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It’s not about the egg! But AIBU

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TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 16:55

been with dp for 15 years ( not that that is relevant ) but today his mum has come over and given our dd 2 Easter eggs and our son an egg then she handed dp an egg and said that’s for you and the three miracles to share, ( it was a normal egg ) she knows I’m intolerant to dairy as she’s brought me dairy free chocolate for my birthday several years running and we’ve had conversations about dairy free before as both me and dd are, I’m not bothered about having an egg but it just seems pretty unkind like it’s been done to leave me out deliberately to point out she doesn’t like me that much!
I’ve never been good enough as such but when I’m pregnant she tends to be really off ish with me!
AIBU to feel a little annoyed / upset ? It’s not about having an egg it’s the way it’s been done ! Fwiw we got his mum and her husband both really nice eggs ( they’re favourite ) I wouldn’t have left her out and done that to her

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TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 20:15

Well I mentioned it to dp when she left and I said I thought it was abit rude and spitefully done well ! He stuck up for her said she probably didn’t think ! The woman can do no wrong !! Anything is excused by him! Xx

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Tootiredtowhat · 18/04/2025 20:19

Turned up without chocolate for the pregnant lady. What a twat.

nomas · 18/04/2025 20:23

TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 20:15

Well I mentioned it to dp when she left and I said I thought it was abit rude and spitefully done well ! He stuck up for her said she probably didn’t think ! The woman can do no wrong !! Anything is excused by him! Xx

I hope he’s the one who sorts birthday presents and easter eggs for MIL? Because I’d definitely be bowing out.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 18/04/2025 20:41

TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 20:15

Well I mentioned it to dp when she left and I said I thought it was abit rude and spitefully done well ! He stuck up for her said she probably didn’t think ! The woman can do no wrong !! Anything is excused by him! Xx

You have a DH problem. What a pair of knobs!

Moonnstars · 18/04/2025 20:54

I agree DH should have said something when she said it was for you and him to share, or even you should have spoken out and said something (maybe even acted concerned at her memory loss of your dairy allergy).
Though to be honest we only ever buy kids eggs in my family.

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TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 21:01

Defo a dp problem ! He has just said he’ll text her and tell her that I think she’s done it out of spite 🙄😂

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nomas · 18/04/2025 21:20

TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 21:01

Defo a dp problem ! He has just said he’ll text her and tell her that I think she’s done it out of spite 🙄😂

Squash his egg.

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TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 21:41

He told my dd ( aged 7 ) that “ mummy’s upset because grandma didn’t buy her a dairy free egg “
I didn’t think he’d stoop so low !!!

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 18/04/2025 21:42

He sounds awful! Does he have any redeeming features?

nomas · 18/04/2025 21:42

TheThreeMiracles · 18/04/2025 21:41

He told my dd ( aged 7 ) that “ mummy’s upset because grandma didn’t buy her a dairy free egg “
I didn’t think he’d stoop so low !!!

What a knob, start excluding him from things and see how he likes it.

MrsSunshine2b · 18/04/2025 21:46

I had no idea that adults were buying each other Easter Eggs.

londongirl12 · 18/04/2025 22:19

Sounds like you have a MIL and a DP problem. Dont be embarrassed at all. I would have said “ahh it’s a shame I can’t eat it” and push the embarrassment back on her. She clearly likes putting you down, stand up for yourself and don’t let her affect you.

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TheThreeMiracles · 19/04/2025 14:58

I’m over my strop 😂 but I’ve decided to stop trying with her now, she’s made it plain and clear where I stand, I’ve told dp it’s left to him I won’t be texting her updates of the kids or anything, there’s only so many years you can spend trying to be accepted, respected and liked ! I tried but it was very one sided ! X

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Bamboozles · 19/04/2025 19:41

Why would a grown adult moan they didn’t get an egg when their kids did ffs

TonTonMacoute · 20/04/2025 09:44

Bamboozles · 19/04/2025 19:41

Why would a grown adult moan they didn’t get an egg when their kids did ffs

The thread title is Its Not About the Egg!

Did you bother to read any of it before coming on to sneer?

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 20/04/2025 09:44

Bamboozles · 19/04/2025 19:41

Why would a grown adult moan they didn’t get an egg when their kids did ffs

How to show off that you didn’t bother reading even the OP properly.

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TheThreeMiracles · 21/04/2025 17:13

She’s messages me saying sorry she didn’t get me an egg 😬 and that she’ll get me one !!! It’s really wasn’t about the egg and now I feel I have to explain it ffs !

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Eggsboxedandmelting · 21/04/2025 17:28

Nowt wrong in saying you took the huff. Grown up or not you deserve an egg....

PrettyParrot · 21/04/2025 17:32

I would message back with
"Genuinely, I didn't need an egg. But telling me I could share one that I can't even eat anyway seemed a bit ridiculous! I'm sure DH will enjoy it. Best etc"

distinctpossibility · 21/04/2025 17:39

Are you sure that both dairy free eggs were for DD? As if DS only got one then DD shouldn't have got two really?

FadedRed · 21/04/2025 17:51

Hotflushesandchilblains · 18/04/2025 18:28

Its a really shitty move to bring things for some of the family and leave others out. Whatever the occasion.

This ^
Your Mil was rude and really doesn’t give you a second thought. Leave any further presents/cards etc for his parents up to your husband to sort out.

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 21/04/2025 18:06

Energe · 18/04/2025 16:59

Ignore me. I thought you had 3 kids and she was calling them the 3 miracles.

Me too 🤣🤣🤣

mondaytosunday · 22/04/2025 11:13

Well you should have said ‘oh lovely but you know I can’t eat diary’! Smile sweetly then see her try and apologise.

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TheThreeMiracles · 26/04/2025 09:34

So I did message his mum and say that actually she makes me feel excluded and not part of my own family ! There’s huge background to this but will take ages to write but examples are - taking photos of us as a family and cutting me out of it, asking if the kids can go and see her without me etc ! Anyhow I explained nicely how she’d made me feel and she literally turned it all around on how sad and hurt she is and how she can’t have this conversation with me and will leave it there ! I haven’t spoken. To her since Wednesday xx

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Swiftie1878 · 26/04/2025 09:52

I can’t get overly excited about an egg dispute, but for the record, a normal egg is an egg that comes out of the bottom of a hen. It’s not chocolate. 😂