How often do you speak to your siblings?

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I don’t live near my family so I only see them when I go down and visit, my brother has never been to my town and visited me in the almost 10 years we’ve lived here. He might call me on my birthday but we don’t do cards and we will meet up with him once or twice a year if he’s free when we’re in the area visiting parents.
I feel like we’re strangers but when we do meet up we feel as close as ever.
part of me thinks I should make more effort but then I remember he’s never come to see me and has recently suggested we stop sending money to each others children as it’s just a card each way with the same amount in so now we just buy the little ones something and say it’s from each other.
Does this relationship seem dead? I would like to be close to him.

Messages daily. Mainly cat memes

She lives on the same street as me and our parents so maybe once a week. We often drive past one another and wave. Sometimes she is hanging out at my mums when I pop in and we chat. We all meet up for everyone's birthday, Xmas etc.. It's lovely. We used to live 180miles apart and we used to meet up a few times a year to hang out.

Haven't got any .

I see my brother at family social events, a birthday text etc.
I speak to Dsis1 a few times a week.
Dsis2 everyday, she needs to talk on the phone while driving so she'll ring on her way to and from work.
I see both sisters once a week.
3rd Dsis lives abroad.
We chat monthly.

Never. I grew up in a highly dysfunctional family.

We message every day (sisters 2 years apart). We are very close.
DH hasn't seen or spoken to his sister for over 20 years now. No massive fall out, just absolutely nothing in common.

We message each other daily usually, sometimes my sister will call me in the morning on her days off work and we'll be on the phone for about 4 or 5 hours 😅, we have grown closer as adults I'd say, we message each other if something funny happens or we are just fed up,any excuse really, the longest we've gone without speaking is probably a week purely because one of us has been too busy to chat much.

I have 5 siblings. We don’t really communicate at all anymore. We live geographically far away from each other too. On the infrequent occasions we do meet up there’s usually some kind of argument 🙄

Gosh l see one about 5 times a week.
The other 2 once a month.
Sadly one passed a year ago who l miss with all my heart.
There were 5 of us sisters..brought up together in a loving household..first born in 1952.. last born in 1963.
A good few of my friends are the same with their siblings..
I thought might be an age thing.. but my kids are the same and my friends kids .

I have one sister.... message numerous times every day. Speak most days. See each other at least once a week often more.

Every day on WhatsApp. About every month/ six weeks in real life. And phone calls in between. We live 100s of miles apart and I feel as close to her as ever. She’s my number 1 port of call for advice, support, laughs.

A few WhatsApp’s a month.

Could be twice in a year could be once in 5 years.

DB lives 7hrs away. We see each other a couple of times a year, phone calls on birthdays and at Christmas but text frequently. My DM speaks to him weekly.

About once every two months. We get along perfectly well, no fallouts or anything. When we were younger we saw each other more regularly, but it feels like he's joined his wife's family and does a great deal more with their side.

I wasn’t close to my sister growing up due to age gap of 8 years. As adults when we lived in the same town I would see her 2/3 times a month and talk on the phone maybe once a week. When she moved six hours away she tends to visit 3 times a year and stays with me (also sees friends and family while here) we talk every 1-2 weeks on the phone and message a few times a week. I’ve not visited her for the first few years due to my sons health issue , then Covid and then my health.

This thread is so reassuring. My family is dysfunctional so I have no idea how often siblings should speak. I nag DH to contact his siblings just because I 'think' we should have family but maybe not...

My younger sister (eleven months younger) is my best friend and lives nearby. We see each other most days. Older sister (two year older) lives further away and we speak every few days. Older brother (one year older) lives further away but we speak regularly but his wife is a very good friend as well as a sister in law so we speak every few days.

My younger sister and I are basically the same person so we get on very well and are more like twins.

I had 4 siblings, now down to 3. Pre Covid, we would meet up maybe 2 or 3 times a year. In Covid, DM who was a widow, was in a care home, so we started a weekly facetime call with the four of us, and any necessary or nephews who want to join in, every Sunday morning. We have kept this going, we don't all make every call, but it has brought us all closer, and the chat has gone from discussing DMs care to just the general crap all close siblings witter on about. None of us live in the same town, we have 1 in Lancs. One in Bristol, 1 in Lincs and one in France. I would recommend setting up similar. I still phone the brother I am nearest to. But we were all just getting on with our own lives. And now both parents have passed we have less reason to head to our home town, for gatherings, so it works well.

I have two sisters and a brother and we have a sibling WhatsApp group which we use quite a lot to arrange family events, talk about football, share news about our children etc. I guess we message every week or so on average. One sister lives in Canada and it helps her feel connected to her family especially since my mum died last year. She comes over for a visit every Christmas and I’m planning on visiting her this summer.

My younger sister lives only a couple of miles away and we are very close, we phone each other regularly for a chat and meet up often as she helps me get to regular hospital appointments and I help her look after her children during the school holidays - less often now as they are getting older!

I was at a family event at the weekend when I saw my sister and brother and I’m popping round to see my sister later today to help her with decorating a cake for her sons 18th birthday.

I lived away from our home town for quite a number of years but moved back here to be closer to my family once my children left home - best decision I made!

2 siblings - one lives 90 min drive away, the other 3 hr drive. We usually meet up once a year. Mixture of near here, near there or half way at a pub/restaurant. We don't very often speak on the phone now, tends to be messaging. In the case of siblings 2, I mostly communicate with his wife as I get a much quicker response!