I have Facebook and Instagram. My husband has always maintained that he "doesn't do social media".
Last night, before bed, i was scrolling Facebook and under the annoying 'friends you might know' bit came my husband's name. No profile pic, but his name (which is very unusual, so i realised that probability means it's actually him and not someone with the same name). I looked at the profile and all the info is bare (or hidden) such as about info and friends list.
Anyway, I straight away said "since when do you have a Facebook profile?" He replied "I've always had a Facebook profile" as if I know this. I replied that he didnt to my knowledge, and he repeated that he's always had one, in a way to suggest it was obvious and i already knew about it. I absolutely did not know and he is outright lying here because he's previously asked to use my account to look for something on marketplace, probably about a year ago.
Anyway, at that moment our youngest walked in and had been sick all over herself, so I had to sort that out. He was doing a good imitation of being asleep when I came back in, and left for work this morning before I'd woken and could discuss further.
So I've been stewing all day on this and the more I stew, the more suspicious I am. My feeling is that this is shady as f*ck. To essentially have a secret Facebook account that your wife does not know about, and then lie when confronted. He is not at all tech savvy and doesnt know about meta data harvesting or algorithms, so would not have known that I'd be alerted to his presence on Facebook as a friend suggestion.
I will discuss it with him tonight, and my feeling is that this shady behaviour. I've no problem him having social media if he wants it, but it needs to be to conduct the kind of activity that you'd hope of a married person.
Just to caveat this, that I did previously knew he signed up to Facebook 6 years ago. This was following an affair he had, and the sole reason he signed up was so he could search for pictures of the other woman after their affair had ended. He told me after I discovered this that he had deleted Facebook. Even if he never did, he's had a new phone since then so would've had to go through the process of re-logging in or signing back up. So, further proof of shady, right?
I'm assuming the fact I've only just seen him as a friend suggestion means he's either only just re-joined recently, or he's been rejoined a while but searched for my profile for some reason? Does that sound logical?
Anyway, looking for opinions on whether this is shady or could be innocent and how I proceed. Obviously, if it transpires he's cheated again, then I'll absolutely LTB. But obviously because he has form, perhaps I'm being paranoid.
Thanks.