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Original poster

Aibu to do not very much at all while I'm on holiday?

44 replies

DancingDucks · 16/04/2025 14:44

I'm away on my own for 5 days. DH has to work (his choice, it's a work trip abroad to somewhere he's always wanted to go), DD back at uni and DS is working. I'm in a cottage near the sea and it's bloody lovely.

I'm watching loads of TV, reading, eating what I like when I like and going for a lovely walk every day. Bed by 10.30. DH says I 'should me making more' of my time and it's making me feel guilty. I have a very busy job, work ten hours a day and it's a very 'people' job. While I wouldn't want to do this much longer or I'll get restless, it's bloody lovely to just not do very much. AIBU?

OP posts:
Lottapianos · 16/04/2025 14:46

Oh lord, enjoy every second! Holidays should be a break from your usual routine. For some people, that's being as active as possible. For others, it's slowing right down. Carry on doing what's making you feel relaxed and indulged ☺️

BigDahliaFan · 16/04/2025 14:56

I've had a week alone at home this week except I've also had to work and I've just gone home at night and vegged.

I'm planning to be at home alone tomorrow and Good Friday and do very little indeed - except garden and dog walk and I'm mildly irritated that I've arranged to meet up with a friend tomorrow night.

At the moment what you are doing sounds absolutely perfect to me - your body knows what you need - and vegging sounds like what you need!

PullTheBricksDown · 16/04/2025 14:57

It's your holiday! If it was his holiday he could choose how to 'make the most of his time'. Complete rest and relaxation sounds great.

myplace · 16/04/2025 14:57

He’s jealous. DM is the same. Can’t abide me enjoying myself in an unproductive way.

Springhassprungxx · 16/04/2025 15:13

That sounds amazing op!!

FadedRed · 16/04/2025 15:21

I would answer that I AM making the most of my time to do what I WANT to do, not fulfilling anyone else idea of what I might be doing.

QueefQueen80s · 16/04/2025 15:21

myplace · 16/04/2025 14:57

He’s jealous. DM is the same. Can’t abide me enjoying myself in an unproductive way.

So weird and controlling

mamaduckbone · 16/04/2025 15:44

That sounds like a perfect break.
You are making the most of it - in the way that suits you.
I'm jealous! I'm off work this week but at home so whilst I want to lollop around reading and watching TV, the jobs keep looking accusingly at me...

Goldenphoenix · 16/04/2025 16:09

God your holiday sounds absolutely blissful. Enjoy yourself and don't let him get in your head. Recharge your batteries.

Coffeeishot · 16/04/2025 16:23

That sounds bloody lovely. Don't listen to him you spend your time how you like.

BCBird · 16/04/2025 16:33

Sounds like bliss. Do as you please.

Delatron · 16/04/2025 16:34

Gosh that sounds lovely. Enjoy every minute. My DH is the same - if I so much as sit down and relax in the day he asks me what I’m doing. He can’t sit still. It’s infuriating.

You need a break and your body needs a rest. We don’t give enough priority to rest…

Original poster
DancingDucks · 16/04/2025 18:33

I don't sleep more than about 6 hours normally (I know that's the case for lots of us) but I'm going to bed about 10.30 and waking up about 8/8.30am. That's totally unheard of for me and I feel like I've literally been plugged into a charging point. 😂

OP posts:
Delatron · 16/04/2025 18:34

Sounds like your body really needs the rest and is going in to full on relaxation mode. This is so good for you!

Squidgemoon · 16/04/2025 19:38

You’re on my dream holiday OP! Enjoy it and don’t listen to your DH.

toomuchfaff · 16/04/2025 19:40

"Good to know how you'd spend your holidays DH, I'm not you... cheerio!"

madaboutpurple · 16/04/2025 19:41

Enjoy yourself and relax Op. It does sound wonderful.

Frontroomroomjungle · 16/04/2025 19:43

This sounds amazing OP. YANBU, and enjoy!

pigsDOfly · 16/04/2025 19:43

Sounds absolutely wonderful.

You are making the most of your time. Surely doing what you want is what a holiday is all about, or should be.

Enjoy every minute OP.

SparkyBlue · 16/04/2025 19:49

That sounds amazing OP.
We had a sun holiday last year and it's sounds awful and totally uncultured but we barely left the hotel as DC just loved the pool and the playground and the kids club and myself and DH got a proper rest and got to totally switch off. Enjoy yourself

unsync · 16/04/2025 20:11

Doing bugger all is, for me, the ideal holiday. R&R. What more does he think you should be doing? Climbing Everest, hanggliding, deep sea diving? Don't feel guilty for doing what you want to do.

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 16/04/2025 20:15

Walking, reading, catching up on tv, catching up on sleep, it sounds like you are making the most of it, sounds blissful. What does he think you should be doing @DancingDucks ?

Amblesidebadger · 16/04/2025 20:17

Sign me up! YANBU

saltinesandcoffeecups · 16/04/2025 20:25

Me and DP have had trips like that. We’ve also had really exciting and active ones. Just mmmhmmm dear if your DH says something again.

uncomfortablydumb60 · 17/04/2025 00:32

Sounds heavenly! Enjoy every minute doing what you want, when you want
The very definition of relaxation.

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