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Is this ott or am I in the wrong?

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bagpuss90 · 18/04/2025 10:37

We have new neighbours they have two kids . I knocked on their door with an Easter egg each for the kids this morning. The mum told me the kids are never allowed chocolate not even at Easter , Christmas or birthdays . She went on about obesity, diabetes plus a loss of other stuff. I was only trying to make a nice gesture. My kids were not allowed chocolate on a regular basis ( it was a treat )and I do appreciate obesity is a real problem in the UK . But blimey - I don’t think an Easter egg ever killed anyone . Have I missed something?

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Tameys · 18/04/2025 10:38

Very rude of her.
Be wary and keep a firm distance going forward.
She sounds like a complete tit.
Avoid.

FanofLeaves · 18/04/2025 10:39

How bloody rude of her! Wouldn’t bother with her again. Poor kids!

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bagpuss90 · 18/04/2025 10:40

And no her kids are not obese

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Jeezitneverends · 18/04/2025 10:41

That was a really kind thing you did, you weren’t to know she would be so FUCKING RUDE!

BitOutOfPractice · 18/04/2025 10:41

Really rude of her.

Yiu sound like a nice neighbour.

BitOutOfPractice · 18/04/2025 10:41

Can you take the eggs to a food bank?

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bagpuss90 · 18/04/2025 10:42

BitOutOfPractice · 18/04/2025 10:41

Can you take the eggs to a food bank?

Ah that’s a good idea

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Seagreensmokeyblue · 18/04/2025 10:42

That was a really kind gesture OP.

She was very rude. Even if she doesn't want her children to have chocolate that was a nasty reaction to a thoughtful person.

At least you now have an insight into what she is like and you can lower your expectations of having a friendly relationship with her.

BacktoBeginnersFran · 18/04/2025 10:43

Yanbu
This would be telling me to keep my distance from her! She is storing up a shit storm of trouble for her kids when they're teenagers.

But.... I do think its weird you bought easter eggs for neighbours you don't really know. Have they just moved in?

Bfmamma · 18/04/2025 10:43

Weird, any normal person would have said thank you, taken the eggs and if not wanting to eat them regift or take to a good bank. Absolutely no need to be so rude

BlondeMummyto1 · 18/04/2025 10:44

Kids with parents like that will gorge on food behind their parents back as soon as they are old enough.

ScrewtopRose · 18/04/2025 10:45

She was rude. I don’t really understand parents who ban chocolate. Seems very controlling.

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bagpuss90 · 18/04/2025 10:45

BacktoBeginnersFran · 18/04/2025 10:43

Yanbu
This would be telling me to keep my distance from her! She is storing up a shit storm of trouble for her kids when they're teenagers.

But.... I do think its weird you bought easter eggs for neighbours you don't really know. Have they just moved in?

Yes they have - it was meant as a nice gesture

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TemporaryName123 · 18/04/2025 10:46

BacktoBeginnersFran · 18/04/2025 10:43

Yanbu
This would be telling me to keep my distance from her! She is storing up a shit storm of trouble for her kids when they're teenagers.

But.... I do think its weird you bought easter eggs for neighbours you don't really know. Have they just moved in?

I don’t think it’s weird at all, we had similar when we moved in and it was a lovely thing to do and a nice way to meet the neighbours. Really set the tone as a nice place to live

MadridMadridMadrid · 18/04/2025 10:46

BlondeMummyto1 · 18/04/2025 10:44

Kids with parents like that will gorge on food behind their parents back as soon as they are old enough.

I was thinking the same!

Dollshousedolly · 18/04/2025 10:47

BacktoBeginnersFran · 18/04/2025 10:43

Yanbu
This would be telling me to keep my distance from her! She is storing up a shit storm of trouble for her kids when they're teenagers.

But.... I do think its weird you bought easter eggs for neighbours you don't really know. Have they just moved in?

The OP has said the are new neighbours. It was a nice gesture dropping over the eggs, same as dropping over a bottle of wine to welcome new neighbours. A friendly gesture which is getting more and more remote these days, unfortunately.

The new neighbour lacks manners, she should have said thanks and taken the eggs and passed them on elsewhere.

BacktoBeginnersFran · 18/04/2025 10:48

bagpuss90 · 18/04/2025 10:45

Yes they have - it was meant as a nice gesture

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It was a nice gesture! You are a nice person, and she is rude.

BernardButlersBra · 18/04/2025 10:48

BlondeMummyto1 · 18/04/2025 10:44

Kids with parents like that will gorge on food behind their parents back as soon as they are old enough.

Totally this. I think her strategy is a bad idea. Surely it's everything in moderation? As others have said a food bank bank would love them

DeathWish · 18/04/2025 10:49

We were meant to have moved house this week. If our new neighbours had knocked with an Easter egg for my two children I’d have been made up and considered them lovely and welcoming!

Pippa12 · 18/04/2025 10:50

bagpuss90 · 18/04/2025 10:45

Yes they have - it was meant as a nice gesture

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It’s definitely a nice gesture. I took selection boxes round to our (very normal!) neighbours children when we moved in around Christmas time. They were accepted graciously and stuck up a lovely friendship between our children. It’s not weird at all!

Poor kids- chuck some Freddo’s over the fence for the poor sods!

Sassybooklover · 18/04/2025 11:01

Any level headed person knows, a little chocolate, every now and then isn't going to turn a child into a obese with diabetes. It may be she has a family member who eats unhealthy, is obese and is now diabetic, and the thought of it all has made her paranoid about what her own children are consuming. It was a kind gesture to make, it's shame it wasn't appreciated. Unfortunately, all the neighbour will do by depriving her children of chocolate is make them rebel as they become older. Instead of protecting them, her attitude could infact drive them towards eating unhealthily later in life, making up for what they weren't allowed in childhood.Take the eggs to a good bank.

Scully01 · 18/04/2025 11:01

This was a bit OTT from your neighbour, it was a lovely gesture. Are there kids really young? I remember when my son was given chocolate and sweets by an aunt before he was 2 and I thought that was too young, I accepted them graciously though.

faerietales · 18/04/2025 11:02

BacktoBeginnersFran · 18/04/2025 10:43

Yanbu
This would be telling me to keep my distance from her! She is storing up a shit storm of trouble for her kids when they're teenagers.

But.... I do think its weird you bought easter eggs for neighbours you don't really know. Have they just moved in?

Ignore this OP, it was a lovely welcoming gesture and your neighbour was incredibly rude.

Dhxusksgxuks · 18/04/2025 11:04

She’s an arsehole. You did a nice thing and she was rude.

guarantee her kids will be gorging on chocolate in secret the minute they’re able to access it on their own.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 18/04/2025 11:11

No, she's an absolute asshole.