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For doctors to have hidden this from me?

136 replies

JustsamanthaJayne · 16/04/2025 18:28

So I've been ill for several years, symptoms have worsened since last year year
One of my symptoms is a facial spasm where my brain feels like it's squeezing and then my mouth goes to the side for a few seconds it's been worrying me
So I had an mri in 2018 they told me everything was fine and then had another mri in 2024 I was told i have an pineal gland cyst which is incidental
So i requested my medical records and on my 2018 mri report it said I have a small retention cyst in my right maxillary sinus ( this would explain why I've had so many sinus issues and now it could explain the facial issues as well) but they didn't tell me about it??
Now I've suddenly developed a pineal gland cysts but no mention of the right maxillary cyst on on my recent mri scan?? Did it just disappear?
I don't understand why I'm getting 'incidentental' cysts at random like this and doctors are not concerned about this ?
My folate is low again with no explanation ? I constantly drained and having horrible nurological symptoms
Am I being unreasonable to be dismissed like this ??

OP posts:
prettytoxic · 17/04/2025 08:38

Soontobe60 · 17/04/2025 08:18

Do you honestly believe that someone who’s presented with the OPs symptoms has gone straight to being given not one but two MRI scans without any other investigations? And that the consultant has not discussed the findings with her at all?

I have no idea, that information was not presented and I’m not going to make assumptions. I’ve personally had MRIs and scans with a wide range of follow-up communication from consultants (from zero communication to very thorough). You seem to be absolutely convinced that OP has no valid concerns, which I can only assume is a projection on your part

AndImBrit · 17/04/2025 08:39

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:08

Is retarded exactly the same as learning disabled? Do you use both terms interchangeably? Do you call mixed-race people coloured or half-caste because they "mean the same thing"?

You might want to take this fight up with National Association for the Advancement of Colored People, a leading association for anti racism and equal rights …

user499978802 · 17/04/2025 08:39

BobbleHatsRule · 17/04/2025 08:34

I have a friend who I love. She has health anxiety. She has had multiple investigations for conditions. As each new test clears up her concerns she finds something new and often the new concern hinges on an incidental findingnor throwaway comment or Google search. Her symptoms escalate. She tries various diets, becomes obsessed and upset....and can afford private care so she gets extensive reassurance and explanations. It doesn't help. It's sad to observe. Most of her friends see it. She can't because anxiety is a condition. It's hard to step back and be rational. I wish we treated that better

Health anxiety is disabling. It's not a judgement but validating it doesn't help. In my friends case they did all the tests....its important to believe the patient. But the outcome was still normal.

It also costs the NHS thousands and creates a burden of unecessary radiation doses so it needs considering. This impacts the patient whom is irradiated and the patients on a waiting list because someone with health anxiety is receiving multiple investigations

That sounds awful, but that's one specific person you know. Not everyone. Wanting to know the results of medical tests, including ones that are atypical but clinically insignificant is not unusual or pathological.

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:40

AndImBrit · 17/04/2025 08:39

You might want to take this fight up with National Association for the Advancement of Colored People, a leading association for anti racism and equal rights …

Way to miss the point 👉

BobbleHatsRule · 17/04/2025 08:42

user499978802 · 17/04/2025 08:36

This is advocating that doctors treat patients like children instead of fully functional adults.

t would take about 20 seconds to say, on the scan, we saw x, it's insignificant, x percent of people have it, it's unrelated to the symptoms you're experiencing.

What patients do with that information afterwards is up to them.

I guarantee that a patient with health anxiety will not be reassured by a 20 second conversation or even 20 minutes. They will be back wanting further investigation. The new investigations will just validate their angst.

I'm not saying they should be dismissed...not saying they shouldn't be kept informed...not saying they are deliberately presenting for attention, ngealth anxiety needs treating after all physiological and pathological causes have been excluded.

At some point they will have to rationally accept their isn't a physical cause. This is HUGE and hard

Foreheadthing · 17/04/2025 08:43

Cannot believe some people are suggesting patients shouldn't be told all of their scan findings. Of course they should! If there's an incidental finding the best course of action is to inform and educate and reassure. "We have also found xyz however this is the diagnosis, you don't need any treatment and it will go away on its own" or whatever they need to say.
Whatever the finding is could be relevant to other symptoms, or could be necessary to know for future. In this case the OP is also having sinus issues - it's just not what the scan was for. They are wrong not to inform the patient of the entirety of her results.
Education, a full explanation and reassurance helps health anxiety and would . Hiding things is just going to cause the patient to be even more anxious and ultimately less trusting of any future NHS results, probably increasing their anxiety.

Bigfatsunandclouds · 17/04/2025 08:44

I think people here are being really mean, a cyst on the brain or near the brain is not the same as a cyst in the arm or leg in terms of concern. If it grows it can press on many things and cause serious issues, can pps honestly say if a cyst was found on their brain (or near) the brain in conjunction with neurological symptoms they wouldn't be worried?

OP I would contact your GP and ask them to explain the findings to reassure you.

RosesAndHellebores · 17/04/2025 08:44

I had to have a full body scan due to suspected pagets. It identified a.type of cyst in my liver. It could have alarmed me but I looked it up. It's congenital and incidental and of no concern. The Consultant didn't mention it and I didn't discuss it. Due to the incident below I now insist on receiving full reports relating to all investigations before I attend follow up appointments.

I have osteoporosis and in 2016 badly wedged the L1. A few years ago I had an accident resulting in heavy impact. The pain in my back was identical to that in 2016. I had also broken my arm which needed surgery. The junior Dr in A&E dismissed my back concerns and initially refused a back XRay. After my back was XRayed she told me that there were no new breaks despite the XRay showing fractures to the L1 and T12 and the fact she was vlcategorically told only the L1 had previously broken. When the XRay was reported by radiology this noted old fractures to L1 and T12. My GP therefore dismissed my concerns about severe pain and that an error had arisen. She handed me the report which I looked at later.

A private MRI confirmed the T12 was recently broken. Privately.

Nobody died, but the error did cause a 6 month delay to optimal osteoporosis treatment being delivered.

For all those being so dismissive of the op, I would venture that the system is far from perfect and errors do happen alongside spectacularly poor communication.

@JustsamanthaJayne all medical information is your personal data. You are entitled to it and all patients are entitled to competent communication and interpretation to ensure optimal care. It is not the right of health professionals to decide what can be shares where capacity prevails. It's your body and your health and you can and should own them.

Foreheadthing · 17/04/2025 08:46

prettytoxic · 17/04/2025 08:33

Exactly. I do not have health anxiety, but after investigations over some abnormal bleeding I did find it helpful when the doctor took two minutes to explain the findings of my scan (including some shadows and other likely non significant findings). If my symptoms had continued unresolved I could see how I might have gone back over those reports at a later date and worried something had been missed/not followed up on if nobody had taken those two minutes to clarify the results. I doubt that doctors have intentionally hidden anything from OP but I can see why she is concerned. Those that can’t and are immediately dismissing her as an anxious patient seem to lack empathy and compassion.

OP - you have the right to advocate for yourself and request a second opinion or follow up appt

This - worded much better than me!

BobbleHatsRule · 17/04/2025 08:46

user499978802 · 17/04/2025 08:39

That sounds awful, but that's one specific person you know. Not everyone. Wanting to know the results of medical tests, including ones that are atypical but clinically insignificant is not unusual or pathological.

Yes agree one example. I want to know the outcomes of my tests and health makes me anxious. Ive planned my funeral whilst waiting for a biopsy that I didnt need but thought I did....several times.

Health is after all key to living well. But health anxiety is a massive issue.... not just my friend. Its also hard to address and establish amongst genuine health concerns. It's a problem for many but admitting it might be health anxiety or considering it isn't wrong.

prettytoxic · 17/04/2025 08:49

Bigfatsunandclouds · 17/04/2025 08:37

OP has had 2 brain scans which shows cysts each time and worrying enough symptoms that she was referred in the first place - what here suggests health anxiety?

This. I worry about the lack of compassion and empathy from those who jump immediately to “she has health anxiety and therefore nothing she worries about is valid”. The cynical part of me thinks these replies are from burnt out NHS staff who are experiencing compassion fatigue and protecting their feelings on to their patients.

Greysquirrels · 17/04/2025 08:50

I'm a doctor who spends a fair amount of time going through scans with patient.

Scan reports are very long and almost every patient will have at least one incidental, but harmless finding.

I suppose we get so used to seeing reports with liver cysts for example, that we forget this could be worrying to the patient. It is not a case of intentionally withholding information. Why would we do that?

Thanks for the reminder to acknowledge these with the patient.

BobbleHatsRule · 17/04/2025 08:51

Foreheadthing · 17/04/2025 08:43

Cannot believe some people are suggesting patients shouldn't be told all of their scan findings. Of course they should! If there's an incidental finding the best course of action is to inform and educate and reassure. "We have also found xyz however this is the diagnosis, you don't need any treatment and it will go away on its own" or whatever they need to say.
Whatever the finding is could be relevant to other symptoms, or could be necessary to know for future. In this case the OP is also having sinus issues - it's just not what the scan was for. They are wrong not to inform the patient of the entirety of her results.
Education, a full explanation and reassurance helps health anxiety and would . Hiding things is just going to cause the patient to be even more anxious and ultimately less trusting of any future NHS results, probably increasing their anxiety.

I tend to agree with you regarding sharing all results. What I think needs to accompany this is a consistent expectation of patients that incidental findings do not need extrapolating to "serious"

Increased information could help this as more people would validate the fact that it is insignificant

user499978802 · 17/04/2025 08:51

BobbleHatsRule · 17/04/2025 08:42

I guarantee that a patient with health anxiety will not be reassured by a 20 second conversation or even 20 minutes. They will be back wanting further investigation. The new investigations will just validate their angst.

I'm not saying they should be dismissed...not saying they shouldn't be kept informed...not saying they are deliberately presenting for attention, ngealth anxiety needs treating after all physiological and pathological causes have been excluded.

At some point they will have to rationally accept their isn't a physical cause. This is HUGE and hard

I'm sure you're right, they won't be. But it also doesn't seem fair to assume that's the case about a poster, given the lack of any other information.

I will say, as someone who's been through it, and thankfully eventually got a diagnosis, having unexplained symptoms can cause health anxiety in an otherwise psychologically healthy person. Doctors should understand that and respond accordingly.

Because sometimes it is a physical cause.

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:52

prettytoxic · 17/04/2025 08:49

This. I worry about the lack of compassion and empathy from those who jump immediately to “she has health anxiety and therefore nothing she worries about is valid”. The cynical part of me thinks these replies are from burnt out NHS staff who are experiencing compassion fatigue and protecting their feelings on to their patients.

It's not lacking empathy to say that health anxiety isn't going to be alleviated by reassurance. It's just a fact. The OP has had intensive investigations and been offered reassurance, but is unable to benefit from it.

Beeloux · 17/04/2025 08:52

Ignore the ignorant comments trying to insinuate you have health anxiety.

There are many incompetent medical staff. My ex was a doctor and used to hear some horror stories.

I was once accused of having health anxiety by a trainee GP years ago. This was after they’d discovered a large ovarian cyst which they believed could to be cancerous (they had also told me it was much smaller than what was actually recorded on the initial ultrasound report).

Ended up going to another A&E as I could barely walk. It had ended up rupturing and twisting around my ovary. Was rushed in to surgery.

Sorry you're going through this OP. From now on request a copy of any ultrasound/mri scans and medical reports. Take them to any future appointments with consultants. Hope you get sorted x

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:53

user499978802 · 17/04/2025 08:51

I'm sure you're right, they won't be. But it also doesn't seem fair to assume that's the case about a poster, given the lack of any other information.

I will say, as someone who's been through it, and thankfully eventually got a diagnosis, having unexplained symptoms can cause health anxiety in an otherwise psychologically healthy person. Doctors should understand that and respond accordingly.

Because sometimes it is a physical cause.

Edited

That is what every single person with health anxiety thinks - that there is some sinister underlying cause that the doctors are unable or unwilling to identify.

AndImBrit · 17/04/2025 08:54

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:40

Way to miss the point 👉

The point was because YOU believe terms are “bad” or “outdated” or “offensive” doesn’t mean they are.

faerietales · 17/04/2025 08:55

Cannot believe some people are suggesting patients shouldn't be told all of their scan findings.

If Doctors’ were to tell people about every single finding in every single test or scan, wait times would be ten times longer than they already are. Not everything on a scan is abnormal or needs to be explained or looked into.

There’s a reason you need medical training to do scans and to interpret the results.

user499978802 · 17/04/2025 08:55

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:53

That is what every single person with health anxiety thinks - that there is some sinister underlying cause that the doctors are unable or unwilling to identify.

And sometimes they're right.

Hwi · 17/04/2025 08:57

Commonsense22 · 17/04/2025 07:31

In most countries scans are explained image in hand to the patient by specialists. It is much better.
Our system plain sucks. Withholding information doesn't save time. It breaks trust and increases the risk of missing diagnoses.

Patients deserve to know, however trivial it may seem to the doctor at the time.

This. And not only does the NHS suck, our private system sucks as well. I am not talking medical knowledge or professionalism, I am talking insane methodology or lack thereof. A friend is a medical secretary in one of the private hospital chains, where desperate and not rich people (they also sell payment plans to pay for the simplest scans at an incredibly high interest rate) come when they can't get seen for weeks on the NHS. So it goes this way - first you have to see a doctor for a scan referral - it is around £300, then there is a scan (you have to wait for some time, it is usually booked up quite a lot), which can be £240 - to thousands. Then the scan gets 'written up' by radiologists (who are not present all the time in the private hospital, so there is a wait) and emailed to the referring doctor. Then the referring doctor (not in the private hospital all the time, only probably 2 days a week, so there is a wait) dictates a letter and it gets sent to the secretaries to type up. The letter is being typed up (there is no specific consultant-related typist to expedite, it is a typing pool where all secretaries type all specialties, so currently they are typing letters from end of March). The typed up letter is then emailed to the consultant, who is not present in the private hospital all week, so the typed up letter is waiting in the consultant's inbox until it is the consultant's day in the private hospital. The consultant then OKs the letter and secretaries send it to !!!!! the GP of the patient, not the patient themselves!!!!! After that my friend says they get loads of phone calls from patients, to which they reply - so sorry, we sent the letter to your GP last week or 10 days ago or suchlike and we can't disclose it to you on the telephone, please contact your GP. To say that I was shocked when I found this methodology out, is to say nothing. I thought private was amazing until my friend explained things to me.

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:57

AndImBrit · 17/04/2025 08:54

The point was because YOU believe terms are “bad” or “outdated” or “offensive” doesn’t mean they are.

Oh bore off. People reclaiming slurs as a means of empowerment is not the same as ignorant people using outdated terms because they can't be bothered to educate themselves. But you know this, you just want to be contrary.

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:58

user499978802 · 17/04/2025 08:55

And sometimes they're right.

See OP's previous post. She is not going to be reassured by any number of investigations.

Bigfatsunandclouds · 17/04/2025 08:59

Smallmercies · 17/04/2025 08:53

That is what every single person with health anxiety thinks - that there is some sinister underlying cause that the doctors are unable or unwilling to identify.

I wonder how many women are labelled with health anxiety whilst suffering and unable to access treatment because of this. My DM was labelled a nuisance with pain in her leg years ago, turned out to be a rare bone eating tumour which would have been found sooner if the GP had sent her for an X-ray. He didn't, he accused her of trying to get out of work, refused any treatment and said she was anxious.

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