companion the answer is simple….my husband was gorgeous and we were young and that’s what I remember. Talking to the few friends I have left it seems that women past 85 would be very contented with a cup of hot chocolate and wondering why women in top political positions feel they should be tough. Remember Mrs Thatcher?
Now our Labour Party is going for the pensioners, the disabled and those least able to fend for themselves. Having said all that if there is an old gentleman interested in discussing what makes Trump behave like a modern Napoleon …… Fish and chips or English curry for a bit of nostalgia.

grateful for the posts especially the ones that made me laugh.

Ah, I sort of get it. I've been with DH for more than 35 years and if anything were to happen to him, whilst I'd probably like companionship, I wouldn't want anyone else in my bed except the cats.

To be honest, MIL and mother, who are almost 89, find keeping tabs on their hospital appointments taxing and go out far less than they did. Mother who could do the splits two years ago, now worries about going up to the village. On that note, please enjoy every single minute of good quality of life and if you don't want a wrinkly fumble, don't have one.

'Now our Labour Party is going for the pensioners, the disabled and those least able to fend for themselves.'

A lot of older people (including many men) I know are campaigning on these very issues and others, whether through petitions, webinars, demos, letters etc. Is this something that could interest you? You've also had a very interesting life. How about creative writing groups?

Do you still want kisses and cuddles, just no sex? If not and it's just companionship, do you really need a man? Have women friends instead? Or gay men? There might still be men out there not interested in sex, but it's probably few ans far between

I'm "only" 45 but have zero libido. A good book, some nice chocolates and interesting conversation is my idea of a good relationship. 😄

Never act your age, continuing to embrace your fun side.
Best of luck on finding an interesting companion and new friendships.