To think that if his family doesn’t like you, it’s time to walk away?

[TheWildMintBear]

I’ve always felt that if a partner’s family isn’t supportive, it can be a huge red flag. If things were to go wrong, I’m not sure how much help they’d be. Anyone else think family dynamics should be a big consideration in a relationship?

Nope. His family is not my problem. As long as he does not allow them to be a problem then it’s fine.

I don't give a shit what my bf's family thinks. He's and adult and they live in a different country.
Obviously, if he was dominated by his family, that would be different.

In most cases it does not matter one bit. Just if you have a domineering parent of your DH/DP or one who allows themselves to be taken advantage of.

My in laws hate me.
I don't think they always have it'd just happened over time. They blame me because DP doesn't see them. DP knows that he doesn't see them because they're not close and his childhood was bordering on abusive and neglectful at times. The inlaws think I stop him from seeing them.
I don't really care anymore.
DP has gone past caring too.
It's never caused any tension between us.
We can have open and honest conversations about it, we can both compromise and be flexible about things and we both respect each others boundaries.
I don't think it has to matter. Obviously it would be nice if we had a close and healthy relationship. At times I have been a bit sad about it but it isn't a deal breaker.

I am a MIL and adore all my sons and daughters in law. But I don't see it is any of my business how their relationships are going - I wouldn't want to be expected to comment or interfere and, if I did, I would almost always take the part of my OWN son or daughter, of course, because I will always have their backs.

And in my view 'giving support' nearly always means 'looking after the children'. Fine, if that's what the in laws want to do, but it should never be expected or indeed, insisted upon.