How often do you speak to your siblings?

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I don’t live near my family so I only see them when I go down and visit, my brother has never been to my town and visited me in the almost 10 years we’ve lived here. He might call me on my birthday but we don’t do cards and we will meet up with him once or twice a year if he’s free when we’re in the area visiting parents.
I feel like we’re strangers but when we do meet up we feel as close as ever.
part of me thinks I should make more effort but then I remember he’s never come to see me and has recently suggested we stop sending money to each others children as it’s just a card each way with the same amount in so now we just buy the little ones something and say it’s from each other.
Does this relationship seem dead? I would like to be close to him.

Less than once a year. Saw my sibling recently for the first time in probably 15 years, and that's only because we had a parent die. We were never close as kids, nothing in common and live hundreds of miles apart. I don't feel any need to have a relationship.

I have a large family. One of my sisters and brothers I see every other week or so.
The other 3 live far away and despite one living with me for 3 years, hasn't bothered with me so I'm not bothered with them.
One of my sisters and I have very different morals and life values so that suits me just fine.

Hi op dont see mine that often. We all work. We family thing in May will see siblings then. Think life more busy now my sis works mornings and I do school bus. Its sad when I see close families but dont like live on top of each other either.

Every day. I probably see her 3 or 4 times a week.

By WhatsApp a couple of times a week, just brief stuff. By phone, every few months - he rarely answers his phone, he's hopeless with it. I see him about 5 times a year and we have a great time.

Phone calls
Brother daily. Sometimes 2 - 3 times a day
Sister once a week
Daily contact via a what's app group chat for all 3 of us

speak about twice a year. See every five years.

he lives in New Zealand and I live in the U.K.

I don’t think the relationship is dead and I don’t think it’s that unusual to only see a sibling a couple of times a year. But I think the key point is that you would like to be closer to him. Maybe invite him over or share photos on WhatsApp more, whatever works for you.

I think men are often more crap at reaching out and maybe he’s not great at making the effort, but if you would like to shift things, it’s likely you can.

FWIW I live relatively close to my brother and see him once or twice a month.

If say we speak on the phone quarterly. Meet up and hang out for a couple of days just us maybe two or three times a year. See at family events another three of four times a year.
We get on great but don't need loads of chat.

My siblings live in different countries so haven't seen them for 9 years now. Though we do video calls every week.

3 siblings, speak to one every day, other one varies from everyday to every few days, and the last one, don’t speak to much, special occasions or when we visit parents at same time. Don’t see any of them regularly due to distance.

We see each other pretty regularly, every few weeks as a minimum. There's five of us, plus spouses/childen. We all live within about 20mins of my parents and my mum does a sunday roast nearly every weekend which usually at least a few if not all of us attend. We all buy each other and each other's children at christmas, occasionally holiday together in different groups.

we message a few times a day either on the group with us and my mum or separately. We speak on the phone a couple of times a week and see each other a couple of times a month.

One every week or so on what's app.
One about every couple of years just to say hello.
Two once every 25 years or so. Maybe longer.

Oh, the one I speak to regulary we also have holidays together and meet up regularly even though we live six hours apart.

There's 4 of us. I Whatsapp my sister I'd say daily. One sibling I'd say a few times a month and then the other maybe once a month. We all see each other maybe 2/3 times a year although now 3 out of 4 have chldren we are making an effort to meet up more often. It's tough - I think we'd like to see each other more often if we could.

We have a WhatsApp group; we see each other about three times a year with families. Then, there are pairs of us that see each other a couple more times. Barely ever phone.

Sister, there's more of an age gap than my brother but we get along well. We text a couple of times a week/fortnight and since she lives away we try and visit a few times a year.

Brother, I've just stopped contact. He's always been a pain but he's going down a bad path and has started taking advantage. Unfortunately it could be a long time before we speak again.

One half Brother (same mother) - not spoken to for about 5 years - I have no interest in a relationship
One step sister - not spoken to her for about 20 years - she was never in my life growing up
One half sister (same father) - not spoken to for about 5 years and again, no interest in a relationship. I didnt know that I had a half sister until we discovered each other on Ancestry.com. Neither of us knew our father

I was brought up with my half brother and we had no knowledge that we had different fathers until in our 30's but I never wanted him in my life anyway.
I should have been an only child :)

Elder sibling once a week messaging back and forth or phone call.
Younger siblings - was once a week. Since I've been in cancer treatment (4 months) they've not messaged me and I feel hurt and thinking fuck it.

Sister probably over text every week or two, brother less often even though he lives locally. Might bump into him in the pub as well but we don’t have much in common tbh.

I speak to my sister every week and my brother every fortnight. But I wouldn’t say we’re all like mega close, tight knit type siblings, we don’t really hug or say love you type thing but I would say I’m fairly close with them.

DH’s sister on the other hand, despite living 10 mins away, they barely talk or see each other. Her DH is a narcissist though so it has justification!

Brother, been no contact for 10+ years so never. Sister 1 probably see every few weeks to a month. Text on the family WhatsApp most days or at least regularly. Sister 2 I see less off, probably every couple of months, but she’s quite a bit younger than me and living her best life travelling so fair play. Ditto the family WhatsApp.

I haven’t physically seen my sister in 5 years. We both live in different countries and although we both visit our parents every year, we don’t go home at the same time of year.

However, I pebble my sister almost daily with memes, text or speak to her most weeks. DH talks to his sisters once or twice a year and rarely texts them. They all get on very well but time zones and busy lives means none of them make it a priority to speak with each other.

On the group chat (siblings and our mum) every day and see them probably every couple of weeks once it’s averaged out. I’m very close to them all.