If you work full time, would you do your 17/18 year old's washing and ironing?

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As the title says really, do you?

Daughter is 17 (18 in September).

She is doing her A-Levels and has a part time job.

She spends the rest of her time with friends or on her phone (hours and hours in her room on her phone, like so many kids this age I guess).

I work full time.

I find myself resentful standing here for hours doing her ironing whilst she is chilling in her bedroom..

I don't mind washing as it all gets chucked in, but the ironing grates on me

Do you do your almost adult child's ironing?

YABU - of course I do
YANBU - no, I don't!

Same situation.
Household tasks are divided up between the three of us, roughly equally.

All washing gets combined to do full loads - separating coloured from whites. And my husband does all the ironing as it is easier to do it all at once rather than than separating it out by person.

Son does other tasks - dog walking, mopping floors, cleaning bathrooms etc…

Everyone one over 14 should take an active part in running the household. But not necessarily just doing their own bit - so if son is on floors he does all the floors not just his room.

Washing from basket yes
Anyone who wants clothes ironed does it themselves

Always did the washing because a) economy and b) I don't mind doing it

All three ironed from the age of 13 or their dad did it if they asked nicely! (and he still does ours)

I do both hers and my eldest dd's (22) washing. I iron dd2's uniform once a week, but that's the only thing that gets ironed.

We iron almost nothing in this house, but if dd16 wants something ironing for an occasion, I'll happily do it for her. However, she doesn't tend to (and if I had time I'd be showing her how to do it anyway).

She's been doing 95% of her own laundry since she was 12, as has dd1. It's not a hard and fast rule (we all happily stick a load on for someone else if it's urgent or if they're ultra busy). But in general, I work FT too, she has a Saturday job and college but she has a load more free time than I do. She cooks a lot too. I'm not her maid and she doesn't expect me to be apart from cleaning which she does fuck all of.

I do mine x

I still do all the washing and ironing for my two DC, as I’m doing it anyway. I am happy to do it for them as they are currently approaching GCSEs and A Levels and along with their part time jobs have less down time than I do. However, if I asked them to do either of those things then they would know how and do have other things they are responsible for.

I do my 17 years old washing but he irons his own clothes. I wouldn’t want half wash loads on several times a day so I just do all the washing.

when I was a teen I ironed my own school uniform from yr 7.

Not to mention households that have a cleaner, so their DC go to school and come back to a clean house with no particular idea about what is involved in achieving that.

DD is frustrated that, of her uni flat of 8 students, there's only 3 of them that will routinely think to wipe up cooking spills after they happen (i.e. something that takes 30 seconds). Cleaning up after yourself is something she had drummed into her from an early age and she'll now do it without thinking.

YANBU. She should be doing her fair share of household tasks, relative to the amount of free time each of you has.

I didn’t make my DD do much housework, because I worked part time from home whereas she had a long school bus journey and spent a lot of her time at home doing homework or other IMO more worthwhile things than chores. And she didn’t want much ironed, I might have balked at that!