To think we can move to a nicer home now?

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DH thinks we should stay put until both DC get into secondary school. We live quite close to a decent secondary school which would be guaranteed from where we currently live.

however if we move we could get a much nicer, bigger home with a lovely garden and much needed extra space. I’m desperate to move. DC are 7 and 9

we would be moving from KT17 (Epsom) to SM7 (Banstead) and would be a really nice upgrade on the property. Kids are bright and think would do fine anywhere, but DH feels strongly about schools. AIBU to think he is overthinking this!?

The most obvious question is what are the schools like in the area you're moving to. Schools are important, so unless they're equally as good or better, I would stay put.

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Depends what schools in the new area are like. Also would your kids have to move primary school?

Agree with your DH that school is the priority.

He has a valid reason for feeling how he does and he should have an equal say.
He's not saying no, just not yet. For reasons that seem understandable.

It sounds like your current home is fine, you just want more? Or are you suffering in a tiny 2 bed with twins on the way that force a move?

@SaladSandwichesForTea as they say - it’s all relative- how much more is ‘more needed space - I saw someone who posted this the other week and had a nice 1600 sq ft home- and 3 of them - it was more ‘wants’ certainly not ‘needs’

Schools should be the priority, I can't think of any good ones that serve Banstead so your DH is right.

Unless you are guaranteed to get into a good school once you've moved stay until the eldest gets I to secondary school, the other one will be easier to get in as a sibling.

Banstead high street is nice but colleague spends her life as a taxi for her dc as the station is quite far from their house & not great for walking particularly in winter. Not sure how this compares to where you are now though.

Thanks all, we can walk to station atm.

for space we have 3 bed but dc often need to share as we have family from abroad staying a lot. 4 bed would fix this.

also we would love an extra reception room as it’s just kitchen with small table and then living room downstairs.

The secondary school in Banstead isn’t great, so your DH is right to be cautious about moving early.

I’ve just looked and the secondary school does prioritise siblings, so we may just need to wait until eldest gets in if we decide/agree to wait

You definitely need to stay put.

I totally agree with your DH. Family staying from a road need to avail themselves of one of the local Premier Inns as there's no room at yours.

Banstead is cheaper for a reason.

Colleague only moved that way once she got the eldest dc into school. They moved for more space because it's cheaper but I think she regrets it a bit.

I'd live in a caravan rather than send my kids to a crappy school.

That sounds fine and can wait until your kids are in a decent school. If the sharing for relatives causes any huge issues then relatives can stay in a hotel or air bnb. Wanting extra rooms for hosting isn’t a good enough reason to disadvantage your kids

Be REALLY careful with that!! It would not be fun to have to drive one child to one school while the other attends the other. Just make sure you do your research on the sibling policy! I doubt a sibling would have priority over a catchment child!

Could you nor get a new house in Epsom?

Schools do v much matter!

Sometimes, admission criteria are changed. Many schools have changed them in recent years to prioritise catchment children.You could still end up with one in one school and one in another.

The schools choice would be the 100% deciding factor for me. I would stay until both dc were in a good school.

Schools are important and I think you’d be mad to move away at this point.

Stay where you are . Family can get a hotel room. Prioritise your own children’s education.

Disagree with ‘DC will do well anywhere’. Would prioritise school, then proximity to public transport for teens, and for the most popular wouldn’t assume current admissions criteria will still apply in 3 years’ time.

@RosesAndHellebores can i ask if you used privates close to Epsom? just wondering which ones are.

this is the admission criteria…which ranks siblings over distance. I don’t think it matters where they live