Aibu to do not very much at all while I'm on holiday?

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I'm away on my own for 5 days. DH has to work (his choice, it's a work trip abroad to somewhere he's always wanted to go), DD back at uni and DS is working. I'm in a cottage near the sea and it's bloody lovely.

I'm watching loads of TV, reading, eating what I like when I like and going for a lovely walk every day. Bed by 10.30. DH says I 'should me making more' of my time and it's making me feel guilty. I have a very busy job, work ten hours a day and it's a very 'people' job. While I wouldn't want to do this much longer or I'll get restless, it's bloody lovely to just not do very much. AIBU?

What does he think you should be doing?

Rest is productive and healthy. Enjoy it. Don't let him make you feel guilty or that you should be doing something else.

Oh god I would love that!
With some sewing thrown in.
enjoy!

Your holiday is the stuff of my fantasies! Just tell your husband your phone is not working properly or you're so busy you don't have time to speak to him!

Resting and relaxing is making the most of it

I’ve got a busy job too. Busy life. But over all, my favourite thing to do, is nothing 😁

Probably not for me but it’s your holiday for your body and mind

It’s. Quite unpleasant to put a guilt trip on someone who is enjoying themselves , such a mood killer

would you do that to him? What would you think of a friend who did that ?

I suggest not talking to your 'd' h for the rest of the trip! If my husband chose to go on a work trip when he could have been on holiday with me, there's no way I'd entertain any of his opinions on what I 'should' be doing with that time. Wtf has it got to do with him anyway?
Shut that shit down and don't let him make you feel guilty - his opinion really isn't that important. I agree with a pp that this is weirdly controlling - he sounds oddly resentful about you enjoying yourself, even though he is doing precisely what he chose to do with this time!

I'm off this week, just staying at home, but I've not done very much at all. Sorted one of the kitchen cupboards out, bought a chain and padlock for my bike (I can now cycle to the shops if I really want), did some gardening, went and cat sat for my sister yesterday. I've read a lot and caught up with some tv.

I might venture out to have a mooch around the shops/garden centre, or I might just go for a walk.

The last 6 months have been pretty rubbish and work has been stressful,I also had builders in for 3 weeks recently. I had time off at Christmas but the cat was missing so I didn't actually enjoy it or do any relaxing so I'm enjoying this week.

It sounds like a lovely holiday.
I'm also off work this week. I live in a lovely place in the Alps and the weather has been nice. However, all I want to do is sit around at home reading, watching Netflix, doing jigsaws and making some travel plans for later in the year.
I think I'm tired and my body just can't be arsed with going out for a hike.

However, I do have feelings of guilt about how I should be making the most of the good weather or going out for a day trip somewhere or whatever, so I understand where you are coming from when you say you feel guilty.

I think it's because so many of us are on the go all the time and when we actually have time off where we don't have to do anything we feel like we should be doing something because that's normally what we do and that's where the guilt comes from.

We need to listen to our bodies more rather than the guilty voice in our heads. Our bodies want to spend a few days doing very little to recover a bit from whatever we've been doing before the holiday.

That sounds amazing. Tell him to stop interrupting your recharging time with ridiculous comments.

I'd imagine his comment came from from a place of "you can watch TV & read at home" rather than him trying to be controlling.

You ARE making the most of your holiday, in a way that suits you.

sounds blissful by the way

Sounds amazing- do as little as you want!

Wow. My idea of heaven! Sounds perfect - enjoy.

I'm so jealous

That sounds like an absolutely fantastic holiday.

Enjoy, relax, do whatever you want

You are doing something... you are recovering from the stresses of your usual routine by relaxing and recharging your mind and body. Your dh is just jealous so ignore. If necessary exaggerate the length of your walk.

Sounds like you're living the dream to me. I can't think of anything nicer than a week by the sea with nothing to do!

Tell your dh to mind his own business and let you get on with enjoying yourself. Everyone has different ideas when it comes to holidays and you should carry on doing what you want😊