Is it just me or is there too much dad bashing on MN?

[Rastyopolis]

Just wondering if I’m the only one fed up of seeing posts where dad’s are always the ones in the wrong.

Depends though doesn't it?

Obviously a women centric forum is going to have lots of women asking for help and advice regarding their partners inability to parent 50% of the time, which some might construe as man/father bashing.

The better question is why do so many men defer parenting to their partners. You see it everywhere, in parks or beaches or at zoos.

Because men are big children themselves ! This is what I’ve learned, they need mothering. And us women are their second mothers whether we want to be or not

Don't worry. The rest of the internet redresses the balance and will laud men for basic parenting

Speak for yourself and the man in your life. You don’t speak for all of us or our partners.

I see it all the time and when the woman does the same thing it’s usually fine. Things like snooping on the phone is allowed for a woman but forbidden for a man etc

@Boredlass there is definitely a lot of double standards on MN

There are far too many men who should never have procreated. Calling out their sexist, selfish, and often abusive behavior is a necessity.

Its just that we don’t tend to come on and post about how our husband was great and did the dishes, talked to our daughter about her future career, and then got to work early for a meeting. There is nothing interesting about posting about the men who day to day are doing it right.

I only see posts bashing useless dads.

Well mainly posts bashing useless dads.

The one where the poster is clearly in the wrong has people telling them that.

What? Are us little ladies not permitted to be truthful when our relationships are shit and the men in our lives behave badly - must have missed that memo

There are no threads bashing good dads/husbands, just the shitty ones.

Woman are allowed to talk to other woman about the crap men in their lives.

Stop trying to police our conversations.

Bashing men / dads and jumping to leave him.

Solution to any thing that’s not quite perfect.

The problem is too many shit men, not the women who need to vent on here and get advice.

It's just you

Pretty much proving the OP's point.

I disagree. What many highlight is the bad dads, the Disney dads and the many unsuitable men there are. We all know there are the good ones, but no-one is likely to come seeking advice about them.

An analogy is that if you get good customer service you might tell 2 or 3 people, bad service more like 22 or 23.

Women with useless partners are going to come on forums and vent. If theres not issues they’re not going to make a thread about it.

An even better question would be why are so many women choosing to have children with unsuitable men?

There are a lot of double standards in life. Lots that relate to women's behaviour specifically.

Unsurprising that a huge internet forum will display a wide variety of opinions and experience.

i.e. blame women for the actions of men

Do you think my now ex husband abused me before we had children and I still decided to have children with him anyway? or have you considered the fact that men like my ex only start to act like that after the children are born?

How is 'Just wonderering' poilcing what women say? Surely that's a willful misinterpretation of the OP?

Many are responsible for their actions.
Women are responsible for their actions. In some cases that action is to have children with an obviously useless man.

I've seen many posts on here where women complain that a man doesn't to his share with the 3 children. Why have a 2nd and 3rd with him then!!!

Do men who have a kid get 'bashed' when they are fully functional, equal household members who perform all drudgery without needing asked, who educate themselves on parenting and child development and really knows their kid, who are intelligent, feminist, do everything the woman does for the kid- if not more?

I noticed the males getting mildly 'bashed' on this one website tend to be scum/deadbeats. Happy to be shown examples where genuinely brilliant men get slagged off.

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@Rastyopolis Just you.

the 'just wondering' isn't the problem. It's the following comment the the OP is 'fed-up of seeing' which is the problem. Anyone with a reasonable level of intelligence and reading comprehension could see that.