AIBU to hate bank holidays?

[SophieB0012]

I literally cannot wait for Easter to be over. I feel this horrible crushing pressure to do stuff whenever it's a bank holiday and when the weathers nice I feel like the worst mum and human in the world if we're in the house. We managed to fit in quite a bit at the start of the holidays and now we're all tired and a bit irritable and I just want my routine back.

I don't really know what I want out of this post. I guess it would just make me feel a bit better if someone else also just hates it and wants normality back. I think I've got undiagnosed ADHD and I'm much better when I'm quite literally forced into the school routine. I have to be up and out (often a bit late but still) and once I am up and out everything else feels easier to cope with. I find having to think of things to do and planning stuff excruciating - like almost painful. I'm starting to think as I write this maybe I should look at some sort of therapy 😂

The trouble is once the kids are back at school I miss them terribly and then feel awful I didn't plan more and make the most of it more. In all honesty I would like to remove my brain and give it a good scrub and put it back in.

I love Bank holidays but I can understand where you are coming from because this one is right at the end of the holiday. Don't beat yourself up about it, sounds like you've already done stuff and they will not care what they are doing today bar getting easter eggs!

It’s ok to do life at your pace op!
Theres nothing wrong with getting up at 9 on a holiday, mooching around and then heading out in your own time.

And once mine go back next Tues there is a bank holiday the following Monday! And another one 3 weeks after that!

I've got sunshine, hope you have OP and enjoy the day you have planned for today.

@SophieB0012

YABVU. Go out and play with your kids, and have some fun with them. It's going to be lovely today! They're young for a short time, and you'll regret it when they're grown and have left home, and you hardly see them!

You'll be posting on here in a decade or so, saying 'my kids rarely ring me and I'm lucky if I get 3 visits a year from them!' 😢 And it will be more likely if you can't be bothered to make some effort with them now.

Sounds like you've been doing plenty.

If the holidays are all go all the time they'll go back to school exhausted. They need down time as well as fun time

I hope you have a great day.

This really made me laugh because DDs will have been with us to B&Q four times this Easter holiday 🤣. We're doing a home renovation at the moment so needs must. And this morning they've been eating Easter eggs and watching cartoons while DH and I strip out the downstairs bathroom. They'll survive! Social media is not real life. It's a shame to waste the rare opportunity to completely chill out with misplaced feelings of guilt.

I’ve never liked bank holidays either, it’s the enforced day off, I like days off when I want them! Plus they always feel like an extra Sunday. Easter is basically four Sundays in a row for me.

Easter Sunday is definitely a lazy day in this house, we're all shattered!!

We've done days out for 2 weeks and now I'm tired and skint so I've said today is about having chocolate, movies and a lovely roast dinner and I'm not going out.

But we're out again tomorrow and Tuesday and back to school Wednesday.

What's disappointing that due to bickering and tantrums, I only have happy memories of 2 days!! Why can't siblings just get on?? 🙄

Sounds like you’ve done lots of lovely things with your DC and because Easter is at the end of the holidays you are Easter holidayed out.

It’s exactly views like this that put additional pressure on mums to be perfect mothers. Don’t be so judgemental. OP isn’t saying she doesn’t enjoy the opportunity. She just feels overwhelmed. Have you never felt overwhelmed by anything in your entire life?

Mine are older now,however I used to feel the same as you. Even though we go out as a couple now, I still feel I should be doing something! Went to a nice town last weekend that had a steep hill .Felt exhausted on the way back up (had a good day ,F and C ,a mooch round the little quay and shops) Next day sore throat,that will teach me ! Just relax and enjoy the films (new Dumbo tomorrow) eating eggs and chilling

So you haven't read the post properly or my replies?

It's got nothing to do with the children. I love my kids to death and they love me and we couldn't be any closer. It's about the feeling bank holidays give me.

Ive spent nearly every waking moment either on holiday or on days out with them. The holidays were fine it's this last stretch. What a nasty person go crawl back in your hole.

And because you haven't read my replies you've missed where I've planned a lovely day out today. I feel like you're compensating with this comment. Go spend some time with your own kids.

Could you take the thinking out of it? Or at least reduce it?

I'm thinking of a jam jar and you can put pieces of paper in, each with an activity. You could get your eldest to write her own and help the 4 year old.

Don't promise them anything just ask for ideas for the next school holiday.

Then the week before the holiday pick out 4 or 5 things you will do.

Ah I totally get your post. I am retired now but even when I was working I have realised I never liked sunny bank holidays ha ha. I feel so weird saying it but I think it is because I can't stand crowds and can't find a park at the normal places I would go and can never get a seat in the usual places I would pop in for a coffee/snack etc and definitely feel the pressure of doing something 'exciting' !!!! I just want to get on with my normal stuff. I am fine on rainy bank holidays as can get on with house stuff and don't feel guilty I should be doing something more. I have fretted over this for years but as I am getting older I just realise now I cannot change what I feel or who I am. So happy too to realise I am not alone hee heee. I think social media definitely does not help with everyone posting about what they are up to but when I look at what they are up to I think - nahhh that wouldn't interest me either HA HA. It is all so silly really when you think about it - we should never feel pressure about anything like this but yet a lot of us do !!!

YABU. Bank holidays are great, spend the time at home if you don't want to go out.

OP already said they did quite a bit at the start of the holidays, enough with the guilt trip

6th day into annual leave/bank holidays and I’m losing my mind 😂 been busy but feel kids need more family and friends around to play with. Gps are busy relaxing. Local kids are busy with family but we didn’t organise anything. I feel like we should have. Kids fight and argue constantly. I’m looking forward to going back to work. I’m annoyed with dh that he hasn’t organised anything with family or friends.

7 and 4 is a great age. Up and out to the park. Take a ball or a kite etc. Come home and have lunch. Then play a board game. Watch some TV. Out in the garden a bit then tea , bath and bed. Wait until you have stroppy teens when a morning at the park just doesn’t work.

Never been a fan of bank holidays, even though I work full time Mon-Fri. Kids are older now so can do their own thing. I think it’s because I have no family near by, so going to see them involves multiple trains, expense. Sometimes I enjoy doing nothing, and there’s nothing wrong with that when you work hard. My kids were always content being at home and didn’t need expensive days out.