To ask what the most ridiculous advice/suggestion you've seen on here is?

[Phillipconnarthy]

I was looking for ways to pay off my credit card faster and was told by somebody that I should sell my TV (it cost around £110) on which I only have Netflix and don't pay for a licence as I don't watch anything else.

I was told watching TV is a luxury and I should be happy with just listening to the radio!
It made me feel that some people think people with debt or low income don't deserve even the simplest of pleasures.

Has anyone else had silly advice?

This is my personal pet peeve one. Just leave your kids with an angry abusive husband if you get tired and fed up

It’s the combination on here of wrong and stupid, but so confident that it can be almost aggressive, like they’re personally wounded if you don’t immediately do what they say.

A while ago, but a poster was due to go on holiday the next day and had just realised that the DC's passport was out of date asked what they should do.

"Could you borrow a passport from a cousin or friend who is about the same age?" was not great advice.

@Shmee1988 yeah but they don't. I’m still waiting 8 years on. Every time it gets to court which takes months if not years he starts paying so it starts all over again. Or changes jobs. Then it’s a three month wait for payments to start. I get a few then it stops. Trust me they have no teeth to actually do anything

Generally I loathe LTB advice. Because it's so easy these days to pay for a family home on a single income and cover childcare and cope with the emotional distress of children coping with divorce when you barely see because you have to work full-time even though your salary won't cover the bills.

People need practical advice on how to prep for as pain-free and financially secure a divorce as possible not just 'get your ducks in a row and LTB.

Any of the "just break X law because I do it all the time and they never check" posts tbh

It's insulting when people say, "Become a TA" as if anyone can do it. I'm a TA with 18 years experience working with children with sen(and numerous child related qualifications including a degree) and it's not just an easy, stop gap job anyone can do. For most of us it's a position we love and value.

What annoys me is some of the in law advice. Yes, MIL is a bit overbearing or rude or perhaps SIL causes a few problems and OP gets told "just refuse to see them or have them in your house". Its like all these people live in a vacuum where they can do what they like without worrying about knock on effects. LIke going NC with an entire section of your family is no big deal and won't cause a single problem for you or anyone else.

When someone posts about a concerning change in her partner’s behaviour indicating infidelity and someone advises that the OP obviously doesn’t trust him. This invalidates her genuine concerns and implies it’s all in her head. Just awful.

Whenever someone posts that they’d ‘move heaven and earth’ to do whatever OP is unable to do but doesn’t specify what steps they’d actually take to achieve this.

On a thread recently when someone supposedly overheard someone at the hairdressers saying she never pays her bills and the hairdresser replied "what are you like", someone said to leave negative reviews all over for the hairdresser!

And one yesterday where a wife had seen her husband bad mouthing her to all his contacts on whatsapp and she was told by one poster to "use it as an opportunity to better yourself now you know what bothers him" 😖

Disabled people who are too ill to work should apply for jobs as refuse collectors.

There was a bridesmaids one a while ago, I can’t remember the exact scenario but one older child was a bridesmaid and two younger siblings were not. People suggesting that the OP buy the other two the exact same bridesmaid dress and take them to the church. I would think the mother was unhinged if I was at that wedding.

ARFID threads are always full of bad advice along the lines of "they'll eat eventually" and "they won't let themselves starve to death". Um, yeah, they will. That's ARFID.

Also good for loads of judgement like "it's shocking you only let them eat 'safe food of choice', of course they won't eat real food if they're being offered that".

Don't take into account ofsted ratings/achievements at GCSEs, it will be absolutely fine to send your child to a failing school, at least they will be happy.

Take in a lodger. (works for anyone in financial difficulty, including for the lady on 100k who was just having a rant that a really good salary doesn't go as far as it used to)

Your manager put you on a PIP/told you off about something /refused flexi/breathed too hard in your direction - that's clearly discrimination, take them to court.

"Call the police, get it logged" for any slight inconvenience which is fuck all to do with the police.

Mine actually started paying! Youngest child was 25!! Then he retired and didn't have to pay any more, so...

Posts about antisocial neighbour noise.
"Move to a detached house with no neighbours then "

"Which would be better as a Christmas gift for my 14yr old? Xbox, Playstation, or Switch?"

Followed by helpful 'advice' about how wasteful big gifts are, how dangerous/rubbish/damaging consoles are, that any sort of gift like that is excessive for Christmas, and that most DC - this 14yr old included - should be happy with nothing more than an ethically sourced stick and some homemade organic paints.

I remember one thread a few years ago where a woman was worried her husband was having or on the verge of having an affair with a school run mum.

One particular piece of advice I remembered was to spread rumours about the potential OW, then steal her DH's phone and text her to set up a meeting, pretending to be him. She would then go there instead and say that he didn't want her anymore.

Another suggested writing a letter to an abusive, cheating arsehole that his behaviour was like 'death by a thousand cuts'. Because yes, that'll definitely work.

I was trying to buy a house during 2022 when the market was crazy. I stated in my OP that I had to be in a certain area because of family and DD school and that I had a 60% deposit and was borrowing 2 x my income (although I could flex up to stay in the area).

A lot of posters from the other side of the country came along to post “perfect” houses they’d found on Rightmove for me. These houses were on the opposite side of my city and would have been a good 90 minute commute to DD school.

Then the mumsnet hiss squad came along to chide me for trying to buy what I couldn’t afford (see paragraph 1 above for affordability).

The reading comprehension on mumsnet is often appalling.

The problem is that the CMS cannot take money from his bank account at all . They do an attachment of earnings from his wages before it hits his bank account . The problem with this is if he is self employed they can’t take it from his earnings. So the mother doesn’t get the money .

Yep, same with parking threads. Buy a house with a drive way then 😂

Usually any advice from people who havent RTFT and haven't even read the OP properly. So their advice is both out of date and incorrect.

To keep the baby when it’s obvious the OP is in a middle of a shitshow and the dad won’t be a father.

When the only good thing to come out of a shitshow is a baby, probably best for the baby not to be born. It goes against the female instinct of procreation, it goes against the Hallmark postcard, let’s play dolls vibe of so many around here, but it is true.

I've read something stupid on every single thread.

One thing that really, REALLY annoys me is quoting the ops first post.