Women over 80

[Milaking]

I am 88 years old and in good health and sound mind. I would like to have a companion but the man interested in me is 83 and I don’t really fancy old peoples fumbling which he is keen on. I was young with a good sexual appetite but I now surrender that part to where it belongs - to days of youth. But finding interesting men who read books and bring something new into your is rare. Can you get companionship without the mind boggling activities which would just make me laugh now. What do other single very old ladies do?

I’m 70 and recently bereaved. There is no way I want any sort of relationship with a man. These days I much prefer the company of women. Have you tried the university of the 3rd age OP?

I don’t blame you to be put off by the fumbling. I’d try to make more female, platonic friendships if you can. Most men seem to be interested in the sexual side of things no matter what their age.

My mum had the best (imo) relationship of her life with a man she met at 75; he was 80. He died last year at 99 - they only stopped having sex five years ago, after they both had strokes. According to Mum he was a bit fumbly at first but she taught him 😂

I've got to admit sex would be far too much effort for me now, but I'm not as fit & healthy as you. I think you'll have to make your mind up whether you're more interested in sexless companionship, in which case many men in your age group may be candidates, what with prostate trouble and bad backs, or a sexy one, which will probably mean seducing a younger man and getting rid of him when he can no longer keep up.

You sound like a fascinating woman. I'm sure you can build a social life to suit you. Depends on whether you specifically want a male friend and, if so, what for!

Me too, my mind was boggling!

I'm 75 and prefer my own company but I understand some people like to have someone to go out and about with, have a laugh, etc. That sounds perfectly reasonable.

You have to make it clear from the outset that nothing else is on the menu, op. There are men who would be more than happy with that but - not many from what i see :).

I have a FWB who is in the late 70's. We enjoy each others company as well as the sex.

I know people who have found like minded companionship on a saga cruise. It’s given them both a new lease of life at 90+ and late 80s.

Thinking along the same lines; not being ,sportive, this is definitely the way to go. Take a few books and do Pilates. I really marvel at the 90 year olds bicycling and walking for miles. The trouble is my age? At 88 your friends have either gone into nursing homes or gone to the other side. I am, so grateful to everybody for their kind suggestions.

mila.