Page 6 | To ask what the most ridiculous advice/suggestion you've seen on here is?

Phillipconnarthy · 2025-04-21T19:11:37+00:00

I was looking for ways to pay off my credit card faster and was told by somebody that I should sell my TV (it cost around £110) on which I only have Netflix and don't pay for a licence as I don't watch anything else. I was told watching TV is a luxury and I should be happy with just listening to the radio! It made me feel that some people think people with debt or low income don't deserve even the simplest of pleasures. Has anyone else had silly advice?

TallulahBetty · 22/04/2025 14:01

"Take it in a lodger". For all money worries, this is ALWAYS trotted out. Doesn't matter if they OP is a single woman, dependant kids, vulnerable, small house - it's always 'take in a lodger'.

ItGhoul · 22/04/2025 14:04

Another one that really stuck in my mind was when someone posted that they were in tears because they'd had to put back a 50p reduced price cake they'd wanted to treat their child to because they didn't have enough in their bank account to pay for their supermarket shop, and they were desperately worried that the amount of petrol in their car wouldn't be enough to get them to work every day before they were paid. One of the suggestions was 'Why you don't you buy an electric bike? They're cheaper to run.'

SparkyBlue · 22/04/2025 14:16

I see some awful advice and I always wonder if the poster is tone deaf or just being nasty and a shit stirrer.
The one that always gets me is if you are having a minor issue with a neighbour and the neighbour has never given you any bother previously and seems to be an otherwise reasonable person(we aren't talking about major anti social behaviour or substance abuse issues) then pop a passive aggressive note through their letterbox rather than have a quick conversation with them when you see them.

LongRangeDessertGroup · 22/04/2025 14:18

limefruit · 22/04/2025 13:46

The thread where some woman kicked off in a toilet and someone suggested the OP offer her a creme egg because she was obviously having a tough day.

That’s one of my favourites.

The winner for me though is the one where OP inherited a house with sitting tenants and was told to give it to them. The person giving such helpful advice threw in a comment along the lines of “But you won’t do that, will you?”
No too fucking right they won’t, nor would anyone with an ounce of sanity.

Happyasarainbow · 22/04/2025 14:23

One that made me laugh was two threads on the same day, 1) titled 'being healthier' and 2) titled 'eating less sugar'. However, they both discussed eating too much junk food as their main problem in their posts and essentially were asking the same question.

Post 1) had some great responses about adopting healthy habits progressively, and I actually picked up a couple of tips. Post 2) was almost uniformly "NO fruit, NO pasta, if you even LOOK at a slice of bread you will NEVER BREAK YOUR SUGAR ADDICTION!!! UNSEASONED VEG AND LEAN PROTEIN FOR EVERY MEAL!!!

I just didn't get how two such similar threads got such different responses.

LongRangeDessertGroup · 22/04/2025 14:23

VanillaVein · 22/04/2025 10:55

Last year an OP was having a serious medical issue and was apprehensive about going to hospital. Many of the comments were telling the her to stay at home and see how she felt in a few days because well the usual NHS excuses. Another poster noticed how serious an emergency it was for the OP and that she needed medical attention asap. The OP updated to say she went to hospital on the advice of that poster and was found to be experiencing or on the verge of, if I remember rightly, sepsis. Had the OP not gone to A&E that evening she may not have woken up the next morning.

If anyone remembers this in more detail or I've got bits wrong let me know, I can't remember the thread or the poster who recognised the symptoms.

If it’s the same one then the OP was having really heavy menstrual bleeding and said it wasn’t normal for her.
I think she mentioned how many pads she’d gone through and some posters were saying oh that’s not a reason to go to A&E (because it was normal for them) but thankfully she did attend and was told if she’d left it much later she could have died.

ZoggyStirdust · 22/04/2025 14:27

SparkyBlue · 22/04/2025 14:16

I see some awful advice and I always wonder if the poster is tone deaf or just being nasty and a shit stirrer.
The one that always gets me is if you are having a minor issue with a neighbour and the neighbour has never given you any bother previously and seems to be an otherwise reasonable person(we aren't talking about major anti social behaviour or substance abuse issues) then pop a passive aggressive note through their letterbox rather than have a quick conversation with them when you see them.

I think it’s a mixture of reasons.

some struggle to comprehend life outside their own experience so just can’t fathom how other lives differ. Some are just stupid. Some get a kick out of being nasty. Some project their own bad experiences and assume everyone (male) is awful. Some struggle with comprehension.

sometimes it’s pretty much all of the above

HuffleMyPuffle · 22/04/2025 14:44

ItGhoul · 22/04/2025 13:17

Whenever someone says “Always trust your gut OP!!!” to a poster who is clearly paranoid, obsessive and hyper-anxious to the point of mental illness.

“AIBU to be sick with worry over this? I borrowed DH’s phone to do something I could easily have just done on my own phone, and I accidentally logged into his work Teams account and saw he had messaged a girl in his office four months ago to ask if she was going to the same meeting as him later that day, she is younger than him and when I looked her up on Facebook I can see that 15 years ago when she was celebrating her A-level results she once posted a photo of herself on a beach in a bikini. DH has also recently bought a new shirt. When I quizzed him about her for six hours and threatened to kill myself, he told me I was insane. AIBU to think he is gaslighting me and is having an affair? This is what the demonic voices in my head are telling me.”

“Always trust your gut OP. On the face of it this could be innocent, but if your spidey senses are telling you something’s wrong, it probably is.”

And when you try to point out that maybe, just maybe, they need help for the anxiety you get called a bully

MattCauthon · 22/04/2025 14:47

AndrinaAdamosballetshoes · 22/04/2025 13:25

On a diet thread a poster advised the OP to not eat a raw carrot as a snack as they were too high in sugar, they were deadly serious!

Oh god yes, the food ones are INSANE.

"My child is overweight, and I know it's a problem. The issue is that she just loves eating and wants massive portions and if I turn my back for a second, she's snacking. What can I do? I do encourage her to eat fruit or carrot sticks after school instead"\

"FRUIT? FRUIT? It's the FOOD OF THE DEVIL don't you know!? Oh. My. God. Your child is FAT because you let her eat too many GRAPES. People like you should be reported to social services for neglect."

I did once get scolded, aggressively, for mentioning that I sometimes give DS little slices of salami or chorizo in his lunch box. Apparently, he was on a direct, fast-track road to cancer.

PersephoneSmith · 22/04/2025 14:48

Somebody has probably already said it, but it’s got to be ‘just give the house to the tenants’ post
😮😮😮
fuckwit

Whoonearthareyou · 22/04/2025 14:56

Usually something along the lines of 'Last year I went through a terrible divorce, DS and I were made homeless. A year later and everything is brilliant, I'm having a new baby with a new man but my DS behaviour has become a problem.' Advice 'have you considered DS may have ADHD?'

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 22/04/2025 15:02

MattCauthon · 22/04/2025 14:47

Oh god yes, the food ones are INSANE.

"My child is overweight, and I know it's a problem. The issue is that she just loves eating and wants massive portions and if I turn my back for a second, she's snacking. What can I do? I do encourage her to eat fruit or carrot sticks after school instead"\

"FRUIT? FRUIT? It's the FOOD OF THE DEVIL don't you know!? Oh. My. God. Your child is FAT because you let her eat too many GRAPES. People like you should be reported to social services for neglect."

I did once get scolded, aggressively, for mentioning that I sometimes give DS little slices of salami or chorizo in his lunch box. Apparently, he was on a direct, fast-track road to cancer.

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I got absolutely bollocked once on a lunchbox thread over ham and strawberry yogurt. I was giving the kid cancer, setting them up for failure, making them obese, they has searched my previous threads and it NO WONDER I struggle with my weight when I feed the children rubbish like this.

Literally my question was "said child is underweight, docs want more calories in her, does anyone know of a way to make strawberry greek yogurt more like the kiddies lunchbox ones because she would eat 6 if she could but they're fucking expensive and greek yogurt has more calories"

I then said that I was actually said Childs nanny not her parent and caused 2-7 people to spontaneously combust with anger. To this day i have no idea whether they ever actually survived said combustion.

mantaraya · 22/04/2025 15:07

When someone is devastated after finding gross porn all over their husband's phone / iPad

"Why don't you suggest watching it together? You might enjoy it! It might spice things up a bit!"

Bleurgh

mamajong · 22/04/2025 15:09

Shmee1988 · 22/04/2025 10:22

This!! And if you dare to entertain the idea that men make mistakes you're almost certainly going to be met with 'well, if that's what you're willing to accept then you're setting an incredibly low bar for yourself'.... when really all he did was leave the toilet seat up/forgot to take rubbish out etc

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Exactly this! 👏

buriedminion · 22/04/2025 15:17

LTB when he has the absolute NERVE to fart in front of you…

mathanxiety · 22/04/2025 15:22

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 21/04/2025 20:51

A lot of the most ridiculous advice I've seen on here is by often lone posters in a sea of 'LTBs' suggesting how the OP should lower her standards and pander to her awful husband in order to improve their relationship.

Oh yes indeed.
Along the same lines, "Talk to him. Tell him how you feel."

Sidebeforeself · 22/04/2025 15:33

Learn to drive and/or buy a second car. That’s one always makes my blood boil.

Move into the spare room….what spare room?!

tothelefttotheleft · 22/04/2025 15:40

@unicornsarereal72

They have the teeth they just don't use them!

Roundaboot · 22/04/2025 15:45

When DS was in Year 1, I posted about how he kept forgetting stuff at the end of school. Every single day, he'd have to be sent back in to collect his jumper, or his reading book, or his water bottle etc. I was asking for any strategies or tips to get him to remember.
One poster advised getting a little girl in his class to remind him to, as girls tended to be better at this stuff than boys and she's probably be really happy to help. 🙄

And people wonder why we end up with useless men who can't wipe their own arses without being reminded by the nearest person with a vagina!

MrsFrumble · 22/04/2025 15:48

Aahhh yes! All that respite care (bonus points if they spell it “rest bite” 😂) High quality and free of charge, just a phone call or email away for struggling parents of disabled children. A bit like all those special school places that are out there, if only parents weren’t so obtuse and insistent that their child struggles along in mainstream when they obviously can’t cope.

It must be nice to be so detached from reality.

Sidebeforeself · 22/04/2025 15:50

Oh and dont forget the free 1st hour of legal advice!

ItGhoul · 22/04/2025 15:56

mantaraya · 22/04/2025 15:07

When someone is devastated after finding gross porn all over their husband's phone / iPad

"Why don't you suggest watching it together? You might enjoy it! It might spice things up a bit!"

Bleurgh

Equally, the far more common response is more akin to "Your DH looked at a video of people shagging? He is a hateful misogynist and a pervert who hates women, is addicted to porn and probably wants to beat you and choke you. LTB immediately, this should be a dealbreaker. MY husband never looks at porn, he thinks it's disgusting". That is also fairly terrible advice.

HuffleMyPuffle · 22/04/2025 16:07

Also anything where posters start criticising the man even though the OPnis clearly in the wrong/overreacting because they sense a chance to attack men

x2boys · 22/04/2025 16:36

MrsFrumble · 22/04/2025 15:48

Aahhh yes! All that respite care (bonus points if they spell it “rest bite” 😂) High quality and free of charge, just a phone call or email away for struggling parents of disabled children. A bit like all those special school places that are out there, if only parents weren’t so obtuse and insistent that their child struggles along in mainstream when they obviously can’t cope.

It must be nice to be so detached from reality.

I actuaualy saw one poster advising phoning socisl services to ask for a place in a residential school
Yes because its just that simple 🙄

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 22/04/2025 17:49

winnieanddaisy · 22/04/2025 12:51

The problem is that the CMS cannot take money from his bank account at all . They do an attachment of earnings from his wages before it hits his bank account . The problem with this is if he is self employed they can’t take it from his earnings. So the mother doesn’t get the money .

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They don't even have to be self employed. They just have to change job very frequently - by the time CMS has caught up with them, they've gone again. This is what my XH did - he's in an industry where his job is in high demand, so he could stay in a job until CMS started sniffing around, and then leave and pick up another job elsewhere. Basically, if they don't want to pay there is very little legal recourse to stop them avoiding paying, whatever CMS might shout that they CAN do, because they generally don't.