To want some positive stories from women who were happily single at 32, met a great partner later, and had kids naturally?

[ShyGoldDreamer]

I’ve just turned 32. I’m genuinely happy and content with my life - single but not stressed about it. I get a lot of attention but I’m not actively dating at the moment. I’m open to a relationship when the right opportunity comes along but I’m not in any rush.

That said, I know 32 is a bit of a milestone age and occasionally I wonder… should I be worried? Should I be doing more? There’s no pressure from family or friends - this is more of an internal check-in.
I’ve noticed that some women I know and meet around my age seem to be quite anxious about timelines, which has made me reflect a little - even though I’m not feeling that pressure myself.

I’d love to hear positive stories from women who were in a similar place at 32 - happily single, doing their thing - who later met a great partner, got married, and had children naturally without any issues. Did it all work out in the end?

Just looking for a bit of reassurance and inspiration really.

I was 29 when me and DH got together, first baby at 32, married at 33, second baby at 37. Both conceived naturally (and I have PCOS). Still happily married ☺️

I had three children by that age. But it's still young. You have plenty of time.

I met my DH at 36 and had babies at 39 and 41.

Met my dh at 32/33, married three years later, had children at 37 and 41, both conceived very quickly. This v normal timeline amongst my friends (London-based). However a lot of my peers struggled with children, either with pregnancy losses or IVF so I think it varies a lot. I did establish with DH early on that he wanted a long-term relationship and children (second date!) as I didn't want to waste my time.

Left long term partner at 32 as he wouldn’t commit - met my now husband at 33, engaged at 35, had our first baby at 36.

I was around that age when I decided that if I wanted to have a long term partner and possibly children, I needed to actively do something about it. I did online dating and met dp and we have kids. I don't think I am likely to have met someone otherwise. I never felt a burning desire for this sort of settled life, so i am sure I would have been have been happy if it hadn't worked out, but I am glad it did.

Not a fully positive story as a separate health issue means no pregnancy but I was dating in my 30s and met my wonderful partner at 36.

Several shortish relationships since starting dating. My advice is keep pushing on but be picky.

He has stuck by me more than I could have ever imagined so good men are out there!!

My good friend met her partner around 37 or 38, I think, and had her DS at 40. Married a few years later.

I have a similar story if it makes you feel any better!

Was in a long term relationship with my first serious boyfriend most of my twenties. Engaged, had a mortgage on a flat, the lot. One day he unexpectedly told me he didn't want to marry me - thought my life was over, utterly heartbroken. Made a loss on the flat, moved into my parents house.

Unexpectedly fell for a work colleague (convinced it was a rebound!) but it wasn't 😁 Was a little younger that you but got married shortly before I turned 33 - was fairly quick tho, although we were on and off again for a while, we moved in together less than 6 months after being "official". Got engaged the following year.

Had my first at 36, got pregnant fairly easily. Currently pregnant with DC2 and I've just turned 40. Didn't think I would get the chance to have two. I had unexplained secondary infertility the second time around unfortunately but then it just happened naturally.

You never know what's round the corner But I hope you have a happy, fulfilled life whatever path you end up on :)

Yep, 32. 2 dc under 2. Mortgage, marriage. Got pregnant first time with both at 34 and 35. I'd always been really sociable and went out a lot so was always meeting people.

I was same as you at 32 so had fertility check done at private clinic for peace of mind.

Started online dating but with a relaxed attitude and had an unexpected whirlwind romance with now DH. First child born when I was 34 and expecting second now at 38.

You've certainly not missed the boat. I'm glad I met DH later when we'd both learnt life lessons and grown as individuals.

Met my partner at 35, got together at 37, gave birth at 38 and 40, first time conceiving with both babies.

Met a couple of months before my 37th birthday. Married at 37, have three children (so far), and he's downstairs cooking us all pancakes for breakfast while I have a lie in :)

Met approx 32/33 (can't remember!) But was married at 36 and first baby at 37 which we conceived after our first 'go'.

I was with my first boyfriend from 17-27 and then spent years pinging between one man and another. Casually dating in the main but a couple were relationships. I basically had a lot of fun!

Then at 37 I met DP. He was one of a few I was dating and then slowly and organically we ended up dating properly. I kind of moved in with him (his house was closer to my work) and then just as I was officially moving in with him found out I was pregnant at 39.

We are still together - now we are both in our early 50s with DC.

I didn’t expect this to be my life: I was expecting to be single forever but then things changed.

My advice, enjoy being single but be open to seeing how things develop with new partners but don’t force anything.

There are happy stories out there (BF met her DH aged around 32, married within 2 years and has a DC, my sister met her DH aged 34 etc)

However I agree with @MMmomDD : other people’s stories won’t predict how things will go for you

Am much older than you (late 40s). I know many friends who have conceived naturally aged 35-early 40s, and just as many who struggled

In your case I would freeze my eggs to avoid rushing into a bad relationship/rushing TTC

i froze my own eggs at 35 and it took the pressure off massively, I’ve seen too many women ‘settle’ in mediocre relationships as they feel time is running out: this doesn’t have to be you

Less cheerily: dating in 30s can be challenging as ‘the good ones are taken’ (obviously not ALL of them!), and then many people become single again 40s/50s

Be proactive, date a lot NOW, don’t cling on if the relationship is going nowhere, and possibly consider men a little older than you /divorced or already with kids to widen the pool

Men your age can feel the pressure of a woman’s age too which is why I urge you to consider freezing your eggs

I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. You don't need to impose arbitrary deadlines. I met my husband-to-be at 34, had kids at 37 and 40. I have two beautiful, healthy boys.

Single at 33, met DH as a friend, started dating about 3 years later, then married, Got pregnant naturally at 40 after 4 months trying. Trouble-fee pregnancy. Baby at 41.
I will say though, that neither of us has ever smoked, we don't consume alcohol more than a few times a year, & are not over- or under- weight. All of those factors can impact fertility for men and women. Also DH & I didn't have any underlying health problems. So I know we were very lucky in that regard. We tweaked our diet and started taking supplements once we decided that we wanted a child.
So although it was all lovely and easy for us, I'm not naive enough to suggest that this would happen for everyone.

Mine's very similar, only we were 34 when we met, 35 when we married, had our daughter at 38 (IVF, since my PCOS was stopping me from ovulating), then when we were 40 our surprise naturally-conceived son was born (the IVF drugs clearly fixed my hormones somewhat!).

OP, I was on POF (and getting very frustrated by it) when I met my husband, though I actually met him through friends, while on holiday in their country, in a pub. I very nearly didn't go out that night either, as I was tired after the previous 2 nights' pubbing sessions 😂

Met Dh on line 6 months before I turned 35. Got married on my 36th bday. Had dd1 2 months before our first anniversary and dd2 a few months before we turned 40.

We never forget how lucky we are.

My DH was my first boyfriend. I met him when I was 32, married at 33 and by 39 had 3 kids who are now all adults.
By your 30's you should know what you are looking for and so commitment and children can happen a bit quicker than when you are early 20's.

My dsis. Exactly this. Meet her Dh when she was 34 they now have two kids (last one when she was 40) and are due to get married next year

I was a single then at 36 met my partner & moved in together. Then had our baby girl at 37 naturally first try. It was quick but we both wanted it. So it can happen. If I wouldn’t have been pregnant by 39. I wouldn’t have tried anymore 39 was my cut off but that’s my preference.

Oh and I will add I am not massively overweight just need to lose a stone. We both drink regularly every weekend but don’t smoke. I’ve been told I’m highly fertile too by a dr.

I was married and had my first child before I was 32, but several of our friends weren't - pretty much all of them had a partner and their first (naturally conceived) child by the time we were 40, and some had a second after that.

My friend was happily single at 32. Met her now dh at 33, had 3 dcs naturally. They are very happy